An inventory of wedding customs in Beijing: modernity and tradition.

Beijing Marriage Custom and Beijing Modern Marriage Custom

First, the custom before the wedding

Although modern marriage is not as complicated as ancient times, there are still many customs handed down. Of course, the most important custom before marriage should be to send a bride price. Generally, before the wedding, the parents of both men and women make a match, make a blind date and get engaged, and then the man sends a bride price to the woman's house, indicating that she is designated as his wife. Bridal gifts are usually items with special significance. In modern times, if two people show their marriage after falling in love, the man usually sends a dowry to the woman's family, but the requirements for dowry vary from place to place. ? Hire? It is the last and most important link before the wedding. After receiving the dowry from the man, the woman will send the dowry from her mother's family to the man's house the afternoon before marriage. Now it is generally the man who prepares the new house, and the dowry of the woman is generally the furniture and appliances of the new house. Perhaps because Beijing is the capital, it is influenced by many foreign countries. In modern Beijing, the bride price is not like white wine in other regions, but foreign wine, which lasts forever.

The night before the wedding, the woman will find a lucky man (family is happy, parents are alive, son) to come to the new bed, and put peanuts, red dates, walnuts and other foods on the bedside, which means early birth. At the same time, on this night, the woman will choose an auspicious time to worship God, heaven and earth and pray for happiness, and will inform the man to worship at the same time.

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Second, the custom of the wedding day.

Of course, the first thing in the wedding is to welcome the bride! It is worth noting that in Beijing, on the morning of the wedding, the man's reception team will come to the woman's house to receive relatives, because the wedding custom in Beijing emphasizes that the wedding ceremony should be completed before 12:00. Nowadays, most wedding forms are Western-style.

Nowadays, picking up the bride is the climax of the whole wedding. What is the first level? Getting started? In order to let the beautiful woman return smoothly, the groom must go through a series of intellectual and physical tests, add love songs when necessary, but the most important thing is to open the door with a rich red envelope. In short, the sisters are satisfied before opening the door. This link is very interesting.

At the wedding, the groom will use flowers to marry the bride, and find red shoes for the bride in the reception room, help the bride put them on, and then take the bride away. When the bride goes out, the bridesmaid will accompany the bride and groom with a red umbrella, and she will also sprinkle rice to the chicken while walking to avoid pecking at the bride. Cars for wedding ceremonies must also bypass auspicious roads in urban areas, such as Jixiang Road and Huifu Road. After the wedding ceremony, it's time to go through the door, that is to say, after the bride went out from the woman's house to meet the elders of the man's house, she officially stepped into the man's house.

In Beijing, weddings are usually held in hotels at noon. Generally, western-style weddings are the mainstay, and firecrackers are not allowed in urban areas. Generally, it is replaced by stepping on balloons. This newcomer must pay attention. Don't try to be lively and foul. In fact, stepping on balloons is also very innovative and fun.

When fish is served after the wedding banquet, the bride and groom should put on traditional robes of dragon and phoenix to offer tea to the guests. Because the wedding custom in Beijing is noon, there is generally no need to hold a wedding, but now the wedding reception is very noisy, especially when many young friends are together, and drinking a glass of wine is a little troublesome. After the wedding reception, some will break up, but the best friends will stay, and the couple will go to the new house to visit or entertain with some friends.

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Marriage customs in Beijing III. The custom of returning home after marriage.

After the wedding night, the next morning, the newlyweds should worship God, Buddhism and Buddhism together, and meet their parents and other elders for naming and recognizing their size.

On the third day after the wedding, the bride and groom usually go back to their parents' home to say goodbye to their father, brothers, relatives and friends, which is what we often call a return visit. Back to the wine? . In ancient times, the bride's family usually sent someone to pick up the bride in a carriage early in the morning. Before the bride leaves, she kowtows to her in-laws, and then takes a carriage with the groom to meet her. After arriving at the bride's family, the newlyweds should salute the ancestral tablet of the Buddha in the family hall, and then kowtow to the woman's parents and elders. After watching the ceremony, they held a banquet to invite the newlyweds to drink. After dinner, the groom goes home alone, and the bride won't come back until evening. Modern times are certainly not as troublesome as ancient times. Generally speaking, the bride and groom will bring a gift home to meet their in-laws.

Traditional wedding customs in Beijing.

Step one:? Protect relatives?

The so-called pro-care is to introduce marriage. Parents choose spouses for their children, and relatives and friends usually protect relatives. Matchmaker? . The procedure is usually like this: through the introduction of the matchmaker, after the parents of both men and women agree, write a copy first? Portal post? Write down the name, age, place of origin, names of three generations of grandparents and grandchildren, official positions, etc. Both men and women, so that the matchmaker can pass them on to each other's parents. Then the man and the housewife visit the woman's house on the auspicious day of the zodiac, in fact, in order to find out all kinds of situations of the woman's house, such as the official position, property status of her family members, and the girl's integrity and appearance.

Step two:? Get married?

After mutual visits and visits, both parents have no objection. What's next? Get married? . Both men and women use a passbook called Shunhong Paper to write books? Birthday List the year, month, day and heavenly stems and earthly branches where both men and women were born on paper, and then please? Home of star life? Both men and women take the exam? Eight characters? Commonly known as Batch eight characters? This is the so-called? Get married? .

According to the old marriage system in China, astrologers are generally required to calculate that men and women belong to the same animal sign before they can get married, so as not to interfere with each other or hinder the family fortune after marriage. What does old Beijing have to do with it? Twelve genera are consistent? Statement:? Green rabbit and yellow dog have existed since ancient times; Red horse antelope has a long life; Dormouse and cattle thrive; Green cow and black pig are happy: dragons and phoenixes are longer. ? Besides, what's the point? Twelve genera make each other? Statement:? White horses are afraid of green cows. Once the sheep and rats rest, snakes and tigers are as wrong as knives, dragons and rabbits exchange tears, golden roosters are afraid of jade dogs, and pigs and monkeys are endless. ?

