Borrowing wisdom from Zhuge Liang: packaging yourself with word of mouth

There are many talents, fierce competition and low starting point. Why are you sharp? Faced with this situation, many people will be at a loss. All they can think of is to attend more job fairs, submit more resumes and sharpen their heads for interviews. That's all. But Zhuge Liang didn't do that. He sat at home and did everything.

The first thing he did was to package himself with word of mouth. Here, three people played a key role. Who are these three people? The first one is Xu Yuan Zhi, who is Xu Shu, the two-part allegorical saying "Xu Shu went to the Cao Cao-said nothing".

Liu Bei thinks highly of Xu Shu. He asked about Zhuge Liang in Xu Shu. Xu Shu said that he is a hundred times stronger than himself. What Liu Bei heard before was Zhuge Liang's false name. Now he has seen Zhuge Liang's friend Xu Shu with his own eyes. He is outstanding, and Xu Shu himself says Zhuge Liang is much taller than him! So Liu Bei's admiration index for Zhuge Liang was greatly improved at once, and he was determined to ask Zhuge Liang to come out of the mountain.

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Get to know a person's friends before you get to know him. What's this called? This is called "meeting people and meeting friends". What do you mean by "observing people and making friends"? Just want to know what a person looks like, you can first observe his friends and what kind of people are close to him at ordinary times. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. With larks, he will sing; With a swift horse, he can run. Zhuge Liang and other good friends knew Liu Bei, and then he came out again. What he wants is this promotion.

How can we learn from this method today? On the one hand, when we need to know a person, a very effective way is to see what kind of people his friends are; On the other hand, when we need to show ourselves, we don't need to brag about ourselves, we just need to show one or two excellent friends around us to others. This is called showing to people around you, and you can show yourself; You can understand others by observing people around you. A talented person should learn to show himself directly by this indirect means. This is wisdom!

In addition to Xu Shu's word-of-mouth introduction, the word-of-mouth introduction of two other important figures played a key role in Liu Bei's choice of Zhuge Liang. Who are these two people? Let's have a look.

According to Zi Zhi Tong Jian, Liu Bei made a special trip to visit Si Mahui, a famous human resources expert in Jingzhou, in order to recruit talents. Si Mahui said: "Confucian scholars and laymen don't know current events, and those who know current events care about Jie Jun. There are Long Fu and Feng Chu. " Liu Bei was immediately attracted by these two nicknames, Yilong and Fenghuang, both Jie Jun. That's great. He asked Si Mahui who these two men were. Si Mahui said that Long Fu was Zhuge Liang and Feng Chu was Pang Tong.

Liu Bei greeted Li and exchanged names. Guess who this new guy is? He is Huang, the father-in-law of Zhuge Liang. As the saying goes, the son-in-law is half a son. This old Huang Man stepped forward to do his children's work this time.

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Here we want to say a few words about Zhuge Liang's marriage. According to Xiangyang Records, Huang is a celebrity in Jingzhou, with great influence and great activity energy. He said to Zhuge Liang, "I heard that you want to choose a wife. I have a daughter who is very ordinary, but her talent matches you very well. " So Zhuge Liang readily agreed and married Miss Huang. People in the village took this as a joke, and they even made up a jingle saying, "Don't choose a wife for Kong Ming, you will get an ugly girl for Acheng." What does this Han Dynasty jingle mean? Translated into modern Chinese, it is-Zhuge Liang's date is not decent to choose a wife.

So is Miss Huang really ugly? Actually, it is not. People say that "children follow their uncles and daughters follow their aunts". Let's take a look at the appearance of Mr. Huang's paternal line and maternal line. Professor Huang Lao is very graceful. Miss Huang's aunt is a famous beauty in Jingzhou. Therefore, from the perspective of genetic factors, the appearance should be good, which means that there is no problem with the number and position of Miss Huang's limbs and facial features. Regarding the exact appearance of Miss Huang, the word "yellow head and black head" is simply mentioned in Xiangyang Ji. Look, if you can't pick out the five senses, just pick the skin and pick the hair. What do you mean by yellow head and black head? It's just that her hair is yellow and her skin is a little black. From a modern point of view, Miss Huang is a fashionable girl with dignified eyebrows, healthy complexion and yellow hair. You see, there are many such girls around us, all of whom are beautiful!

But at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, perhaps this appearance did not meet people's aesthetic standards at that time. From this point, we can also see that Zhuge Liang is not a person who goes with the flow. He has his own standards and principles in doing things. All great talents have a tendency to go against the trend in some ways.

Zhuge Liang's marriage not only brought him a virtuous wife, but also brought him two unexpected surprises, which had an important impact on his future career. These two surprises were brought to Zhuge Liang by his father-in-law. What are the two surprises? Let's have a look!

Zhuge Liang's mother-in-law surnamed Cai, and Mrs. Cai was born in a very powerful Cai family in Jingzhou. Cai Mao, the general of Jingzhou, is the son of Cai family. When Liu Biao, the chief executive of Jingzhou, came to Xiangyang to take office, he was alone. Thanks to the full support of Cai Taizu's local strongmen, Liu Biao sat on the throne. So, Liu Biao gave all the troops to Cai Mao. During the Eastern Han Dynasty, people from big families had more opportunities for promotion, and rich and powerful families maintained the tradition of intermarriage and paid attention to the right family. Both the Cai family and the Huang family are wealthy families, so Miss Cai married Huang, became Mrs. Cai, and gave birth to Zhuge Liang's wife, Miss Huang.

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In this way, Zhuge Liang, a young man from Shandong, naturally integrated the resources of the Chua family and the Huang family. In addition, there is a more important situation. As I said before, Miss Huang's sister, that is, Zhuge Liang's mother-in-law's sister, is a great beauty. Miss Cai, a beautiful woman, was attracted by Liu Biao, the secretariat of Jingzhou, and married Liu Biao. So it doesn't matter, Zhuge Liang got married once, and he climbed up with the local governor Liu Biao and became Zhuge Liang's second uncle. This relative is not far away. The special relationship with Huang, Cai and Liu Biao has brought many convenient conditions for Zhuge Liang to gain a foothold, gain recognition and expand his influence in Jingzhou.

With such a platform, Zhuge Liang has more people to contact and more opportunities to show. With the passage of time, he gradually became a recognized talent elite. This is the mystery that Zhuge Liang is recognized by experts.

Ladies and gentlemen, now Mr. Kongming has a reputation, but it is not enough to have a reputation. There are three prerequisites for a talent to stand out from the crowd. First, some people say you can do it; Second, people who say you can do it can do it; Third, you can do it yourself! How to let others know that they are really good? Zhuge Liang used a more clever method. What method is this? Is to create differences and attract attention.