Why are some rich relatives unwilling to help poor relatives?

This question, rich relatives are unwilling to help relatives? In my opinion, it is generally caused by the following reasons:

1, this relative's mentality is selfish, because he (she) wants others to be poorer than him (her), and only when others are poorer than him (her) can he (she) show his (her) ability to create wealth.

This relative doesn't want to help other relatives, because he (she) is afraid of repaying the debt of gratitude, and at the same time he (she) is afraid of harming his/her own interests.

Because I help others, sometimes I have to turn to another capable person. Even if I don't turn to others for help, sometimes I will lose at least some benefits in solving problems.

Because the poor relative has no labor skills, or he has no capital to invest in any business or start a business, and the poor relative has no unit or enterprise willing to recruit him to do any work, then the rich relative wants to help him, and he can do nothing.

If a rich relative wants to help a poor relative with money, he is afraid that the poor relative will be unable to repay the debt, and at the same time, he is afraid that the credibility of the poor relative will be questioned.

5. Between people, including relatives, it is simply caused by weak human feelings and society.

Because the other party doesn't want to mind other people's business at all, there is a precedent.

If you lend money to help others, you may end up in an economic lawsuit with the other party for debt collection.

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The above problems, in my opinion, are one of the reasons why rich relatives are unwilling to help poor relatives.

As the old saying goes, borrow three and don't borrow two; If there is an emergency, you won't save the poor.

The three loans here are: money to save lives, money for children to go to school, and money for weddings. Second, don't borrow: people without credibility don't borrow. People who make mistakes don't borrow them. The third loan is an emergency. Second, if you don't borrow, you won't save the poor.

Explain that borrowing three does not lend two. Let's explain the reason: rich relatives are unwilling to help poor relatives.

Because we are related. Therefore, rich relatives are well aware of the reasons why poor relatives are poor (laziness, gambling addiction, rigid thinking) and the behaviors of poor relatives (love to take advantage of petty advantages, dirty hands and feet, dishonesty and cleverness).

Once, my eldest brother and I went back to our hometown with my mother. Seeing that my hometown is still so poor, my mother wants me to open another branch in my hometown. My mother was very happy when the factory in the village was basically settled. She said: "Give a red envelope of 100 yuan to the children of the Zhang family's grandchildren in the village, regardless of their size, to celebrate …" As a result, it was originally a happy thing. I happened to find that many people, with their children and grandchildren, collect red envelopes repeatedly, and some people can collect them three or four times.

When I found out, I didn't say anything, because I didn't want to disappoint my mother. Just stopped all cooperation projects.

To sum up, it's not that rich relatives don't help relatives who don't, but that they can't help if they want to. Can only save the emergency, not save the poor for a lifetime. ...

One of my relatives was a millionaire twenty or thirty years ago. Now it sounds like millionaires don't think anything, but at that time, in our local area, it was already very awesome.

He never lends money to others. You can talk to him about anything, but don't talk about borrowing money. Talking about borrowing money to hurt feelings!

At that time, I was still young and didn't know much about the world. I asked him in a chat why he didn't lend money to others. He said: I have too many relatives and friends, seven aunts and eight aunts. Zhang San borrowed 10 thousand from me, and so did I. Li Si borrowed 8 thousand from me. What should I do? Borrow or not? After borrowing it, I can borrow another 20,000 from Wang Wu in a few days. If you don't lend it to Li Si, you will be angry. Why can't Zhang San lend you 10 thousand and I lend you 8 thousand? What's the difference between me and Zhang Sanbi? Similarly, if you borrow Zhang San and Li Si at the same time, Wang Wu will be angry. I am inferior to them in family and friendship? What is the difference? Right? So in order not to have such troubles, simply don't let anyone borrow it. Without the beginning of borrowing money, there is no end of trouble. Therefore, no one who borrows money from me will borrow two words! I think it's better to scold me when I don't borrow money than to be scolded after lending it to others. Do you think that's the reason?

I listened and was impressed. That's true, but it's hard for ordinary people to do it!

A: I am so poor that I don't need help!

Fools think digression, wise men have different opinions!

Hard work is not always poor,

Good flowers don't have a hundred-day red,

Life is more than 30 thousand days,

Be ambitious and live up to expectations!

My husband's cousin, who lives in a relatively poor rural area, gave birth to three children in one breath after marriage, and her life is even more sad. Fortunately, this cousin learned to cook for a few days. At that time, my husband was the general manager of a hotel, so he was arranged to work in the kitchen. He didn't expect that this boy had been sleeping in the dormitory because his brother was a leader, and he had to be transferred to work as a staff meal. Who knows, he quarreled with employees at both ends for three days, and there was nothing he could do. Unexpectedly, this boy took the uniform of the security guard as the uniform of the police, didn't talk about going to work normally, and even beat the guests who stayed in the parking lot. Finally, the husband had to give him thousands of dollars, buy a plane ticket and coax him back.

