Boys who come back from studying in Germany have a monthly salary of 5 K.

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Some time ago at a job fair, I met a boy who came back from studying in Germany. He was born in the 1990s. After graduating from domestic universities, he went to Germany to study, stayed in Germany for six years, and studied in two German schools on the way. Unfortunately, I didn't get my diploma in the end and returned to China in the second half of last year.

I studied in a domestic university 2 1 1, majoring in electronic information engineering. When he went to Germany for graduate study, he studied electronic information engineering in the first university. After studying for two years, he transferred to another university to study electrical engineering. At school, he also had some part-time and internship experiences in Germany. After returning to China last year, he found a job completely unrelated to his major.

In the talent market, we met his father first. His father came to our booth and asked many questions. Later, I learned that he had a son. Because there are so many people in the talent market, his father said that he first saw the recruitment information of our company, so he came to see his son first. After a while, his son also came over.

The young man is still very energetic and looks calm and restrained. I asked him why he planned to change his job. He said that although his current job is relatively stable, he is a large state-owned enterprise. Because of the nature of the post, he has to work in three shifts, and his work is very leisurely, not challenging and repetitive. If this goes on for a long time, he feels that he will degenerate a lot.

I asked him again, which position do you want to apply for? He looked at the recruitment poster and tried to grind it for a long time, saying, I think the positions of foreign trade sales and electrical engineer are ok.

What advantages do you think you have in applying for our position at present? He said, although I don't have relevant work experience in this position, I have a good command of foreign languages, German and English in recent years. At least I won't encounter language barriers in foreign trade. Then he thought about it and said, although I don't have working experience in the post of electrical engineer, I have studied this major abroad for several years, and I still have some theoretical knowledge. It may be better if I can engage in technical work in the future.

In fact, it can be seen that he is not particularly confident. Although at first he felt that he had good conditions in all aspects, although he didn't get a graduate diploma, after all, he stayed abroad for so long, at least his horizons and thinking would be broader.

But after he returned to China, especially in this third-tier city, it was difficult to find a job that satisfied him. He said that he decided to quit this job several years ago, but he didn't want to go to naked resignation, so he took this opportunity to see if there were any suitable job opportunities. He said he was worried about his German and English. If you don't use these two languages often, this function will gradually deteriorate. So he said that he had been studying hard for so many years.

Later, I asked him about his current salary. He said that with the year-end bonus, the average monthly salary will be around 5K. I asked him again, why didn't I think of going to first-tier cities for development after returning home? Maybe there are more opportunities in big cities.

He turned to look at his father and said that his parents were old and wanted to come back to work. They didn't want to make your mother sad, so they chose to come back to work locally.

I asked him again, why did he let his father accompany him to find a job?

He shook his head helplessly, saying that during his six years abroad, he only came back twice in the middle, and rarely spent time with your mother. So after returning to China, his parents followed him, including coming out to look for a job.

When I asked about this, I suddenly felt that he was really a good boy and lived his own life according to his parents' wishes. He followed the route planned by his parents step by step, and every step was arranged and guided by his parents.

I especially want to ask him: Have you ever asked yourself what kind of life you want? But after all, I refrained from asking out loud.

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In the latest season of "Wife's Romantic Journey", Zhang Ziyi said that his marriage was not only unpopular with the outside world, but also strongly opposed by his parents, who were so concerned about Wang Feng's divorce and having a daughter that they were afraid to mention the name "Wang Feng" even after being with him.

Zhang Ziyi revealed that she rented a house downstairs because of her parents' opposition to romance, but she just met her parents in the elevator during the Mid-Autumn Festival, so she could only resolve the embarrassing atmosphere on the grounds of visiting. Despite his parents' dissatisfaction, Zhang Ziyi insisted on staying with Wang Feng from the beginning.

Because, she told her mother in eight words: "I want to live for myself once."

What a weighty sentence this is! We have been taught to be obedient since childhood, to listen to our parents at home, to our teachers at school, and to our leaders when we grow up. It seems that obedient children will be happy and smooth all their lives. However, have we ever thought about all the choices along the way when we are asked and obeyed? Or do you want to make others happy and meet their needs?

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I chatted with my children at dinner yesterday and talked about the recent unit test results. Although he did well in this exam, I am afraid of his pride. I couldn't help but say a few words to him again, telling him that learning is a persistent thing, and we should do a good job in preview and review, so that our grades can be sustained and stable and not ups and downs. Also told him to listen to the teacher carefully in class and be an obedient child.

At this time, the child suddenly stopped the chopsticks in his hand, looked at me seriously and said, Mom, are you sure you want me to be an obedient child? "

I don't understand why he asked me so seriously. I pretended to be calm and said, "Of course, obedient children will make others like them!" " "

This time, he said with some excitement: Mom, I read a book written by Zheng at school at noon today, and I was particularly impressed by one sentence. He said that the best way to destroy a country is to train all its children to be obedient and obedient! Will you die? "

It is hard for me to imagine that this is what an eleven-year-old child said. Although he quoted a sentence from others, at least he is seriously thinking about this problem. Yes, we always ask our children to be obedient, but we never listen to his advice seriously. When he wants to play games, tell him that you should be obedient and study hard. When he wants to buy snacks, he will also tell him that you should be obedient and study hard. .....

In short, all his ideas are always unconditionally harsh, so that he can only obey many times, but yesterday he told me that he should have his own ideas and his ideas should be respected instead of being taught to obey blindly.

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Yes, we all hate Mambo, but who educated Mambo? Just like the boy who came back from studying in Germany, I think he may have a lot of helplessness, but for the sake of his parents, he has repeatedly hidden his thoughts and tried to be a perfect parent.

Just like that boy's parents, what is the purpose of letting their children study abroad? Don't you just want your child to have a good career and a good job in the future? However, if you want your children to have good prospects, why don't you want them to go to big cities and have better development?

In fact, in the final analysis, parents still let their children study abroad for themselves. First of all, they will have a lot of face and feel proud to talk to their classmates and colleagues. Secondly, they will not let their children leave themselves to work in big cities, but also think for themselves, fearing that they will be left unattended when they are old, afraid that they will be lonely when they are old, and they will not be able to enjoy family happiness like other families.

This is China's parents, unwilling to let go, preferring to work hard all their lives. Children seem to be their own tools, and they must live according to their own wishes, otherwise they are not good children.

But why should we be good children? After watching My Wife's Romantic Travel, we were suddenly criticized by Zhang Ziyi for "I want to live for myself once". Each of us wants to live for freedom, not to be kidnapped. We all want to live according to our own wishes, even if we are hit hard, it is much better than regretting for a lifetime.