Our destiny is always in our own hands.

Yesterday afternoon, I finished reading Zhao Meiping's personal long autobiography My Suffering, My University. A person with only a primary school education, through unremitting efforts, has become a reporter of the famous Yin Zhi magazine and a veritable writer. Zhao Meiping's bumpy fate and legendary life experience touched me and made me feel that a country girl with poor background, no education and no background is the only one.

1, the real power is to keep running with tears in your eyes.

Just like the title of this book "My Suffering, My University", Zhao Meiping's growth process is simply a history of suffering, but fortunately, she has not been defeated by suffering, but has become stronger in a series of blows and setbacks. Unfortunately, she suffered a lot, but she also honed her perseverance.

Zhao Meiping originally had a warm and friendly family. Her father is a commune accountant, very educated, her mother is gentle and virtuous, and she has a sister who is three years younger than her. A family of four lives a quiet and peaceful life. However, when Mei Ping was 8 years old, a disaster came. Her father was admitted to the hospital because of a sudden leprosy. Results During the treatment, the careless nurse mistyped the medicine, which directly led to his father's death. A happy little family has become tottering because it has lost its pillar.

After Zhao Meiping's father died, her mother's ex-husband Yang Dongqi often came to harass their orphans and widows and threatened to kill them. The mother and daughter live a life of fear and pain every day. In desperation, Meiping's mother left home with her two daughters overnight and hid in her cousin's house. In order to get rid of the rascal forever, my mother listened to the advice of her relatives and chose to flee from Jiangsu to Anhui. Through blind date, she met her stepfather, an honest and grumpy quarryman.

But the mother only took her sister to Anhui, and Meiping gave her cousin a family in the village as their child bride. During her days as a child bride, Meiping did almost all the housework, from cooking and washing dishes to buying wine for her adoptive father at night, and let her do all the work that her adoptive father's children didn't want to do.

However, no matter how many things she has done, she will never get the slightest warmth and feel any love in this family. Every day when eating, the whole family eats around the table, but she has never been to the table. She can only eat silently with her own small bowl, always hungry. Even in the cold winter, she has no warm clothes and can only shiver in the cold wind.

Then one time, my mother came back to see her with her stepfather, and the opportunity finally came. She asked her stepfather to take her back to Anhui. But her stepfather's family has been surrounded, and it is not easy to raise two children. At first, my stepfather didn't agree, but there was nothing I could do later. With her mother's persuasion and persistence, her stepfather finally let go and took her back to Anhui to live, but her adoptive parents didn't want to draw water with a sieve. In desperation, her mother and stepfather had to adopt her.

Anyway, I can finally go back to Anhui with my mother and stepfather. She is full of joy and longing for her future life, but the reality is not as beautiful as she imagined, because her stepfather's family is too poor, with only three stone houses and six people in her uncle's family. The living space is so crowded that she has to put up with bullying from her uncle's house.

I escaped from my nightmare, and now my life is not much better. Although her studies are excellent, she is the only student in the school who has been admitted to a listed key middle school for many years. But because the family is really poor, in desperation, she can only give up her studies and go to the mountains with her father to pick up stones. She wields a 18 pound sledgehammer every day, doing the rough work originally done by men, and her hands often bleed. This is an extremely heavy job, and that's what she did.

The heavy life is like a mountain, which makes her almost breathless. A smart and talented girl, is she going to be a quarryman all her life in the mine? Her future seems hopeless. The hard life worried her all day. She often runs to the river at the door alone and cries for her tragic fate. Sometimes, she will sit there all afternoon.

But when she cried too much, she stopped crying, because the cruel reality made her realize that life doesn't believe in tears. Even if tears turn into pearls, a gloomy life won't shine because of it. The real power is not not to stop crying, but to keep running with tears in your eyes.

Zhao Meiping's tragic life experience reminds me of a sentence. Those who can't kill you will eventually make you stronger. The critical strike of fate did not defeat Meiping. Even if life can't see any light, she insists on going forward alone and turning all her sufferings into a force for progress.

