Whose youth is not confused and whose workplace is not confused? Facing the problems in the workplace, how to face negative and unhealthy emotions?

Having been hr for so long, I have met many pe

Whose youth is not confused and whose workplace is not confused? Facing the problems in the workplace, how to face negative and unhealthy emotions?

Having been hr for so long, I have met many people who are confused on the road of youth growth. There are both college students who are at a loss when they first enter the society, and friends who want to change careers after working in the workplace for less than five years but don't know how to choose.

Four years ago, I met a very special fresh graduate. Our company is looking for an overseas sales position. One morning, when I opened the company's recruitment information, I found that the whole inbox was screened by a name called "Liu Yu's only job resume". After I read it, I thought, it must be some "nasty job seekers" who are in Haitou again. In fact, hr people have always hated this kind of applicants who repeatedly submit resumes aimlessly. But his title attracted me to click in.

That's a very simple resume. As an English major, I don't have a job-hunting goal that makes my eyes shine, practical experience that makes my heart beat, and even less skills that make my heart beat. So I turned it off right away.

The next day, I received a phone call. On the other end of the phone, it was a boy. He said his name was Liu Yu, and he read his resume yesterday. I immediately thought of him.

He said that he is outside our company now, hoping to have a chance to meet. I didn't ask him for an interview, he came to me himself. He is sincere and keeps saying that he will be given a chance. I seem a little touched by him, and I just finished what I was doing, so I told the security guard to let him in.

He saw me when he came in and said he would give him a chance.

I asked him what position you wanted to apply for. I don't know what I want to do, but I think I can do a good job in sales,' he said. I obey the arrangement of the company, just give me a chance.

I asked him, aren't you afraid to choose a job at will and let yourself take a detour?

He paused and said, I'm more afraid of no way out than taking a detour!

Hearing this, my heart trembled a little!

For such a special interviewer, I spent an hour, 30 minutes more than usual. I try to find that he is more in line with the company's positioning. But in the end, I found that Liu Yu was really not suitable for the position we wanted, but I thought he was suitable for the sales position of a company of my friend. So later, I recommended him to my friend, and later, he also successfully joined the job.

Half a year later, my friend told me that Liu Yu had left. He went to an English training company to do sales. Two years later, Liu Yu sent me an email telling me that he is now an English teacher. This is the result of his constant attempts. At present, he is very happy and good at it!

It turns out that many people have to take some detours.

We have read many books, and many people will tell us that your first job after graduation will determine the development direction of your life. However, for many college students, they don't know what they can do or what career suits them. The biggest feeling at that time was that there was no way out. When you have no choice, try to take a detour, which is often your best way out!

Even if we know what career is suitable for us from the consultation of professional career planners, we still can't 100% tell ourselves that this career is suitable for us. Because before you practice, everything just floats in the air.

So we have to experience it! Experience will lead to setbacks. Whose youth does not take detours? Only inexperienced people won't take detours!

It's not terrible to take a detour, it will make you grow faster.

Setbacks and detours are not terrible. The terrible thing is, to be afraid of detours, to be afraid of detours, is to refuse success. The detour is deep. There will be no great success without detours.

Shi Yuzhu took many detours in the process of starting a business. From the eighth billionaire in the country when starting a business, he has fallen into a loser with debts of more than 2 billion. 1997 has returned to the rivers and lakes. The health care products business he founded became the first in the industry within a few years, and investment banking stocks also made a fortune for it. In 2004, IT returned to the IT industry, listed on NYSE in three years, and successfully raised $10.44 million, making Giant Network a leading enterprise in China. In a later interview, Shi Yuzhu said that the greatest wealth in his life was the detours he had taken in the process of starting a business, which let him know how to run his own business more smoothly. Maybe without that failure, there would be no giant network now.

Jordan's career has also gone through detours. After 1993 won the NBA championship, Jordan, who already had three championship rings, began to feel that his basketball career had become dull. "There is nothing to challenge." Jordan's enthusiasm for basketball began to wane. It happened that his father died unexpectedly that year. Before his father died, he had hoped that Jordan would become a baseball player. His father's departure promoted Jordan's idea of what he wanted to do. His choice was to retire with a sigh, and six months later, he began his baseball career.

"Every day, he is the first to arrive at the stadium and the last to leave." His coach said. Jordan will go to the playground at 6 o'clock every morning to practice by himself and do some training before his teammates come. Then practice pulling back a 34 ounce (0.96 kg) bat 300 to 400 times before hitting the ball. At the end of a day's training, Jordan would say to his batting coach, "Can we practice a little longer?" I think I started. "

Unfortunately, his efforts did not make him the best baseball player. 1on April 8, 994, Jordan participated in the professional baseball game for the first time. But after one season, in the 127 games he participated in, the success rate was only 20.2%; 30 steals, 1 14 strikes out. Of the 436 hits, only three were home runs and 50 were valid hits. The performance lingers on the frustration bottom line of baseball legend "Mendoto Line".

The disappointment on the baseball field rekindled Jordan's enthusiasm for basketball. Later, as everyone knows, he won three NBA championship rings.

Later, Jordan said in an interview that the curve of his career once made him deeply re-recognize his basketball talent on the baseball field, and also made him understand failure more and cherish success more.

Every detour will not be in vain, as long as you have been on the way forward!

What is more terrible than taking a detour is that you stopped trying.

