Reflections on Ten Classic Sentences in The Analects of Confucius

"Experiencing Excitement and Feeling" in Yu Dan's lecture "The Wise Don't Confuse"

A wise man knows his friends.

However, in fact, this improvement is to assist other elements. Why did Confucius say that you need to know others? Because "wise men are not confused." True wisdom should be a way to reduce our confusion.

What is a wise man? A wise man knows people, but he really knows people. Is it easy to know others? I'm not going to tell you here. Do you think you know your neighbors? Do you know your team? Do you know your students?

I think this is too much. I just want to ask you one question: Do you know yourself? The second question: Do you know any relatives around you? If you say both these questions: I understand! Then you are a smart man. It is not easy. Because our evaluation of ourselves is the eternal Sphinx mystery, and the most difficult thing for people to evaluate is themselves.

Call the difference between inside and outside, and strive for the realm of honor and disgrace.

The so-called "sharing weal and woe", when people really face great honor and disgrace, will they still have a judgment on themselves? For example, for no reason, some humiliation in the world came. Han Xin leg humiliation, of course, can draw out a sword for a moment of dignity, life may be. He will not be Huaiyin Hou in the future, but will win a battle thousands of miles away for Liu Bang, the emperor gaozu of Han Dynasty. So he thought about it at that time, for the future, people can sometimes tolerate the present, and he can also accept it calmly. In fact, what is rare is Huaiyin? What happened? Hey? Shake a scarlet and let you play? Cooking? Stop? Yan Yan ┤ ┤ ┣ ┣ ┤ ┤ ┣ ┣ ┣ ┣ ┤ ┤ ┤ ┣ ┣ ┣ ┤ ┤ ┤ ┣ ┣ ┤ ┤ ┤ ┤ What is this? /p & gt；

Then when a person has glory, when the aura, flowers and applause of the world cover him, will he still evaluate himself? This time is also very difficult. Why many successful people in the world are self-expanding is because you regard too many accidental factors as the necessity of life. There is a lack of awe in the heart, and there is a lack of caution in walking on thin ice.

Bian Que three brothers, who has the highest medical skill?

Everyone knows the name Bian Que. As a world famous doctor, Hua Tuo's real magic lies not only in his magical medical skills, but in his always sober evaluation of himself.

King Wen of Wei once summoned him and asked him: I heard that all three brothers in your family are studying medicine, so who has the highest medical skill? Bian Que blurted out: My eldest brother has the highest medical skill, followed by my second brother, and I am the worst. King Wen of Wei was surprised and asked, Then why are you famous all over the world and they are not famous at all? Bian Que said: My eldest brother has excellent medical skills, so he can take precautions himself. This man can tell at a glance when he is sick, and then he cured you with medicine, so everyone thinks that he can't cure the disease and has no reputation at all (laughs). This is what we call health care today.

My second brother's ability is to treat diseases from the beginning. A person will get seriously ill in the future, cough and catch a cold, so he will be cured with medicine. Therefore, my second brother's reputation is limited to the village, and he is a doctor who treats minor illnesses. What about me? Because the medical skill is the worst, we must wait until this person is terminally ill and dying, and then take the medicine of tiger and wolf to bring him back to life. The whole world thinks I am an excellent doctor.

Think about it, like my eldest brother, people's vitality has not been hurt at all; My second brother is treating a disease. This man is a little weak and will be right back. If I treat a disease like this, I will get my life back, and my vitality will be hurt by more than half. Who do you think is the best of the three of us?

Divide inside and outside, divide honor and disgrace.

In fact, I think every successful person should keep this story in mind. There are too many perfections and accidents in this world, so there is no need to be confused by everything outside, sometimes happy and sometimes depressed.

There is a saying in Zhuangzi, which I think is also a realm of life: "It goes without saying that the world is the name." When the whole world praises you, you don't encourage it, go one step further; "The world is not it, not it." When the whole world is criticizing, accusing and saying that you are wrong, you are not depressed at all.

