What should I do if I don’t want to work?

1. What should I do if I am unhappy at work and want to resign, but I am afraid that I will not be able to find another job?

As the end of the year approaches, colleagues and friends around me have begun a new round of anxiety.

My friend Liu Liu comes to me every now and then to seek comfort:

“This year ended without doing anything and I have no savings. I want to resign.”< /p>

“I’m not happy at work and I want to resign, but I’m afraid I can’t find a better one. What should I do?”

“I feel so useless and I want to resign but I don’t know. Where can I find the next job?”

This must be the current situation of many people who have no savings, dare not resign, but have no interest in their current job. They are unhappy but unable to change. .

In this situation, we actually need to split the problem into two points for discussion: "I am not happy at work and want to quit" and "I am afraid of not being able to find the next job."

2. Using happiness to measure the workplace is the most immature sign

The purpose of our work is to make money, not to find someone who can make you happy.

It is said that nothing is easy in the adult world. In fact, happiness is not easy to have either.

If you want to resign when your job is not going well for you, then we will have to spend our whole life in high-frequency job hopping like a WeChat game, and it will be even more difficult to find a happy job. Disaster.

We have to admit that using happiness to measure the workplace is the most immature sign.

(1) Glass heart in the workplace

There is a type of people in the workplace called "glass heart" who always put themselves in the position of the victim and are unhappy if they disagree.

I always feel that the company's system is unreasonable and unfair, and I am unwilling to abide by it, so I have rebellious feelings;

Some people are overly sensitive, unhappy with colleagues, and can't stand the boss's disrespect. I feel aggrieved by the criticism;

If I don’t improve myself due to my lack of strength, I just put myself in a weak state of mind, and the more I work, the more frustrated I become.

The above unhappiness is due to the unsatisfied self-happiness, unwillingness to accept the rules of survival in the workplace, and failure to adjust one's mentality and behavior, leaving oneself in a state of passive anxiety and grievance.

(2) Sense of self-worth

There are also some people who don’t like their current job. They just feel that the work is too boring and repetitive every day. They have a low sense of self-identity and are unable to find self-esteem at work. Less self-worth.

Actually, this cannot be solved by changing jobs. There are not many people in this world who are engaged in work that they love.

Every job starts with something new and feels like you have to do something repeatedly. The point is that some people can delve deeply into their field of work and calm down to work, and you will naturally fall in love with your job.

Too many people are enthusiastic for three minutes and then say they don’t like it or are unhappy after doing it for a month. Everyone’s time, experience and experience are different, and the work fields we are exposed to are also limited.

Don’t rely on “happiness” to judge whether you want to resign. This negative emotion will affect your work efficiency and put you in an endless loop of unmotivated work.

Trying to solve problems with emotions will only add fuel to the fire. Therefore, we need to find the root cause of anxiety.

If it is because your mentality is too pessimistic:

For example, if you are unhappy with a conflict with a colleague, then shift your focus to work, and think about it afterwards and you will feel that it is not a big deal.

If you are not happy when your boss scolds you, we have to think about it. After all, the boss is the one who pays your salary. Just scold you, and just make sure you don’t make a mistake next time.

We must try to accept negative emotions, and gradually take back rational control of our actions, and do not let emotions pay for the results.

In addition, if you are not satisfied with your "self-worth" and are unhappy.

We should not resign impulsively, but we should think about how to find satisfaction at work. What shortcomings can we make up for? What is the gap between me and others?

Find the reasons and correct them one by one to become a better version of yourself.

Proactively solving problems is always more useful than avoiding them!

3. If you are afraid of not being able to find a job, you might as well start from these two points

We have solved the problem of being unhappy and wanting to resign, so let’s take a look at the problem of being afraid of resigning and not being able to find a job. What should people do when they arrive at work?

When you say the word "fear", it actually exposes your lack of confidence. You know that you are not capable enough and it is not easy to find a job to support yourself. Do you have the courage to resign?

In addition, if you are afraid of not being able to find a suitable job, here are two ways:

(1) Ride the donkey to find a horse and leave a way out

If If you don't have enough money to support your life for three months, then I advise you not to resign easily.

If you want to resign, you can just ride the donkey and find a horse. Pay attention to suitable jobs while working, and then resign after receiving an olive branch from the next company.

This way your life can be protected.

Adults must learn to leave a way out for themselves, and don’t let themselves have no way out!

(2) Weigh your strength and find benchmarks

Before looking for a job, we must evaluate our own strength and how much you are worth in the market.

If your ambition does not match your talent, improve your core competitiveness first.

A friend of mine also wanted to resign six months ago, but he found that the job he wanted to find was very demanding.

So he immediately signed up for classes to learn relevant skills and strive to meet the standards of his favorite company. Last month he successfully changed jobs and his salary tripled.

So when you think you can’t find a good job, don’t resign or give up on yourself.

Find a target, for example, if you want to join a BAT company, then find the requirements and standards in their recruitment information;

Benchmark yourself to see what abilities you lack and what else you can do There is room for improvement, which level you are at;

Make up for the shortcomings, find the gap between yourself and the market, and then improve your abilities and core competitiveness through learning.

When you feel that you are confident and capable of changing jobs, submit your resume. If you have something to offer, you are not afraid of not being able to find a job.

4. Write at the end

Everyone will have moments of confusion and anxiety, but don’t let your emotions make any decisions for you. After all, you have to make decisions in the adult world. Take responsibility for every one of your actions.

Li Dan said: "People are lived, not imagined."

Never ask others what your next step should be, no one can help you answer it , because this is your own life.

Happy or unhappy, resign or not, think about yourself and ask yourself about your heart. Every step you take in life counts.