When people are at the bottom: swallow your voice, swallow your voice, and focus on the overall situation.

I have heard a "rule of the bottom of the pot":

Life is like a cauldron. At the bottom of the pot, as long as you are willing to work hard, no matter which direction, it is upward.

Life has ups and downs, high tides and low tides, which appear alternately all the time.

Maybe you are confused about the road ahead, maybe you feel stressed, but the lower the valley, the more difficult it is, and the more difficult it is to face.

When you swallow complaints, grievances and patterns, life will be suddenly enlightened.

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eat humble pie

A few days ago, I saw Cui's speech in Super Speaker, and I was moved to tears.

Cui was born in a rural family in Hefei, Anhui. When he was born, the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck, making him unable to breathe, leaving him with a lisp and lifelong disability.

Because of physical reasons, even though he was admitted to a key high school with excellent results, the principal refused his application for admission and rudely threw his luggage out of the school.

His father knelt on the ground for two hours and didn't get him a place to go to school.

"I hate, I hate, I hate, why is fate so unfair to me?"

Looking at his angry expression, his father held his face and said to him, "It's no use complaining. Do you want to read this book? " Go home. You're on your own. "

After studying hard at home for three years, Cui successfully entered the university, but after graduation, he encountered a job-hunting dilemma.

Hundreds of resumes were thrown out, all of which sank into the sea.

Even once, he went to the talent market in line early and stood at the front of the queue. The first sentence he saw was: "Get out of the way, don't block the people behind."

That day, the cold wind blew on my face, which was particularly stinging. His father's words rang in his ear: "It's no use complaining, everything depends on yourself."

He made up his mind to put aside all his frustrations and concerns and start his own business, starting with setting up a stall and finally setting up his own e-commerce company.

From scratch, Cui's road to entrepreneurship was not smooth sailing. When the bookstore was opened, it was burned, when the supermarket was opened, it was stolen, and when the company was opened, it owed more than 4 million.

All the grievances, setbacks and pains, he chose to bury them in his heart and keep his mouth shut.

Because he knows that "complaining is useless, you can only rely on yourself."

Relying on this tenacity, he made the online store the first in the Tmall category.

Fate gave him the lowest configuration, but he was silent, accepted all this and tried his best to play Wang Fried's life.

Lu Xiaoman wrote in "Advancing with the Day":

Don't complain, try to tolerate me; Not afraid of loneliness, try to settle down.

The world will not let you go easily because of your complaints, nor will someone help you settle everything because of your distress.

When you are at a low point, don't disturb anyone, hide the pain and shut up.

Remember: children complain everywhere, adults should learn to carry it on their own.

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eat humble pie

Have you ever had a similar experience:

If you are unhappy at work, you can't sleep until midnight. I edited a long complaint in my circle of friends, but I finally deleted it word for word.

When my feelings were tested, I hesitated to call my friends again and again, but what I blurted out was Wan Li's daily greetings.

Because you know, the joys and sorrows between people are not connected, and the accident that happened to you is just a story to others.

The world of adults is immersed in their own pain. Your pain may be understandable to others, but you will never feel the same way.

It's better to bite your teeth and swallow your grievances and bow your head silently than to open the wound yourself and tell your unhappiness in a hurry.

During the Republic of China, there was a famous Miss Qi, Sheng Aiyi, and Sheng Xuanhuai, the richest man in the late Qing Dynasty.

Sheng Aiyi is a veritable rich second generation born with a golden spoon.

The first half of my life can be described as infinite scenery, and my family was good since childhood. I am also known as one of the top ten talented women in the Republic of China.

However, in the changing times, the rest of her life is like the second half of a roller coaster, going straight downhill.

For political reasons, her husband and children were criticized, her property was confiscated, and she was driven out of the villa and lived in the garage.

Opposite the garage is the vegetable market, next to the septic tank, which stinks.

I used to live in a luxury villa, and I had servants to take care of my diet. Now I sleep on a hard bed and have to sweep the road.

From the peak to the trough, human feelings are warm and cold, sweet and sour, but there is no trace of sadness on her face.

Every time I visit her relatives and friends and see her living environment, I can't help crying.

She looked pale, comforted them, looked at the people in the vegetable market, smoked cigars leisurely, and was almost not depressed.

In her spare time, she spends time gardening, reading and practicing calligraphy. Even though she lives near a septic tank, she still keeps her room clean and tidy.

Talking about the future, she always says hopefully, "Another day has passed, and another day is to be earned."

Between words, it seems that the gears of years have never run over her.

As San Mao said that sentence:

Life is not smooth sailing, there are peaks and valleys.

In the face of life's critical attack, we should learn to be a quiet adult, adjust our emotions, let go of our grievances, live with hope, live quietly and live hard.

As long as you can hold your breath, swallow the pain, and try to carry it on, there will always be a time when the clouds will come out.

There are countless storms in life. May you be bitter without speaking, painful without speaking, cultivate yourself in silence and temper yourself in the years.

When you get through this bitter and cold day, you will surely welcome the warm sunshine in spring.

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Hey, big picture

In life, ups and downs are the norm.

But many people can enjoy the joy of heights, but they can't bear the loneliness of valleys.

Once you reach the bottom, you will be depressed, demoralized, disoriented and unable to do anything.

As the saying goes, prosperity tests virtue and adversity tests pattern.

A person's attitude towards the trough can often determine the height of his life.

In the late 1980s, Shi Yuzhu created a business myth.

In just three years, with a principal of 4,000 yuan and a profit of 35 million yuan, Zhuhai Giant High-tech Group was founded.

At that time, the media rushed to report that Shi Yuzhu was in the limelight.

However, no one expected that prosperity would come so quickly. The result of the investment in Giant Mansion was that the capital chain was broken, and Shi Yuzhu was in debt of 250 million overnight, which became the "first negative" of China.

When the building collapsed and the legend ended, countless audiences mocked him with glee.

At this point, Shi Yuzhu did not collapse. After his grief, he began to face his own problems.

He specially collected all the articles that criticized him, and carefully read the analysis and judgment of others on his failure word by word.

He organized a criticism meeting, so that everyone could fire at themselves and sum up experiences and lessons from countless abuses.

If you want phoenix nirvana, you have to experience the pain of burning.

Shi Yuzhu accepted all the bitter fruit of failure.

Finally, after more than ten years of ups and downs, Shi Yuzhu has re-established a more lofty business empire in the ruins.

He said, "One can only learn when the tide is low."

There is a famous "inflection point theory" in economics.

The starting point of any upward trend must start from the lowest point.

Therefore, in a sense, the bottom of a person's fall is often the starting point of his success.

Many times there is no way out, there will be a way out.

Only in the darkest place can people see where the real light is.

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Haruki Murakami said in Kafka by the Sea:

Don't complain when you are down and out, don't give up when you are frustrated, and still live seriously when you are frustrated, and survive the temper of fate. Those injuries will eventually become your hard armor.

What won't kill you will eventually make you stronger.