Both husband and wife go to work, there is no in-laws to take care of the children, and there is no money to hire a nanny. How did you handle it?

What a ridiculous question. I was born in the 1980s. I only remember that our parents brought us up when we were young, and we only went to live with our grandparents occasionally. Every day my parents send us to kindergarten and school, then go to work, and then take us home together. When we were young, our parents were much more tired at work than we are now, and there was a lot of physical labor. Even those who sit in the office don't have computers. They do everything with their hands and brains. In the past, the conditions were so bad that our parents could take good care of us. Nowadays, young people work much easier and their living conditions are much better. Instead, you can't take care of the children, and you have to let the elderly take care of them. Are children for the elderly? Your parents raised you. Are you going to raise your children again? My parents have worked hard all their lives. When they are old and retired, should they continue to work hard to raise your children? ! Come on, have a conscience and take your own responsibility. The old man owes you nothing. Now is not the time for you to keep asking for it, but the time for you to repay the old man.

Before the children go to kindergarten, after school, after school, during the winter and summer vacations, this is short-term and temporary. Of course, you can also give it to the elderly to help pick up the children from school and take care of them during the winter and summer vacations. After all, the children are all out of school early now. But when you come home from work, don't let the old man look after the children, and don't let the old man look after the children on weekends and various holidays. After all, the old people are old, and it is very stressful for them to look after their children all day. When I say don't push the child to the old man, I mean don't let the old man look after the child all day. Nowadays, many children, like the elderly, don't care if they go home at night or at weekends. Even if they don't work overtime, they go out to drink or be alone, which is wrong.

Tell me about me, I hope it will help you.

My husband and I have been taking care of the child since he was born to the age of five. My child goes to kindergarten at the age of two and a half. First I got my driver's license, and then I started looking for a job. It must be emphasized here that there are no elderly people with children at home. My mother has great limitations in finding a job, mainly working hours and distance from home. Salary is a secondary consideration, so it is not so easy to find a job. Don't worry, so I searched for half a year.

My experience in taking care of children at work is as follows:

1. Children's kindergartens should find the kind with three meals in the morning, noon and evening, and the school pick-up time should not be too early. The pick-up time for my son's kindergarten is before 6 pm at the latest. I just got off work at 5: 30, so I can catch up.

2. Work should choose long-day shifts, with fixed commuting time, and the off-duty time should be about half an hour earlier than the latest time to pick up the children (according to the specific analysis of the distance between the work place and the school), so as to ensure the continuity and stability of this job, otherwise it will be difficult to do it.

Be sure to find someone close to home and school. This is the first choice. No matter how good the job is, if it is too far away or the traffic is inconvenient, you can only give it up.

The last question is weekends, national holidays and winter and summer vacations. This is how our family overcame it. First of all, I found a relatively flexible job. I have a day off, but Saturday and Sunday can be adjusted. For example, if the child's father suddenly has to work overtime on Saturday or Sunday, I will transfer to work on Sunday or Saturday in advance and stagger with my father. On national holidays, dad basically has a holiday in sync with the school. We have enrolled our children in winter and summer classes, which are available in kindergartens now, and there is an extra charge. We have a day in 60 yuan in kindergarten. The middle child is sick or something, and he takes turns asking for leave from his father. Fortunately, the child is in good health and can't ask for it several times a year.

In short, while taking care of their children's families while going to work, mothers must adjust their mentality, focus on their children and their families, and find a job that suits their current situation without affecting their children's academic and family harmony. There may be many unexpected situations at the beginning of work, but you will gradually get on the right track, and finally you will find yourself more and more able to handle the relationship between life, family and work.

I'm a working couple now, and the old man doesn't come to help us take care of the children. My husband and I were introduced by friends. He used to work in Guangdong and I worked in Nanning, so it was a long-distance relationship. I only went to his home once before I got married, and then I got married and got pregnant and went back to his hometown to have children. That year, he resigned and stayed at home with me. I was at home every day during childbirth, and I didn't know anyone in their village. This is simply torture. Later, I gave birth to a child and thought about going out to work every day. When my child was 4 months old, before I got married, the boss of the company said that I wanted to go back to work. I discussed it with my family and decided to go back to work. My mother-in-law went to Nanning with her husband and children. At first, it was ok. The old man is used to it in his hometown, but he is a little uncomfortable with life in Nanning. He always loses his temper and goes back to his hometown. But when he finally weaned the child for 9 months, his mother-in-law took the child back to her hometown. My husband and I can only go back to see the children once a month. I miss them so much that I watch videos on my mobile phone every day. The child is 3 years old and can finally go to kindergarten before taking it to Nanning. My mother-in-law is not coming, so I have to bring it myself. Send it to kindergarten before going to work in the morning. My husband takes it home after school. My children go to work with me on Saturday and my husband is at home on Sunday. Fortunately, the boss has said that my child is sick occasionally and will accompany me to work. I took it myself for two years. I feel it.

