I wanted to change jobs, but my boss found out when I was looking for a new job in advance. The boss’s response surprised me.

My name is Yu Xin, and naked resignation is a common occurrence for me. Because naked resignation has a great impact on the family’s financial income, my wife requires me to find a job-changing employer before I can leave my job. I felt a little sorry for my boss by doing this, but I still followed my wife's advice.

Later, when I was in my boss’s office and asked to resign, another colleague who had already been approved to resign angrily interrupted my conversation with my boss. My boss was very angry because this colleague had found a new job before he resigned. Listening to the conversation between the two of them, I felt very guilty at the time. Unexpectedly, I had already found a new employer before I left my job. knew.

I always feel a little bored after working in a job for a year or two, or even a few months. I think that every day's work is boring and I can't find a challenging goal. In front of other colleagues, I appear to be very confident in my work, but in fact I am a person who is extremely insecure in the workplace.

I like to think independently and often have a lot of ideas about work. I will also actively make various and unconstrained suggestions to my boss. If my boss agrees with my point of view, I will have difficulty suppressing my thoughts. I am so happy that I can hum a little tune when I walk;

But if my boss denies my point of view, I will feel that my self-esteem is very frustrated, and I am very afraid that I will be looked down upon by my boss and other colleagues. At the same time, I will stubbornly believe that my The point of view is correct, but I have not met Bole or anyone who agrees with me. Sometimes I even feel that my boss and other colleagues are not as capable as me.

I feel that if I don’t have a boss who recognizes me and a team that supports me, I will feel very lonely inside at work, and then think that my future career development will be very confused. In fact, I also know that with this Resigning for any reason is a bit like escaping.

But whenever conflicts break out between my boss and me at work, it’s always difficult to control my emotions. So whenever I encounter setbacks at work, most of them will choose to resign. , and almost every time he said it naked on the spot.

However, although the naked resignation relieves my anger, I will definitely be criticized by my wife every time after the naked resignation. My wife always says to me: "You don't even discuss such a big thing with me like resigning. Do you still think of me as a family member? ”

Every time my wife criticized me after I resigned, I would lower my head and remain silent, unable to defend myself, because I knew that I did something wrong, so I The last time I made up my mind, when I wanted to resign from my original employer, I discussed it with my wife in advance.

I met my last boss at an e-sports game competition. We both like to play the same game. Every week during our vacation, we would get together to compete, so the two of us are very close. We speak the same language and have a very good relationship.

Because of this, whenever a colleague complained about something bad about the company, I would take the initiative to stand up and defend my boss. Because of this, I was even considered a "flattery" by some colleagues.

However, my work achievements are obvious to the whole company. I imitated the rules and ideas in the game and designed a marketing plan that helped the company increase sales by 30%. Boss I was also awarded a bonus of 50,000 yuan for this.

I thought I would work in the company until retirement, but I didn’t expect that there was such a big difference between my boss and me that I thought I had to resign.

My original company was a retail-based trading e-commerce company. When the company was booming, sales exceeded 100 million yuan, but I always felt that the company did not have its own brand. I was worried about the product, but at that time it was very popular to build a vertical e-commerce platform. The boss was also tempted at that time, and prepared some funds to enter the game.

At that time, I very much disagreed with my boss’s decision, so I said to him: “Our company cannot build a vertical e-commerce platform. This is completely beyond the capabilities of our team, and the supply chain is unstable. Without the price advantage, taking this path will definitely fail.

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The boss frowned after listening to my words and said to me very angrily: "If the company wants to go public in the shortest possible time and allow everyone in the company to achieve financial freedom, we must fight for it once. , it is a waste of time for us to make our own products, and we are not product experts. In this case, I have told you more than 10 times! "

My speaking voice increased as the boss spoke louder, and my tone also increased: "No matter how many times you say it, I still think so! Why can we build a vertical e-commerce platform? Do we have traffic, funds, or a lot of supply chain resources? It doesn’t matter what we want, we simply can’t build a vertical e-commerce platform! "

At that time, the boss made a "pop" sound, slapped his hand on the table and said to me: "I have decided so! This is my decision! Now I don't want to discuss it with you anymore! All you have to do is resolutely implement it! ”

I wholeheartedly gave my boss advice and wanted to persuade him, but I didn’t expect that my boss would treat me like this. I was very sad and disappointed. At that time, I thought I had fallen out of favor with my boss. , so I felt a little depressed every day at work.

