Excuse me, Zhuhai psychological counseling expert, what should my husband do if he gets "road rage"?

Cao Zeneng, chief psychological counselor of Zhuhai Bangda Psychological Institution, replied:

First of all, I want to say that "road rage" is not your husband's original intention, and it has nothing to do with his comprehensive quality.

From a professional point of view, "road rage" is a paroxysmal rage. For driving friends, after a long and highly concentrated driving, they are often in a state of tension, fatigue and depression. Once they encounter crowded road conditions, dawdling novice drivers, veteran drivers who force the lane to merge, or "heroic pedestrians", their repressed emotions will suddenly erupt and even attack others and others, except swearing, rough driving and brutal driving.

When people are driving, a temporary sense of isolation and superiority arises spontaneously. A friend sitting in the driver's seat, grasping the steering wheel and determining the direction and speed of progress, has a sense of control and accomplishment. For "experienced hands", refueling, shifting gears and lighting are almost unnecessary during driving, and the brain is in a subconscious leisure state; Encounter unexpected situations, such as the car in front suddenly braked, the car behind suddenly cut in line, passers-by suddenly crossing the road and so on. The sense of danger will suddenly wake up, forcing the brain to take emergency response in time. This seriously interferes with his comfortable rhythm and will arouse his angry instinctive reaction and aggressive behavior. Anyway, I am a good man, and your husband's swearing is a specific attack.

"Road rage" is a common problem among drivers, with 5% ~ 7% in the United States and more than 30% in China, most of whom are bus, taxi and coach drivers. At the end of 2006, the word "Lunu" entered the sight of China media for the first time as "the list of new words in Pan-Chinese areas in 2006". At 7 o'clock on the evening of April 28th, 2008, a black car killed a boy and seriously injured an adult on the Supi Highway in Suqian, Jiangsu Province, and then fled wildly. After the driver Ma Moumou was arrested, he blamed his parents for not taking good care of his children, while blaming himself for the tragedy, claiming to be "a reminder to people crossing the road". The horse's lack of basic reason is the extreme manifestation of "road rage".

Anyway, I'm a good man. Your husband's road rage problem is not serious. At present, it's just "a gentleman talks but doesn't do it." However, accumulating this negative emotion for a long time without any channel to alleviate it is undoubtedly like putting a time bomb on yourself, which may detonate one day and harm others.

You also said, "My husband has a bad temper". Maybe he doesn't accept himself and his surroundings. Is it related to life, economy, workplace, marriage and family pressure? In other words, people's external world is a true reflection of their inner world. If the inner world is harmonious, the outer world will be "wonderful".

So, I suggest you:

One is to help her husband find the source of bad temper together. He has a bad temper. Is this the case at this stage, or is it always the case? Is it hereditary or acquired? Have you met any difficult people or things at present? If the problem is solved properly, it may change the frequency and degree of his "road rage".

The second is to accompany her husband to participate in some recreational activities, such as running, climbing mountains, playing ball games, karaoke, dancing, watching movies, traveling and so on. , timely release and transform bad emotional energy. If you have serious symptoms such as emotional loss of control, insomnia and loss of appetite for two weeks in a row, you should seek professional help as soon as possible.

The third is to hang or place warm family photos in a conspicuous position in front of the driver's seat. When the husband "flies into a rage", maybe you and the children can turn around and smile as an effective sobering agent.

Fourth, when you go out, always remind your husband to leave more time for himself, and don't rush to overtake.