2. No matter how hard life is, we should bravely pursue our dreams.

Mei Ping is smart, capable and beautiful, and is sought after by many boys, but she likes Sichuan in the same village. Chuan is a clever and shy boy. Later, I went to Shanghai Baosteel to work instead of my father. After returning to the village, she opened her eyes, told Mei Ping about the prosperity of Shanghai and advised her to work in Shanghai. Meiping's parents don't approve of her going to Shanghai alone, but no one can stop Meiping from doing what she wants to do. One night, while her parents were asleep, she eloped with Chuan to work in Shanghai, because the family was really in debt, and the huge debt of more than 2,000 yuan owed by her mother due to illness and surgery was counting on her to send money to pay off her debts. Even if she doesn't want to, her parents seem to have no choice but to acquiesce in her disobedience.

In this way, she eloped with Chuan to Shanghai. At first, she worked as a waitress in a small restaurant After many twists and turns, she finally entered a Sino-foreign joint venture garment factory and became a sewing worker in the factory. At first, her fingers were almost tied into a hornet's nest because she was unfamiliar, but she was never a person who flinched in the face of difficulties. The hard life has honed her endurance and toughness. She is not afraid of hardship, and she is also very clever. A month later, she finally got used to the work as a sewing girl and soon became the production team leader. Finally, she became a technician and a real office white-collar worker. But in fact, in the garment factory where she was at that time, there were almost no foreign female workers who could be technicians. She was the first.

The work in a clothing factory is not easy, and overtime is common. Although the busy work every day makes her nervous and tired, just like when she was in Anhui, she never forgets to read. As soon as she has time, she goes to the nearby bookstore to read eagerly, often buys some magazines and books to read, and begins to try to contribute to some newspapers and magazines.

But her living conditions were not good at that time, and writing was a lonely craft. Every day when she comes back from work, she sits at her desk and begins to write articles. It is very hot in summer, and there are too many mosquitoes in the dilapidated rental house. She had to wear long trousers to cover herself up, and as a result, her body was covered with prickly heat. It's too cold in winter. I hold a book in my hand every day, and as a result, I have a large area of frostbite on my hands.

But no matter how hard she tried, she never gave up. For her, reading and writing are like a beam of light, illuminating her gloomy life. She was fascinated by the beauty of reading, temporarily away from the pain of reality, eager to see a glimmer of life through writing.

Everything comes to him who waits. Gradually, her manuscript was published in more and more magazines and newspapers, and even reported by CCTV and major media. Among the working girls in Shanghai, she has even begun to become a minor celebrity.

No matter how dark life is, there will always be a place where Mars shines. By chance, she learned that bosom friend magazine wanted a reporter, and sent her manuscript which she had written for many years without hesitation. Although her education is not enough, because of her rich experience, passion and talent for writing, she finally became a reporter of DeUEX's bosom friend magazine. During her career as a journalist, she wrote her extraordinary life experiences into one book after another and became a widely circulated book.

From a bottom-level quarryman, to a waitress, to a sewing worker, and finally to a reporter and writer, it is not difficult to imagine how big the span is and what kind of efforts are needed. But it turns out that Zhao Meiping deserves a generous gift from fate, because she has never given up her dream. No matter how difficult her life is, she never gives up studying. Even in the most difficult years when she smashed stones, as long as she didn't do it on rainy days, she sat at home reading books, borrowed books from people with books in the village and wrote 14 diary. It can be said that books have warmed her whole bitter youth, enriched her spiritual world and laid a foundation for her future.

As Zhao Meiping said, if people can't choose the fate of birth, they can also choose the fate of survival. Our destiny is always in our own hands. Although she can't change the fact that she was born in poverty and her family was broken, at least she can change her destiny. Life is no longer easy, but as long as you are brave enough, you can still pursue your dreams.

3. God helps those who help themselves.

The harder you work, the luckier you are. This sentence is more appropriate to describe Zhao Meiping, a peasant girl who was born in poverty, has no education and no background, but finally created her own world, which is the result of her unremitting efforts. But many times, in order to succeed, guidance and support from others are also crucial. On the way of her struggle, I have to mention three people, which can be said to be the nobles she hit.