Later, the company’s progress in building a vertical e-commerce platform was very slow. I communicated with the boss three times, but the boss was still very stubborn. I felt that the company had reached this point and there would be no development in the future, so after struggling for a while, I made up my mind to resign.

When I told my wife my thoughts, she said to me: "You always have your own ideas at work, can't you just listen to your boss's instructions? You work according to the boss's ideas. As long as the boss pays you a salary, it's enough. Why do you worry so much? "

I said to my wife extremely impatiently: "The company is not developing. It is better for me to resign now than to wait until the company declines later. If I have to resign sooner or later, I might as well do it now. Resigning! ”

My wife was very helpless, and then said to me: “You decide for yourself, I don’t care about your work, and you won’t listen to me even if I say it, but I have one request, you must find someone to change your job.” Resign after the unit is over! ”

I said to my wife with some emotion: “Although I want to resign because my boss and I have different views on the future development of the company, but if I find a good job change company before resigning, , This is a bit sorry for the boss, I don’t want to do this! ”

But the tone of my wife’s words to me was raised to a higher level. My wife said, “You’ve resigned naked several times!” Our family still has a mortgage and a car loan. If you can be worthy of your boss, how can you be worthy of me? If you want to make naked remarks again, I firmly disagree! ”

Faced with my wife’s strength, I finally had no choice but to compromise and promised my wife to find a new employer before resigning. So I submitted my resume while I was at work. As long as I was invited for an interview, I would I would take an hour or two off and go to the employer to talk to the interviewer.

But during that time, I frequently asked for leave, but my colleagues saw some clues that I wanted to resign. One day at noon, when a colleague with whom I had a close relationship was devouring lunch, he looked at me with strange eyes and asked curiously in a low voice: "Brother Yu, you have been taking time off a lot recently, are you going out for interviews and looking for new positions?" Working? "

I was suddenly startled. For a moment, my right hand holding the chopsticks trembled slightly. I pretended to be firm and said: "What new job are you looking for? I recently took leave because I had some personal matters to deal with. How could I ride a donkey and find a horse? I had to go out and find a new job before I resigned! ”

But my colleague looked at me with suspicion and said to me with a smile: “Brother Yu, what you said is wrong. Now everyone will find a good job before resigning.” , otherwise what will we do if we have no source of income after resigning? "

I nodded and said: "That's right! If you have no savings and no salary income, resigning naked will make your life very difficult. When I resigned naked before, I was often criticized by my wife.

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I thought my colleague believed what I said, but I didn't expect that he put down the chopsticks in his hands and said to me very seriously: "Brother Yu! If you find a new workplace, be sure to take me with you. ”

I suddenly felt very speechless, so I suddenly changed the topic and never mentioned it again.

In fact, I think it is best to go out for interviews before I leave my job. Finding a job is still difficult. Whenever the interviewer of the company I am applying for asks me whether I am currently employed or resigned, I feel a little embarrassed.

And when I said that I was still employed. I thought the interviewers looked at me a little strange when I said this sentence at work. One interviewer even said to me bluntly: "I feel that your job is not very stable. You are looking for a job even though you are working. Will this happen when you join our company in the future? ”

However, hard work paid off. After I submitted 28 resumes, I finally found a company willing to accept me based on my own ability, and the salary offered by the interviewer was higher than that in my original position. There was an extra 20 in the workplace, which made me very happy, and I thought it was time for me to formally apply for resignation to the boss of my original workplace.

That day, the sky was gray and it was still raining. It started to rain lightly, and the boss of my former unit arrived at the company an hour later than usual. I took my resignation letter and walked to his office. I could hear my own heartbeat. The moment I opened the door, my boss asked me: "Look for me." Something's wrong? ”

Although the boss didn’t speak loudly at the time, I was startled. Maybe it was because I was too nervous. I accidentally dropped the resignation report in my hand. Fortunately, the back side was facing up, so the boss probably didn't see it.

But when I bent down and reached out to pick up the resignation report, the boss spoke first: "You are preparing to come. Did you apply for resignation with me? Why do you want to resign? ”

After hearing what the boss said, I was completely stunned. I thought: “The resignation report just fell to the ground with its back side facing up. There is no way the boss can see it. Then he is How did you know I was resigning? Could it be that another colleague’s nonsense reached the boss’s ears? ”

I was very nervous at the time, so my facial expression was very serious, but my boss looked playful and smiling. I handed the resignation report to the boss’s desk, then opened my eyes and said to the boss: “I After thinking about it for a long time, I finally decided to resign. "

The boss smiled and said: "If you resign, who will play games with me during your vacation? ”

I was actually amused by the boss’s words. I said to the boss: “Be serious, I came here to resign!” "

But after I laughed, the boss became very serious again. He said to me: "You have created a lot of value for the company during your time working in the company, and I highly appreciate it. I don’t expect your working ability..."

