Self-reliant women should be kapok trees, not camphor trees.

In the final analysis, marriage is a matter for two people. If you want long-term peace, the best state is that husband and wife should stand proudly like two kapok trees in the wind and rain. One is not as strong as a tree, and the other is as weak as climbing Campbell.

? 0 1. No problem, I'll raise you.

Before my husband and I got married, we were in the clothing business. Because of the location of the store and the vision of purchasing goods, business has been sluggish. I asked him,

"If I get married and I stop doing business, can you support me?"

"No problem, the money I earn now is enough for both of us."

After getting married, I ended the bleak clothing business and started a housewife at home with peace of mind.

Soon, various problems in real life began to make this small family with weak economic foundation begin to appear crisis.

Our marriage is like a naked marriage. In-laws gave 700 yuan and made two sets of bedding, even if they married their son. The wedding room is rented.

Parents' conditions are also average, with a brother and a younger brother. But our parents persuaded us to build our own house, at least with our own nest. The house was built, and despite the help of my parents, I still owed tens of thousands of yuan.

As the saying goes, it is not as those who have been poor together know. The child is in poor health after birth and often has a cold and fever. Every time I get sick, I have to spend hundreds of dollars on injections and medicine. For the husband, it is often not until the end of the month that the money is spent.

What I was most afraid of at that time was that my child was ill. Every time I take an injection with a sick child, I feel very heavy and can't see the future.

The years at home were difficult, except for the Chinese New Year, I seldom bought clothes. Knowing that the conditions are not good, it is impossible to ask for these again. Forget about cosmetics, they are all cheap. I didn't even buy sunscreen in summer.

02. Two people work harder than one.

With her husband's salary of one month 1800, it is far from being able to pay off debts.

When my child was over one year old, I began to work in my father's fish pond. My father gave me several hundred dollars every month. It seems that the salary is not much, but I often eat and drink together at my parents' house, which also saves a lot of money for meals.

Two people make money, and life is getting better. After I started working for my father, my debt decreased a little. When the child is ill, he is not short of money.

One day my husband came back and said to me, "There is a lottery station that recruits people to sell lottery tickets. 600 yuan every month. The fish pond is too tired. This job is not tiring. You can try it. "

I said, "six hundred dollars is not much." He said, "It's not much, but it's enough for our family to eat for a month."

Judging from the tone, he still wants me to do something and make some money. Afraid that I was too tired, he helped me find a lighter job. Two people working together is better than one person.

I haven't asked my husband since I started working to make money. Why can you say that you made money to support me before you got married, but now you are.

No matter how beautiful the oath is, it can't compare with the daily necessities in reality.

Only independent women can have free self-confidence.

Maybe I'm stronger in my bones I want to be an independent woman. First, financial freedom, and then personality independence. I want to be strong. In marriage, whenever two people go their separate ways, I won't be unable to live.

I am also willing to be my husband's right-hand man, start from scratch and run my own small family with the efforts of two people.

After several years of marriage, I began to take the self-taught examination, and got the diploma of the self-taught college at the end of 2008. At the beginning of 2009, I passed the examination of openly recruiting technicians on farms.

Now I earn more money every month than my husband. It can be said that I have achieved financial freedom.

I can dress myself up with the money I earn. This feeling of not asking for money from others is wonderful. I can buy my own clothes and cosmetics. In the second year of work, I went to have my double eyelids done. Now many friends see me and say that I am getting younger and younger.

When my husband is short of money, I can pay for my children's tuition by myself. Last year, on my husband's birthday, I gave him a mobile phone as a birthday present.

My husband is a clumsy person and will not praise others easily. When I was admitted as a technician in the third place, he couldn't help but say privately, "My wife is still quite powerful." In the eyes of their classmates, I don't depend on anyone. I can find a job myself, and everyone agrees that I am still capable.

This year, I participated in two compositions, an excellent prize and a third prize. I try to improve myself in my work. I learn office software from others while watching it. My Excel level is no less than my company's accountant. When the company has problems making forms, my husband sometimes calls me for advice.

I tried to say goodbye to the tears in laughter.

I watched a small video yesterday. A boy gave a girl a birthday present. When the girl saw the gift box, she thought her husband was using Apple X's box. What other gifts were there? Laughing while disassembling, it turned out to be Apple X mobile phone. The girl's laughter became choked. "Why did you buy this? So expensive. "

When I heard the girl's words, I was in tears, and I seemed to see myself before.

One year, on the morning of my birthday, my husband got up first. He kissed me gently when I slept with my eyes closed. "Wife, today is your birthday. Happy birthday to you. " Then I took out a box from under the pillow and opened it. It was a platinum necklace with a sapphire pendant, and I wore it around my neck.

That's what I called him. "Why did you buy this? How expensive! Net spending. " Laugh in disgust and shed tears.

Sometimes, I dare not recall what I would be like now if I really wanted to be a housewife.

In marriage, as a wife, I prefer to be his helper rather than a bystander. With the help of two people, the beautiful life created by * * * will be cherished and cared for by each other.

I have a strong personality, so I can argue with each other when quarreling. Even in my most difficult time, my husband never mentioned the word "divorce" to me.

I am also very confident, and now my husband is even more reluctant to give up.

I would like to make a pair of towering kapok trees with my husband, stand side by side and bloom the most beautiful flowers together to resist the cold wind and bitter rain that life has given us.