Tell me about me. I don't have any in-laws My daughter will be taken care of by my parents for 8 months. Pick me up at the kindergarten when I was 3 years old. After going to kindergarten, my father took me to a semester, and I couldn't hold on any longer. So for three years, I sent it to the custody after school and came back after dinner. I'm in car sales. The company has a meeting every day after work. I pick up the children from work and get home at 7 o'clock. It is very hard. I have to buy food, cook and bathe the children when I come back. I haven't stopped at 10 since. Now I don't know how I got here. Now that my child is in the fourth grade, I can only sign up for more interest classes after school, so that I can go to work at normal time.

I brought my children to the age of five by myself, and then I went to work. Now the child is big. Looking back, I still can't control my tears. I remember that once my unit didn't rest on Saturday and Sunday, and I left my children at home alone. At work, I told my children everything. No one is allowed to open the door. Maybe I told him too much. My child is a little scared. I hurried home from work, and when I got home, I quickly took the key to open the door. I was just about to open the door. I cried when I held the child in my arms. I quickly said I was sorry to the child. After that, I never used a key to open the door again. I told the child that I was a mother and opened the door as I spoke. Another time, I had a little cold and left my child alone at home. When I came home from work, the room was very quiet. I went from room to room looking for the child, and the child fell asleep by himself. Then I carefully looked at the child's face and picked up the child. I'm hot all over. The child has a high fever of over 38 degrees. There is no way. The old people on both sides couldn't help it. It's pathetic to raise a child alone.

I stopped maternity leave for half a year and then took it to work by myself. Fortunately, I found an aunt near my unit to help me take care of my children during office hours. I went to work at 7 o'clock, and I got it after work at noon and afternoon. This process is very difficult. I was weaned once without milk, and the child was still good. At that time, I rented a house. Later, my aunt was ill for more than two weeks, so I had no choice but to send her to the nursery. The children cry every day, but there is no way. I was sent to a small kindergarten class in three weeks, and now I am studying in a small class. The process is really hard. My father and I are not in the same city. I rent my own house, and my father basically goes home at night. After the child was one year old, he began to eat complementary food, cooking two meals a day and taking them to menstruation's home. So he has to get up at 6 o'clock in the morning and at 5: 30 in summer. Those who don't joke before the child is one year old cry because he can't do it every day, and then he does it. I'm not saying that my in-laws have to help with the children. Yes, they have no obligation. That is, if we can help, will it be better for us? Everyone has a different opinion anyway. Many people say that I am strong and can do things well. In fact, I am not a strong person, but I will be strong when I should be strong. Now it's just to downplay the feelings at that time. Fortunately, that stage has passed, and now I have my own small family.

I took my child to 13 months, and my mother-in-law offered to help because we were working in other places. Mother-in-law asked us to take it back to our hometown. At that time, because of the poor economic conditions, she was promised to take her back to her hometown. She just came to our city for 2 months, and after getting familiar with her children, we accompanied her to take them back to her hometown. Who knows, she took it for three days and said she was in poor health, so let us take it back ourselves. At that time, I had found a job in a small company, but my mother-in-law said I couldn't bring it, so I had to follow my boss. The boss said it's really difficult to recruit people here, so why don't you take the children and work with me? I was very excited and thought it was ok, so I went back to my hometown to pick them up and take them to work myself. During the period, I took my children to work by electric bicycle because I didn't have a driver's license. I always take my children with me when I go out to work. At that time, I was most afraid that my child would fall asleep on the road. Falling asleep means I have to hold her in one hand and ride a bike in the other. I was really helpless at that time. Crying on the roadside with children in her arms countless times. At that time, I also blamed my husband (my mother-in-law said that she was in poor health and went to Wuhan to take care of my sister-in-law who was going to have a baby in June). Then I helped her take care of her children there for many years, I hehe. After half a year, I made up my mind to take the driver's license test. I was practicing by myself at that time. My child sleeps in the back seat. After a difficult test, I took my children to work in the car. I was really relieved at that time. Now that the child is 3 years old and goes to kindergarten, I feel that things are getting better. I will work harder and get more professional certificates. Let's drink more together. I really appreciate my boss, who has been supporting me for years. He will look after my children when I am particularly busy, and so will my husband. As long as I take the children home, I will not be responsible for other things!