Before the boss finished speaking, with a "bang", the door of the boss's office was pushed open and he walked in angrily. Although I know a colleague, I am not familiar with him, but I know that he has just applied for resignation, and his boss quickly approved his resignation. In the past two days, he has been doing the handover work.

The colleague who had been approved to leave asked his boss emotionally: "I have done the handover work, and you have approved my decision. We should get together and break up! But I Why was 1,000 yuan deducted from last month's performance salary?"

The boss was also angered by this colleague's behavior. The boss said to his colleague: "You come to my office and yell. What are you doing! Isn’t it your duty to do a good job in the handover? Don’t you understand why I deducted 1,000 yuan from your performance salary last month? I am doing it in accordance with the company’s regulations!”

Me! Seeing that the colleague was very angry, he pressed his hands hard on the boss's desk, and then said to the boss: "You think this is business? It's just because I'm resigning, so you deliberately make things difficult for me, right?" !"

Not to be outdone at this time, the boss said: "You know what you have done, so you have to let me tell you!"

The colleague suddenly used Pointing his finger at the boss, he shouted loudly: "Tell me! Let's see if you are being unreasonable!"

But at this time, the boss leaned on his boss, then crossed his legs and slightly He said to the colleague with a smile: "I check the company's monitoring every Friday. Before you applied for resignation with me, you had already started looking for a new job. You can submit your resume during work time without saying anything. But you didn’t ask for leave during working hours and went out for interviews without permission. I only deducted 1,000 yuan from your performance salary, not counting your absence from work. That’s good!”

After hearing what the boss said, the colleague suddenly became angry. I lowered my head a little, turned around and walked out of the boss's office without saying another word. I stood there, listening to the conversation between the two of them. I felt extremely guilty at the time. I thought to myself: "I never knew that my boss could still do this." I have the habit of monitoring the company. If my boss finds out that I have found a new employer before resigning, will he also deduct my performance pay?”

Even if I haven’t replied yet? When I was thinking, the boss said to me: "I won't keep an employee like this at all if he resigns. It's because he did something wrong in the first place, and he came to argue with me angrily. What do you think is going on?"

I was speechless for a moment and didn’t know what to say. The boss saw my serious expression and said to me: “Don’t be so nervous. Let’s have a formal chat and I can approve your resignation. But I want to know the real reason for your resignation."

I adjusted my mood a little, and then said to my boss: "I think we are friends and brothers, but when it comes to career development, we should discuss the matter. Your current decision about the future development of the company makes me feel very confused, and I am not optimistic about your decision. Instead of worrying about it all day long, I would rather work in a different environment and adjust my mentality."

The boss nodded at that time, then picked up a pen in his hand, shook it a few times, and said to me in a questioning tone: "Have you already found a company to change jobs to? ”

I was so panicked that I even made mistakes when I spoke. I couldn’t control my mouth at all. I said to the boss: “No, I’ve found it.” ”

I didn’t know what I was talking about at the time, but my boss and I said to me in a soothing tone: “Why are you scared?” In fact, you have already found a job-hopping company, I know this! "

I didn't know what to say anymore and kept silent. Then the boss continued: "Don't be nervous! You have made great contributions to the company. I often say that for employees, "everything is equal" to ensure fairness, but it is often difficult to do so. As for you finding a job-hopping company in advance, I The attitude towards handling it is different from that of the colleague who came to the office angrily just now. "

At this time, I was confused and asked in a low voice: "What's the difference? ”

The boss smiled and said: “I had dinner with another company boss before, and he asked me about you. Later I found out that you had submitted your resume to their company, plus You've been asking for leave a lot lately, so I know you're ready to resign.

