At present, I earn 3 thousand yuan a month in Shenzhen, and my family has been asking me to take the civil service exam. How to choose?

It is the choice of many college students to take the civil service exam after graduation, but many of them don't want to take the exam themselves, and they are forced to take the exam by their parents, not only graduates, but also some young people who have worked for many years will be forced to take the exam by their parents, even at the expense of crying and making trouble, as if it were a big unfilial act not to take the civil service exam.

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Xiao Shengnan is a graduate of Zhejiang University, which is one of the top 985 universities in China. The graduates of Zhejiang University have a high degree of social recognition, so they don't have to worry about graduation. After graduating from Zhejiang University in 212, she didn't think about going back to her hometown, a small city on the 18th line. She has been developing in Shenzhen, and now she has been working for almost 6 years, because she is in the Internet industry.

So Xiao Shengnan's salary is ok, which is about 5, every year. Basically, after eating, drinking and having fun, she can still have more than 2, left. Among her classmates in Zhejiang University, her income level is moderate. However, although she is very satisfied with her life and work, her parents in her hometown have been wanting her to go home since she graduated from Zhejiang University. After all, she is such a daughter. Although the family has been helping her with blind dates in recent years, the feelings are still unsettled. When my mother called her a few days ago, she said, "Neighbors say that her daughter is capable. She could have worked in her hometown and been a civil servant with a monthly salary of 4, yuan. But it's a pity that she is so old. Who dares to marry when she comes back?" And you can't afford to buy a house in Shenzhen! At last, my mother almost shouted to her, "When are you going to come back?"

After hanging up her mother's phone, Xiao Shengnan was also very miserable. After graduating from Zhejiang University, if she could really find an iron rice bowl for a civil servant when she returned to her hometown, she would marry well, but that was not the life she wanted. But at present, she is in Shenzhen. She wants a boyfriend without a boyfriend, a house without a house, a standard older woman, and her parents are so old. Should she really go home?

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Pingping went to work in a private enterprise after graduation. In the fifth year, her parents began to frequently urge Pingping to go home to take the civil service examination, hoping that she could return to her hometown to work. Even if she refused and reasoned with her parents, her parents were persistent and stubborn. Whenever there was a recruitment announcement, her mother would send her a WeChat to ask her to sign up, not only for civil servants, but also for recruitment of institutions and teachers.

During the Spring Festival this year, my parents brought up the old story again. They thought that Pingping's current job was busy and tired, and he ate irregularly. Besides, he had no friends and no boyfriend in that city, so why bother spending it there? It is better to go back to my hometown and live comfortably, but Pingping feels that he has finally got out of this small city and is still standing in a first-tier city. Why do you want to come back? Although there are no friends, there are many students in the same city, and so many years of personal connections are also in this city. There is nothing wrong with that.

Pingping had a big fight with his parents because of this incident. On the second day of the Lunar New Year, he returned to the city where he worked. After going to work, he got busy with his work, so he forgot that he had not reconciled with his parents, and only sent a WeChat occasionally. After more than a month, my cousin went to Pingping's city to do business, and the two had a meal together. My cousin said, Pingping, do you know why your parents want you to go home so much?

In a casual way, it's not the old idea, the old idea, that civil servants are good, dignified and stable, regardless of how much money they can earn, and they have to go back to small cities to live. But then my cousin's words made Ping Ping burst into tears.

Cousin said, why didn't you force you to take the civil service exam when you just graduated, but now you are allowed to take it? The year before last, Pingping's father went to the hospital once, but he almost didn't recover from a heart attack. When he fell ill, it was in the middle of the night. Pingping's mother was so scared that she ran out barefoot and knocked on the neighbor's door, or the neighbor's eldest brother helped to take him to the hospital. When my cousin arrived at the hospital, she found that Pingping's mother was still barefoot, and her feet were covered with stones and sand. Later, when he was finally rescued, Pingping's father told his cousin that if this time passed, he would never see Pingping's last side, so the parents began to have the idea of letting Pingping go back to his hometown to work.

I'm so scared. Why didn't anyone tell me such a big thing? Cousin said it was her parents' idea, and it was all right. Telling her would only worry her, and it wouldn't help her so far. Ping Ping said that she hadn't observed her parents carefully for several years. It turned out that mom and dad had white hair, many deep wrinkles on their faces, and they didn't walk as neatly as before. When I heard that my father had a heart attack, I suddenly felt that I had neglected so many things. After thinking twice, Pingping still felt that he couldn't bear to give up his current job, so he gritted his teeth and bought a house in the city where he worked. Fortunately, his parents retired and he could come and live for a few months if he had nothing to do.

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Linlin worked hard in a first-tier city by herself, and worked as an accountant in a listed company. She was very busy and tired, and often needed to work overtime, but her salary was not bad. She also took a civil service exam when she just graduated, but she didn't pass the exam, so she didn't stick to it. At the beginning, her parents didn't strongly ask Linlin to take the civil service exam, but in the past two years, she often told Linlin to let Linlin go back to her hometown to work.

Linlin really doesn't understand. She always thinks that her parents are quite open-minded and have no stale ideas. How can she be so persistent in the civil service examination? This year, her mother even threatened to die, crying and making trouble at every turn. Forced to die, Linlin went back to his hometown and decided to talk to his parents. It is conceivable that Linlin's mother began to cry again, but Linlin's father ended the farce.

In the evening, Linlin's father went to Linlin's room to talk to her, hoping that she would understand her mother. It turns out that my neighbor's daughter is one year older than Linlin, and she is also working alone in a big city. She met a boy, but she didn't know who he was. After dating, she found that her character was not correct and she wanted to break up. Unexpectedly, she was killed by the boy in the rental house, and it was a week before she was discovered by the landlord.