The child born last year, my mother-in-law came to help with confinement. After confinement, she will go back to her hometown and take me and my child back to my hometown. After a month, I really can't stay any longer. You said you were helping me, so you cooked a meal, and the baby brought it all by himself. There are still many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, all for children, mainly because of different concepts. My heart is still very wronged. The old man's way is to take care of the children in the way of the older generation. I always look up the information myself when I encounter any problems.

After staying for a month, it feels like three months. My mother-in-law will be willing to help me with my children. If she wants to help me with my children, she has to go back to her hometown. I don't want to. And different ideas. Children still have to stay with their parents. Decided to resign after maternity leave and take care of the children at home

Fortunately, my husband understood and took me back. My mother is too busy, two children. Start raising children by yourself. My husband works far away and usually comes back once every two days. Children bring their own, work harder, and look at the child's face will not feel tired.

It's too tiring and inexperienced to take care of children at first. Sometimes children cry, I don't know why. I don't get enough sleep at all, and even when I walk, I am top-heavy and erratic. Go back to your house and slowly adjust her sleep. Children's sleep is very important, and it is gradually regular. Go to bed early at night, you can have a good sleep, and you don't have to hug all the time. After four and a half months, I gradually straightened it out. The child is five months old and very cute. She cooks and washes by herself every day. Generally, at night, children start to take a shower and wash clothes, wash vegetables and cut vegetables (to eat the next day). She cooks during the day and when she sleeps, but my baby is very good. Even when she woke up, she lay there playing, not crying or making trouble. Thank God for having such a good baby.

I think it's difficult at first, and things can be straightened out slowly. Made it slowly. People are forced out. I used to do nothing at home, but now I have to do all the housework with my children. There is no help, no way, only on your own. My husband is also under great pressure, and he has to provide mortgage and car loan to support me and my baby. I have no income, but I can stick to everything for my children. Watching children grow up day by day is the most proud and gratifying thing. All the hard work is worth it. I don't want to go to work now, I just want to stay with her.

Finally, I want to say that all mothers have worked hard! With a baby smile!

Let me tell you an example of my friend. A friend of mine got married and had children in his forties, and both his father and mother were gone, so the child had to take care of himself as soon as he was born. After the child gives birth to maternity leave, the woman resigns, takes care of the child at home full-time, and the man does sales, so the time is more flexible. The child is with two people, and two people can still take it.

Only later, when the children were over one year old, they had to find a job before they could go to work. The two discussed it and sent the children to the nursery, which covered three meals. Send it in the morning and pick it up at night. I feel very sad. The child is over one year old and is given to a stranger. However, in our generation, the pressure is really great. It is impossible for the working class to let one person earn money to support his family and the other person take care of the children at home.

If the husband and wife have no choice but to give it to the nursery, consider these points:

1, you can find a nursery near your work or home, and you can know anything at any time.

2. The monitoring time is flexible, especially at night. If you pick up the children after working overtime, the custody can be left until then.

3. Have a good relationship with the custodian teacher and always pay attention to the child's growth experience.

The first decade of a child's life is the most tiring and troublesome time. Without the care of the elderly, the husband and wife are very tired and stressed, but if you think about the children, you will get through the hard times.

20 17 experienced fetal arrest, and after arduous pregnancy preparation, my little baby was welcomed. In the process of making, I realized the sinister nature of human nature. After taking maternity leave, the biggest problem is that no one takes care of the children, the in-laws don't want to, and the parents can't help it. then what Do you want to be a stay-at-home mom? At that time, my husband's business was difficult, the family expenses were large, and the mortgage car loan was out of breath! And during maternity leave, my husband said, what can I do with a child? I still spent so much money ... I will never forget this sentence, so I decided to return to the workplace after maternity leave. But what about the children? During that time, I asked many mothers, and they all suggested that I resign, but I was unwilling. So, after maternity leave, I asked many colleagues in the unit if anyone would like to help with the children during the day. Office hours only. So, I know this aunt now. My aunt and mother-in-law are old and need to be taken care of for three meals a day, trying to relieve the economic pressure. So we really hit it off. I leave my children at menstruation's house and take them with me when I have a rest. The average nanny's salary here is 3500 to 4000, including food and shelter. My words are about 2500, not including food and accommodation, so the economic pressure is relatively small, which does not affect the work. But doing so, I am particularly tired. Weight before pregnancy 1 10 kg, only 80 kg at that time. But I walked all the way. ...