There is also a young girl who has been working as a cashier. Everyone who does finance knows that this is basically the lowest level of financial work, and her income growth space is limited. I happen to be in finance, too. A friend in the circle introduced her to work as an accountant in a small trading company. My idea is that she studies finance, and the business of trading company is relatively simple. The variety of this company is also very single, which should be very good. As it turns out, I found myself in a big trouble. After teaching for more than three months, she still wants to call me every detail. No matter how I deal with it in detail, even if 1, 2, 3 and 4 are all written in words, she only has one sentence: it's too much trouble. Please help me. After more than a year, it's not that she can't keep going, but that I can't keep going. Finally, I managed to help her find a job as a cashier, and I was relieved.

Therefore, there are various objective reasons for the poverty of the poor, but the deep-rooted ideological reasons cannot be ignored. For most poor people, it is not helpful to give a hand, but if you do a lot and keep pulling, everyone should know that there is a saying: if you are in a hurry, help the poor. What's more, in the world of adults, you can only rely on yourself.

A cousin of mine borrowed 30 thousand yuan from me. At that time, she made a good promise to return my pig to me when it was released. Later, they sold about 70 thousand yuan, and didn't mention returning my money. What's more, she and her brother-in-law each bought a mink, and her cousin also bought a coach bag.

Therefore, it makes sense not to lend money to the poor. They are poor for a reason.

1, all relationships are the essence of interests, including relatives, and they all value strength and put interests first.

2. Why should rich relatives help poor relatives? What benefits can I get? No one in the world gives unselfishly, but they all have to return.

3, help, maybe even become an enemy, so simply don't help.

4. Being poor has the inferiority of being poor, and being rich is the truth. You can't solve the problem with one hand.

5. Poor relatives envy and hate in their hearts, rich relatives look down on them, and their faces and hearts are not harmonious.

6. Rich people give a job if they pull a hand. If the poor people give a hand in their hearts, they will give money directly, and no agreement can be reached.

7. Now the so-called relatives just look at the old man's face and occasionally walk around each other. Actually, it's all about sweeping the snow in front of the door.

8. Brothers and sisters born in the same womb are also locked in a fight over the house and money, not to mention other relatives.

Poverty needs specific analysis. If he is not poor, I must help him! Give a helping hand to those who deserve it and help them get rid of poverty. Don't help those who don't deserve it, such as lazy, stupid, gambling and bad. Otherwise, in the end, instead of helping him, you will be dragged away by him and eventually become poor! For that kind of person, you can only let him die!

If the ancestors left behind, there must be a reason

I have such an example around me. A couple lived in the countryside, and the land was leased to others, leaving only a peach garden and dozens of peach trees. Men are lazy, and women can be stronger. Peach Blossom Garden is basically managed by a woman. In the slack season, women go to set fruit bags for their neighbors, pick up sweet potatoes, choose apples and so on. The couple's annual income is less than 20 thousand During the slack season, the couple play mahjong and smoke every day.

Just this year, the man was hospitalized and needed 30 thousand yuan. He was dumbfounded. The man's brother is a university teacher, very rich, and his sister is in business and has good economic conditions. When the brothers and sisters found out, they were ready to take it all. Later, I don't know why, but I may consider taking it and don't expect to return it. So they took 5000 yuan and said they didn't have to pay it back. Unexpectedly, the couple turned against each other on the spot, complaining and quarreling in front of relatives.

Enter the theme, poor, ask why poor first? No matter whether you live in the countryside or the city, as long as you don't work hard, you will live well. Even if you are not as rich as your relatives, it is more than enough. Only when you live a good life by yourself can your rich relatives rely on you and show them that you are smart, hardworking and self-motivated. On the contrary, no one wants to make trouble for themselves invisibly! To be grateful if you don't understand is to find yourself an enemy.

And now many rich people prefer to choose, and poor relatives will give a sum of money when they encounter difficulties, and they are not willing to pull their relatives around to raise them because they are tired! Who has less than himself? Live hard and be equal with rich relatives is the right way!

There are two aspects to this problem:

1. the rich side

1. It is human nature to help, and it is our duty not to help.

I am too lazy to owe you money.

It is ok to help, but if you don't help, you are afraid of complaining.

I don't want to see you have a good life at all.

5. I think you are useless.

2. A party without money

1. You can't rely on others' help, you must work hard.

No one owes us anything, so we should put our thoughts in order.

You have to live on your own, and people are not saving the poor.

No matter how poor you are, you must have a backbone and don't let people look down on you.

People's ability is limited, so don't compare with others, let alone follow suit.

Personal opinion, don't spray if you don't like it.