Linlin's mother witnessed the misery of the neighbor's daughter when she was transported back to her hometown. She was greatly stimulated and fell ill. When she got well, she began to worry about the safety of Linlin, for fear that something would happen to Linlin, and even if she didn't hear from Linlin for a long time, she would be daydreaming. Later, the old couple felt that this was no good. It was too unsafe for a girl to be outside, so she might as well go back to her hometown to work.

Linlin's father thinks that Linlin's current job is actually not developing very well. Everything in big companies is systematic, and it's not easy to climb up. If you work hard, you don't have time to run your own business. Isn't making money just to improve your quality of life? Now I make money, but I have no life. What about quality? I don't even have time to talk about boyfriends Linlin thought for a long time, and finally listened to his parents and went home to apply for the civil service.

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Why are parents so stubborn about civil servants?

? In the view of parents and secularism, civil servants are a decent profession

The imperial examination system began in the Sui and Tang Dynasties in ancient times, and it was not abolished until the end of the Qing Dynasty. People in China have been studying since ancient times in order to gain fame, and the idea of official standard is deeply rooted.

In parents' eyes, the national civil servant is the official position of the government and a symbol of rights. No matter which department you work as a trivial clerk, your parents still feel proud to say it. Civil servants not only give you a job, but also give the whole family an honor.

? The iron rice bowl, civil servants have satisfied everyone's fantasy of career < P > Parents want their children to have a smooth sailing, and they don't have to experience setbacks and failures in life. Civil servants who are "guaranteed by drought and flood" and have no worries about food and clothing are the best destination for their children's future careers.

I have a stable job, have weekends, and enjoy the treatment of civil servants. I don't have to worry about being fired or the company going bankrupt. After a few key years, the pension of civil servants will be higher than that of ordinary employees.

If you don't do this job, you have to work as a temporary worker in private enterprises, and you don't get overtime pay for working overtime all day. How can it be more cost-effective than civil servants?

? Parents make decisions for their children and don't want their children to take detours

Nowadays, many young people have encountered this problem. After working in a company for a short time, they feel that they don't like this company and are not suitable for this industry, and they plan to change jobs or even change careers. After graduation, I found a job that can particularly realize my own value. After two years, I felt too tired. My focus should be on my life, and I moved to several companies, hoping to find a place where I can support my old age.

Almost everyone's career path will not be smooth, and setbacks and twists and turns are normal. However, parents think that this kind of job-hopping is very unstable and there is no guarantee. After taking the civil service exam, they can do it once and for all, eliminating all kinds of tossing about changing jobs, and their children can get the greatest stability with the least effort, so they don't have to take those detours.

are you ready to give up your original job and plan to prepare for the civil service exam in the face of your parents' bitter words? Or communicate with them patiently and pursue the life you want?

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The "iron rice bowl" is not to eat in one place for life

but to eat everywhere

In fact, the salary level of many grass-roots civil servants is still at a medium level compared with that of white-collar workers. In the work, seniority is more serious, and promotion and salary increase are very slow. After working for a few years, people who used to be inferior to themselves have earned more than themselves, and civil servants will have a sense of psychological gap.

The most important thing is that after working in the civil service system for many years, the skills you exercise may be very single, and you can cope with it freely within the system. However, enterprises outside can't survive and have no competitiveness.

instead of getting narrower and narrower in the civil service system, it is better to think clearly when choosing, whether to be old in a post or to exercise skills is needed wherever you go.

Grass-roots civil servants are not as glamorous and comfortable as you think.

For many people, taking an examination of civil servants is nothing more than hoping to be stable and not tired. However, with the continuous growth of civil servants, grass-roots civil servants will be very difficult in the first few years.

No matter in the government, institutions, or companies, newcomers will always be bullied for several years. As a newcomer, you should take on more tasks and help old employees do more work to prove yourself. No job is undeserved. Since you choose a civil servant, you have to bear the corresponding demands of heavy tasks and accompanying leaders to inspect, otherwise you will only regret and waste your time.

Parents, elders and everyone want you to be a civil servant

Then do you have to do it?

We all know what our parents expect of us. We plan for our future life, and everything is for us.

But your life is not the life of your parents. People have to do something they like all their lives. I'm only in my twenties. Why do I always find a way out for my sixties?

young, you can do anything, even if you fail in the future, at least you have experienced it. Instead of choosing a mediocre life in their twenties, some people prefer to sprint in life.

As long as you are not over the prescribed age and standard, you can take the exam at any time as long as you are competent.

Some people choose civil servants, choose stability, live in the envy of others, and deal with all kinds of work every day, which is very satisfying.

Some people choose to travel around China with their guitars on their backs, and go out for their dreams. It sounds romantic but bitter, but they still have no hesitation for their dreams.

Civil servants can be tested. The key lies in whether this is your ideal life and whether you have become your ideal self.

how can I know if I am suitable for this job?

If you want to know what job you are suitable for, you must first look at your interests. The job you like may not be suitable, but you must like it.

Then, we can judge what we are good at. At this time, we can use some personality tests, such as: Type 9 personality test, career orientation test, character strengths test ...

Or, we can ask others what their personality is in others' eyes and what they are suitable for. Analyze your own advantages and disadvantages and find a suitable industry.

After you have a goal, you should try your best to get in touch with this industry, and talk with seniors and sisters in the industry to find internship opportunities.

Having said that, the most important thing is:

Practice hard and improve yourself.