"It's time to distinguish between the inside and the outside and fight for the realm of honor and disgrace." It is enough that a person should be able to determine the difference between his own inner and outer, and be able to distinguish between honor and disgrace. In other words, even if there are 10,000 voices outside, even if there is only one voice inside, it is also an inner judgment. What kind of person has such a firm judgment? There are wise men, so wise men are not confused.

Confusion: the contest between external and internal.

Look at the puzzling "chaos" of Chinese characters. It is either/or above and a heart below. What do you mean by or? There is probability in mathematics. It can be this way, that way, regarded as or. In fact, this may be an external rich choice. You can choose anything in today's world, but can you choose? Depends on the size of your heart. Think about it, the external and the internal have been fighting. If the outside is big and the inside is small and broken, you will get lost. If the outside remains the same, the inside is very big, and it is too late to move, it is regarded as not confused.

Therefore, being confused and not being confused is a contest between the outside world and a firm heart, and it is a lifelong contest. People don't have to be confused until they are forty. People's confusion is accompanied by life. No magical calendars were torn off, and they suddenly became smart. People's feelings are lifelong. The so-called wise men are not confused, in fact, they consider too many judgments in our hearts.

A true wise man can see every opportunity and myth in life at any time.

Smart people can see opportunities clearly.

Our world has professional rules, but simply obeying them is not a wise man. Wise people can always hear voices from all corners of the world. I once saw an interesting story about the recruitment of a large telecommunications company. A big company wants a simple blue-collar worker who can send newspapers in Morse code.

Many people went to apply, and when they arrived, they found that the recruitment environment was very noisy. On a very big plane, people come and go in the office system, and the air is very noisy. These people were arranged to sit on two rows of benches and go in for an interview. These people sit here and wait.

An hour passed and no one called; Two hours passed and no one called. Then came a young man who was late, and there was no seat on the stool. He stood for a while and suddenly went straight to the door. Ten minutes later, the human resources manager came out with this young man, apologized to everyone and said that you can go back. This position is already his.

The examinee was not convinced and asked why we waited for two hours and no one called. He gave it to him as soon as he entered. Not reconciled! The manager told a secret: "In fact, from the moment you all sat here, in such a noisy air, there has been a Morse code being sent out, and it has been saying: Anyone who knows this Morse code, please go directly to the door." But none of you will listen, just walk there and wait for someone to call you. As soon as the young man came in, he said, I understand. In fact, I believe that every one of you knows Morse code, but what we want is not a simple operator, but someone who can quickly capture information in the world with his ears. "

What is a wise man? It is not necessarily under limited rules to find people who should abide by the old rules. The real wise man is to break the rules and regard it as a gentleman's incompetence, that is, to seize your opportunities everywhere.

Koreans have a good analogy. There is a monster in the world, whose front face is covered with hair, so when it faces each other, its face will never be clear. But when I walked past you, you suddenly knew who he was, so I reached out and caught him ... Sorry, his head was bald, you couldn't catch anything, and you watched him go. The name of this thing is opportunity.

Therefore, this thing of opportunity is always unclear. When it comes, you can really seize it. Once he comes to you, when you see him clearly, you will never miss him.

So in fact, how to see the opportunity clearly is the heart of the wise. Therefore, the real wise man is to identify many inner desires in the world in our lives.

Smart people make friends-three lost friends, three gained friends.

We say: Can a wise man practice? Confucius also taught people a lot of wisdom. He tells you that you must make many friends in your life. There are three lost friends and three gained friends. Three kinds of good friends: quality, quantity and taste. Make honest friends, tolerant friends and knowledgeable friends, and you will grow. There are also three friends who are unfavorable: some are remote, some are good meat, and some are peaceful. Those who are eloquent, cunning, imaginative and grumpy are not good friends.

When making friends, people should open a window of the world with wisdom, so that life can be better. Isn't this great wisdom?