The first one is Chuan who took her abroad to make a living in Shanghai.

The mine will eventually be mined. Meiping smashed stones for five years, and this only livelihood will soon be unsustainable. Embarrassment at home forced her to start thinking about her next job. Chuan, who came back from Shanghai, told her about Shanghai's prosperity, perhaps because the temptation was too great, perhaps because the family was too poor, or because Mei Ping was restless. In the end, she eloped to Shanghai without telling her parents.

After seven or eight years, I finally washed away the lead, from waiters in small restaurants to sewing workers in garment factories to technicians and salesmen. But even if she becomes an office white-collar worker in Shanghai and even embarks on the road of starting a business, it seems that she is always on the road of pursuing her dreams. Her fate, like her name, floats like duckweed. Later, she went to Shanghai, Wuhan and even the United States, and took root in one strange city after another. With her own efforts, she has achieved enviable results, which is naturally inseparable from her efforts and persistence, but she is always grateful to Sichuan, because if he hadn't brought her out, her life would probably not be so colorful. For her, it was Chuan who gave her a chance to go out.

The second is the Japanese leader when she worked in a clothing factory-Mr. Ishikawa, a serious and professional Japanese old man. He admires Mei Ping very much, and frankly speaking, Mei Ping is the most diligent and intelligent girl he has ever seen in China. Later, when Meiping left the garment factory to seek better development, Mr. Ishikawa gave her three suggestions, as follows:

First of all, when you talk to others, you must look them in the eye. Because people with vacillating eyes often give people the impression of dishonesty and unconfidence;

Second, when speaking, speak slowly and quietly, don't be impatient, don't hesitate, enough is enough, and don't have nothing to say;

? Third, shake hands with others hard to make people feel your enthusiasm.

These are just some very basic workplace etiquette in our eyes today, but for Mei Ping at that time, she did not receive higher education or special vocational training. These reasons have never been told to her before. Mr. Ishikawa's words played a vital role in her later life. He told her how to build self-confidence and dignity and how to communicate sincerely with others.

Teacher Ishikawa's inculcation made her know what is serious, what is dedicated and what is professional. Only when a person takes his work seriously can he be respected and appreciated in the workplace and establish a person's personality and dignity. In Meiping's career, Mr. Ishikawa is definitely a very important guide.

And poor Chen of bosom friend magazine, taking Meiping to knock on the door of literature.

When Mei Ping was still a sewing worker, she began to try to contribute to Yin Zhi magazine, but it didn't go well at first and was often rejected. Chen Ye, a poor teacher connected to her manuscript, criticized her without any euphemism. She didn't know how to write an article at all, but after that, poor teacher Chen seriously revised the manuscript and pointed out her mistakes. Under his guidance, Meiping's articles are becoming more and more mature, and the manuscript delivery rate is getting higher and higher.

Later, in the early days when Mei Ping came to work in Yin Zhi, when many people expressed doubts and extreme distrust that a primary school student could also be a reporter of a famous magazine, Teacher Chen Qingpin encouraged her not to be influenced by external negation. His approval has restored her confidence and hope in her work. Since then, Mei Ping has fully released her talents in Yin Zhi, and her works are getting better and better. She is advanced almost every year and has been recognized and appreciated by everyone.

Throughout Zhao Meiping's life, it is unfortunate and lucky. Although fate is cruel to her, it has also taught her to face up to the setbacks in life bravely, constantly ask herself to make progress, and strive to seize all hopes and opportunities. Later, I met several people who had a vital influence on her life. They are lucky, but fundamentally, they are still the result of her efforts. Because in this world, not everyone is willing to give advice and help others, only those who deserve advice can get that opportunity. God helps those who help themselves.

No matter how unfortunate, there is always a fate in your own hands. When there is no way out in life, it is possible to turn our destiny around by saving all our strength. When we do our best, all that remains is the reward of waiting time.