How to be a good husband (how to cultivate a good husband)

Smart women know that there is never a natural perfect husband in this world.

It is said that a good woman is a school for men, so how should a woman cultivate an ordinary boyfriend into an excellent husband?

in the study of learning mode and learning effect, there is a "721 rule", which means that 7% of learning effect comes from work practice, 2% from communication with others and 1% from formal training.

Similarly, 7% of the training of husbands requires women to constantly explore and sum up their experience in the practice of life.

In Fortress Besieged, Qian Zhongshu said: A woman is as clever as a woman, as light and lively as her actions. Compared with this kind of cleverness, learning is nothing more than depositing dross. A really smart woman doesn't have to work hard to become a talented woman, but she is only clever at being lazy ...

This kind of "laziness" mentioned by Qian Lao is actually the supreme "inaction", which uses the gentlest key to open a man's seemingly strong but actually fragile heart. 1

Arouse his sense of crisis

Men are naturally competitive animals.

Darwin has long said in the Origin of Species that natural selection leads to survival of the fittest.

Our parents also taught us that girls should never take the initiative in a love relationship.

If a man can win in a competition, it can better reflect his sense of value as a man.

Only when there is competition and it is not easy to get it will a man cherish you more, otherwise he will think that what he gets is not the rarest.

After graduating from college, I was assigned to Shenzhen. Within half a year, there were many suitors, but my boyfriend's husband was of course very unhappy, so I told him the truth.

I asked him three questions:

If you are the only one who likes your girlfriend, does it mean that her condition is poor?

a girl, who has just arrived in a strange city, only knows one man and marries him. Is it sloppy?

my husband nodded at these two questions. After getting two affirmations, I asked the third question:

In this case, can I seriously choose one of these boys to marry him?

well-founded, clear logic, and my husband can't refuse. In this way, I successfully triggered my husband's sense of crisis and made him feel the fun of competition.

Another advantage of doing this is to let my husband know more about my magnanimity and cultivate his mentality of not being jealous easily, because that would be too rude.

Ceng Shiqiang, a management expert, said in Revelation from Hu Xueyan that the success or failure of commercial competition ultimately depends on the cultivation of the operators themselves.

The success or failure of marriage depends on the cultivation of both men and women. A wise woman should not only give a man the motivation to fight, but also give him the courage to persist. 2

Arouse his desire for protection

Sociologist Davis said: Giving up one's responsibility to society means giving up one's better chance of survival in this society.

A sense of responsibility allows us to have a clearer goal and restrain our actions.

A man's desire to protect women is actually based on a strong sense of family responsibility.

marriage means responsibility. A man's sense of responsibility is a responsibility to his family, his wife and children, and this sense of responsibility needs a woman's gentleness to wake up.

Cicero, the father of Latin prose in ancient Rome, said that it is difficult to tell how much people's thoughts can be comforted by friendly manners and gentle words.

A woman with high emotional intelligence awakens a man's desire for protection with tenderness, and stimulates the strength of male competition.

The gentler a woman is, the stronger a man is; The more tender a woman is like water, the more men can gallop on the battlefield.

Some women don't understand the power of gentleness. They like to compete with their husbands, and when they quarrel, they have to argue with others, and unconsciously turn their marriage relationship into a competitive relationship. As everyone knows, strong women are particularly easy to scare away excellent men.

There are many such strong women around me. Outsiders think that they are sacrificing their families for their careers, but in fact they are too "women" to part ways with men.

A woman's gentleness is not blindly showing weakness, but more reflected in being soft.

weakness without a position is weakness, and tolerance for men's improper words and deeds is connivance, which is not true gentleness.

Recently, Dani, the host, made several slips of the tongue, while Zhou Yiwei assumed an irrelevant attitude, not only failing to defend his wife, but also bluntly saying that he didn't need crisis public relations.

This is related to Dani's unprincipled concession to Zhou Yiwei's improper words and deeds many times before. This tolerance is not gentleness, but gives up the basic dignity of women in marriage, and it also affects the career.

women should persist in gentleness and unhurriedly.