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I was very worried that the boss would be very angry, but seeing his attitude, I felt a lot more relaxed. I asked the boss: "You must have told me in front of that boss. Good words, that's why I was admitted to that company so easily, right? "

The boss smiled and nodded: "We like to get together, but we can't break up. After you leave the company, we will continue to keep in touch. In the future, I will not be your boss, but I will be your friend. If you have any difficulties, just tell me. I may have a lot of things to trouble you with, but before leaving your job, you must do a good job in handing over! "

At this time I stood up, walked to the boss, held his hand, and said to the boss: "Thank you! ”

Later, after I completed the handover, I successfully resigned. Not only did my boss not deduct my performance salary, but he also gave me an extra bonus of 20,000 yuan. We still keep in touch until now. It’s just that he has given up on his original company development strategy of building a vertical e-commerce platform.

Changing jobs may be something that most people will experience. If you can change jobs, you can do it. If the company boss makes it easy to get together and part ways, then this resignation may become a lifetime asset.

Regarding resignation, should you choose to resign or find a job before leaving?

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First, how will naked resignation be viewed by the original unit and the recruiting unit?

It turns out that the attitude of the employer towards employee resignation is mostly determined by the value that the employee shows at work. , Naked resignation will obviously not create a disloyal impression to the boss or leader of the original unit.

But if the employee who resigned naked has very strong work ability and has created very high value for the company, the original unit will definitely. They will try to retain employees who resign. Some bosses and leaders will even take the initiative to persuade employees to stay with the company until they find a suitable company before leaving.

However, if the employee who resigns has a low sense of presence in the company, and the boss or leader does not recognize the value of his work, he will not feel much about the resignation of the employee, and will not try to retain him.

For recruiting units, during the interview, the interviewer pays more attention to the number of job applicants' resignations and the working hours of each job. The interviewer will judge the job application based on these two points.

Second, if you find a new job before leaving your job, how will you be viewed by your original employer and the employer?

There are a few bosses who are very dissatisfied. A boss who likes his employees to find a new job before leaving their company will feel very excited and angry when encountering this kind of thing. Not only will he think that the employees did not put in all their energy when working in their company, Moreover, I will think that the wages I paid to employees in the past are not worth it.

If the boss is a little more exaggerated, I will even deliberately pay for the employee to leave the company if possible. They will also speak ill of resigned employees behind their backs, preventing them from joining the new company.

However, many bosses think that even if employees have found a new job before leaving, they should still do so. Getting together and breaking up well, and handling the relationship with resigned employees will also bring good promotion to the development of the company.

For recruiting units, if the job seeker is looking for a job, the interviewer may be worried. The job stability of the job seeker will also be taken into consideration. After the job seeker joins the company, if he encounters the same situation in the future, he will also treat the job seeker as if he has found a new job before leaving the company. This may slow down the interview process. success rate.

However, whether a job search can be successful depends more on the job seeker's work ability, expression ability, and past work performance.

So should I resign naked, or should I find a new employer before resigning?

First, decide based on personal financial situation

If the personal financial situation is relatively good and can afford living expenses for more than two months, I think it is best to resign and Then look for a new job employer.

Looking for a job sounds simple, but in fact it is a somewhat complicated matter. Not only do you need to examine the future development direction of the recruiting company, but you also need to understand the corporate culture of the recruiting company, etc. If you want to find a job To find an ideal job, you definitely need to compare multiple recruitment companies. If you have enough time, it will be easier to find an ideal job.

On the other hand, if your personal financial situation does not allow you to cover living expenses for more than two months, then I think you should find a job-hopping employer before leaving your job, so as to reduce your own financial pressure.

Second, decide based on personal work ability

Every company welcomes outstanding talents. If the individual has very strong work ability and has achieved relatively outstanding results in past work experience, In terms of work performance, I suggest that you should look for a new job after leaving your job. For outstanding talents, it is not difficult to find a new job, so after careful selection, it is easier to find the ideal job.

On the other hand, if your work performance in your past job was not very outstanding, then I suggest that you should find a job-hopping unit before leaving your job. This will be more secure for your future career development. .

Write at the end:

Resigning is no small matter, and resigning does not mean severing contact with everything in the original unit.

If resignation can be handled well, it will be of great benefit to both employees and the company. In fact, whether it is career development or corporate development, as time goes by, the abilities will be roughly the same. Success ultimately depends more on human network resources. Therefore, the resigning employee's handling of the relationship with the original unit is to improve his own human network resources, and the original unit's handling of the employee's resignation is also to improve the company's human network resources.

Whether you should find a job before leaving your job or not, professionals need to decide based on their own circumstances. As for how the company views it, this is something that professionals cannot change, so I suggest that professionals still You should work hard to improve your work ability. After leaving your job, finding the next ideal job is the most important thing.