I have a friend, n, who has worked for 6 years this year. He suddenly wanted to change careers. For six years, he has always felt that this job is not suitable for him, but he has never made up his mind to change it. Probably because I hate changing the status quo, I feel very comfortable at present and don't want to take too much risk. Because his current job is not what he likes, he didn't use this time to improve himself and build his core competitiveness.

Until this year, his old company will go bankrupt. He will lose his job, so he must change. But on the one hand, he is old, on the other hand, his own ability has not been upgraded to the corresponding level, so he has submitted a lot of resumes and no company has asked him for an interview.

In fact, friend n knew from the beginning that he had taken a detour-his previous job was not suitable for him. But he didn't take action to change, but stopped trying, so he kept going along the detour.

When you take a long detour, this road becomes a one-way street in your life. The farther you go, the harder it is for you to turn back. So sometimes it's not terrible to take a detour. The key is to learn "taste". Once you find yourself taking a detour, you should learn to find a two-way street in your own life, so as to achieve overtaking in the corner.

How do you find yourself taking a detour?

Many times, many of us have taken a detour, but we don't know that we have taken a detour, which is more dangerous than knowing that we have taken a detour but not changing it. So I sorted out some standards for detours, hoping to remind everyone.

First, when your pay and return are inconsistent for a long time.

? In a job, you may work hard, but you will never get the reward you want, whether it is material or spiritual. When a person's pay and return are inconsistent for a long time, either you don't work hard enough or there is something wrong with the path you choose.

If you are obviously dissatisfied with the return you want, you have taken a detour.

? Second, when you are faced with a job and you feel very tired.

Work that conforms to your inner values will make you full of passion, and you will not get tired of work that conforms to your interests. If your work is tied to your mission in life, you won't feel bored. Then how can we feel that our work does not conform to our values, interests and mission? We can judge it in a very simple way.

Think back, when the alarm clock rings in the morning, what is your first thought when you open your eyes? Are you thinking about going back to work? Are you afraid to go to work? Is it annoying to think of intangible trifles after returning to the company? With this in mind, you immediately want to sleep for a while. I am very excited as soon as I open my eyes. You will know what to do today in no time. Today is a new day for you because it means you can have another meaningful day. Thinking of this, you immediately jumped up excitedly, brushed your teeth and washed your face, and went to work. If your idea is the first, you may be taking a detour!

? Third, when you go all out but can't finish the work well.

The job of career development is that you can do your job well. Therefore, choosing a career according to your own expertise will make it easier for you to succeed in your career. So ability is the foundation of career development. If you go all out and still can't do your job well, it means that you may not have the talent for this profession. Even if you stay in this profession for a long time, you can't do what others can easily do.

For example, I have a friend who has been practicing guitar for three years, but he has no talent for music, so no matter how hard I try, I can't achieve Jay Chou's achievement. He once wanted to make music his life's ideal, but when you are not good at it, you can't do it better than others. So it is difficult to achieve greater success.

So he immediately knew that he had taken a detour, and he soon changed careers. At one time, he also felt that he was not suitable for the development of music, but he was unwilling to try. When he tried, he finally realized that he was really not suitable. But he didn't stay away from music because he became a music teacher.

What we must know about detours.

Many things, we have not experienced, we will not be satisfied! Because no matter how big the cake others draw for you, or how thrilling the workplace they describe, you won't know until you have experienced it. However, life doesn't allow you to take detours often. Therefore, regarding detours, you must do the following, so that detours will not become a factor that hinders your career development.

First, shorten the trial and error time.

If you have embarked on the wrong path, it doesn't matter. The key is whether you are still moving in the wrong direction. So we should learn to judge whether we have taken a detour and correct it quickly. What is the most important ability in 2 1 century? It is the ability to cope with change. Strong people have a strong ability to correct life mistakes. They can quickly grasp what they want in the ever-changing information environment and boldly give up the choices that look good but are not suitable for them, thus shortening the trial and error time. Many people think that they may not be able to find a career that suits them all their lives. But you really can't find it? You may never look for it seriously, but stay in the wrong direction for a long time.

Second,? Reduce the number of trial and error.

The sooner you find a career position that suits you, the sooner you can succeed. However, for many people, it is not so lucky. You may have changed jobs three times a year, so frequent trial and error is not good for your future development. So we can try and make mistakes, but before starting any career, we must do a good job analysis and career planning, and don't blindly change careers.

Third, let every detour leave a fortune for you to grow.

Many people have taken many detours, but they have never summed up any lessons, so they are always taking detours. Shi Yuzhu said, "As people who have failed before, or at least experienced failure, we always have to learn something from them. People learn nothing when they are successful. They can't settle down when they are prosperous and successful in their careers. What they summed up was naturally empty. Only when it fails, the lessons learned are profound and true. "

How to make detours become the wealth of our growth is a problem that everyone needs to think about. No experience will be wasted. When they have gone through a detour, they can know more clearly what they like and want, so that their next choice is more firm and easier to succeed!

Detours are the best time for you to add value!

Everyone will stay away from the goal for a while, but no matter how far away from it, as long as you never give up, you will be on the right path one day. Whose youth does not take detours, who has not wandered at the crossroads of life, lost and despaired? However, no matter how tortuous the road is, please have hope. "Qian Fan will pass by the sunken ship and Wan Muchun will be in front of the sick tree" because there is no distant tomorrow in this world. What we need to do is to be grateful, smile, stand up and live confidently.

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