Smart women often use a gentle and tenacious force to influence men like spring rain, so that they can run their marriage and assume family responsibilities in the right track.

In Empresses in the Palace, the emperor saw the delicate and touching Zhen Xuan in Ling Yunfeng, which aroused his long-dormant compassion and decided to let her go back to the palace.

Before that, Zhen Xuan was too strong to bow to the emperor, and because of the frame-up of the Queen and Hua Fei, he gradually fell out of favor.

Maybe her weakness is caused by the situation, but it is very effective anyway.

Be a gentle and moderate woman, and use your fingers to solve a man's worries. In the process of protecting you, he will become more responsible and worthy of cherishing. 3

Enhance his enterprising spirit

Yuan Weimin, a former coach of the national women's volleyball team, said that if you really want to make something famous in your career, the first thing is to have a strong enterprising spirit, and the superhuman strength and amazing fascination generated under the control of this enterprising spirit.

In fact, men's enterprising spirit needs constant stimulation from women.

Some people say that women who let men work hard are vain. Vanity is not a shortcoming, but an important factor to promote men to make progress.

A responsible man should have a strong enterprising spirit, constantly improve his ability to earn money, so that women don't worry about daily necessities, and work is just a mentality of "earning money to buy flowers and clothes".

imagine that the happier a woman lives and the younger she is, will it set off a man's success?

A smart woman knows how to help a man's career step by step.

A smart woman will constantly encourage men to struggle in their careers, and will willingly contribute to their careers and do a good job in advising and supporting them.

Xiao Su, a female colleague, has a husband who is an ordinary employee. Once the company had an opportunity to compete for a senior project manager, she encouraged her husband to try, helped him find information on the Internet, and found her own relatives who are bosses to guide her husband.

Her husband won the competition as a dark horse and became the person in charge of a big project.

Xiao Su bought some management books for her husband, and constantly urged him to improve his management level.

A Fortune 5 company recruited a project director, and Xiao Su encouraged her husband to apply. Her husband thinks that his income is good and he doesn't want to go.

Xiao Su said that she believed that he would have greater development. Her husband accepted the suggestion and was accepted, and now he is doing well.

A smart woman will stick to her efforts in her career and go hand in hand with men.

Women want men to be more enterprising. First, they must be self-reliant and self-reliant, so that they can exude confidence and charm.

Shu Ting said very well in To the Oak Tree that a woman is not like a climbing campbell, but "must be a kapok near you, standing with you as the image of a tree".

This kind of husband and wife, like comrades fighting side by side, have the same goal and the same efforts, and will surely be overwhelming and run the family better.

In Empresses in the Palace, the emperor likes Zhen Xuan not because of her good family background and beautiful appearance, but because of her profound knowledge and broad vision.

They can often analyze and discuss state affairs together. Zhen Xuan gave him some hints through articles or jokes, not direct exhortation, which made the emperor agree with her from the bottom of his heart and played the role of a helpful wife.

A smart woman will constantly affirm a man's sense of achievement.

A man's heart is like a child and needs constant recognition.

A woman must be good at discovering the advantages of a man, praising, praising and encouraging him, and constantly strengthening his achievements, so that he can have more courage and confidence to win the country for a beautiful woman.

once a man has developed such a strong sense of self-confidence and pursuit of beauty, he can't leave the woman who encouraged him at all, and he will feel more and more proud.

Taiwan Province writer Roland said that happiness is a virtue, because it not only shows one's appreciation and praise of the world, but also brings warmth and lightness to people around him.

When a man who really loves you sees that you have brought you such a happy smile because of his giving and his intentions, this pride will further strengthen his willingness to pay for you.

In "Parents' Love" starring Mei Ting and Guo Tao, when Angie was old, she sighed at her portrait when she was young, saying, "I am so old and my eyes are still so clear, which shows that my life is happy and I have been taken care of and protected by you."

how happy Jiang defu should be to hear this sincere gratitude.

Marriage is an interesting book. Only people with keen eyes and rich emotions can write more wonderful words and lines.