After Mr. Mingguan's calculation, the marriage between men and women will have a result. In general, according to Mr. Life Museum? Fuck? then what Kunzao? (female)' s birthday and zodiac sign, and write the identification (such as? Son and ugliness? Wait), what is the basis? Jiri? And write these things on the red paper passbook. What is this red paper passbook called? Dragon and phoenix post? . In the traditional marriage system, this? Dragon and phoenix post? More importantly, it is equivalent to today's marriage certificate. Only when it is obtained can the marriage formalities be completed.

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Step 3:? Let go?

Let go, commonly known as? Engaged? , is to determine the marriage formalities. The release of old Beijing has two forms: small release and enlarged release. Put it down and scream? The post is too small? , is to hold a certain engagement ceremony, because the scale is relatively small, so called Xiaoding. After Mr. Mingguan's investigation, both men and women chose one? Jiri? Hold a release ceremony. Usually, the man gives the woman a metal ring or a pair of metal rings to wear on her hand. Some big families are particularly particular about it. When he was young, the man would give the woman four kinds of gold and silver jewelry, namely a pair of rings, a pair of pots, a pair of earrings and a collar. Its intention is nothing more than to show that the man is? Family law? After entering the door, you should restrain the girl and make her steady. After the ceremony, the girl changed her hairstyle, from braiding her hair instead of her roots to braiding her hair in red. The woman's family will restrain the girl from going out to sort out the dowry; And the man began to get married.

Enlarge, also known as? A gift? It means that the man sends a bride price to the woman in order to determine the wedding date. Expansion means that marriage between men and women is a foregone conclusion. Love women man asked for the bride price, mostly at this time, which is undoubtedly the concentrated expression of buying and selling marriage. Parents marrying off their daughters are like selling a commodity, asking the price openly, and sometimes bargaining between the two sides. If you enlarge it separately, the gift will be much smaller, and the man's family will send some jewelry, clothes and the like to the woman's family; Of course, the rich are very particular about it, just as the Beijing nursery rhyme says: Little girl, I have a dream, my mother-in-law makes a decision, real gold bars, wrapped in gold ingots, embroidered shoes with pink skirts and butterfly dreams. ?

Step 4:? marry

Marriage is also called? Wedding ceremony? , or? Kissing? It is the most lively step of an old-fashioned wedding. There is a nursery rhyme that says: the big girl is older than the two girls, and the little girl goes out to send me a message. Put up a shed and put up a happy word. Horn lights, 20 pairs, two heads for daughter-in-law, big wings for daughter-in-law. Eight jackets with big wedges, four carriages and two horses? It reflects the lively scene at the wedding. Weddings are usually held in the morning. First of all, the bride went to the bridal chamber to give incense to heaven and earth, and the groom kowtowed three times according to the meaning of marrying. After the bride got on the sedan chair, the wedding team carried the sedan chair to the man's house. Drummers are usually asked to knock gongs when the wedding procession is near the door. When the bride arrives at the wedding room, the married wife will put rouge and powder on the bride and decorate it. This etiquette is commonly known as? Open your face? It means that the bride has changed from a teenage girl to a young woman. Then, under the auspices of the married wife, the bride and groom kowtowed to the Lord of heaven and earth, calling? Worship heaven and earth? . Goodbye, husband and wife. Bye-bye, wedding ceremony.

What's the first thing after the wedding? Pay the bill? . Both the bride and groom are sitting on the edge of the kang in the new house. The groom puts his left skirt on the bride's right skirt, which means that men will overwhelm women, and men and women are already in the same bed. After the married wife said a few auspicious words, she pulled the curtain and called? Withdraw cash? . Then, the bride and groom drink. When drinking, tie two glasses together with a red rope. The married wife gives the groom one cup, and the wife gives the bride another, each with half a cup, and then exchange. What does this mean? Thousands of miles of marriage? . Then, the newlyweds have dinner together? Children and grandchildren? 、? Longevity noodles? . When eating, usually the man will arrange a boy to ask loudly through the window: Are you born or not? Married wife or groom answers:? Health! ? It means to have offspring.

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Step 5:? Make trouble in the bridal chamber?

Usually on the wedding night? Make trouble in the bridal chamber? . It is very popular in Beijing and many places in the north? No size for three days? The custom of having a bedroom. People with old ideas think that the more trouble, the more trouble, or even? People are not haunted? Statement. There are various forms of noisy rooms, and some throw candy and happy fruit at newcomers; Others advised newcomers to drink or even drink; Others tied the apple to the account with a thread for the couple to chew. What used to be a beautiful wedding night turned into a difficult prank.

Step 6:? Back to the door?

After the wedding night, the next morning, the newlyweds should worship God, Buddhism and Buddhism together, and meet their parents and other elders for naming and recognizing their size. On the third day after the wedding, the bride usually goes back to her mother's house to say goodbye to her father, brothers and relatives. This is the so-called? Back to the door? , also called what? Back to the wine? . Usually early in the morning, the bride's family will send someone to pick her up in a carriage. Before leaving, the bride will kowtow to her in-laws, and then take a carriage with the groom to pick her up. After arriving at the bride's family, the newlyweds should salute the ancestral tablet of the Buddha in the family hall, and then kowtow to the woman's parents and elders. After watching the ceremony, they held a banquet to invite the newlyweds to drink. After dinner, the groom goes home alone, and the bride won't come back until evening. At this time, a dramatic wedding came to an end.

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