Someone on the wine table deliberately toasted you, and countered with three moves of "king bombing", so that the villain was beaten on the spot.

Someone asked the hot pot: At the company dinner, a colleague made a toast in circles and walked up to me, deliberately skipping me and not giving me a toast. What can I do to avoid embarrassment? Just a few days ago, Brother Hotpot wrote an article. Very similar to this question. Interview management position, the ability of leading team and the cooperation consciousness of managers are the key contents of the interviewer.

On the wine table, someone toasted one by one, but deliberately passed you without giving you a toast, and deliberately showed it to the boss and colleagues at the same table. This really tests your adaptability. Can you resolve the embarrassment and turn defeat into victory, reflecting the level of emotional intelligence? This question is the same as the interview question of Hotpot Brother. On the wine table, some people smoke in circles, and everyone smokes except you. The reason is the same.

This colleague is dissatisfied with you and deliberately embarrasses you in public for three purposes:

One is to express "I look down on you" in front of acquaintances.

The second is to say "I am not satisfied with you" in front of acquaintances.

The third is to make public your contradiction in front of acquaintances.

Among the interview questions, the recruitment is for management positions. The quality requirements for managers are different from those for ordinary employees. Ordinary employees can think that you care about me, I care about you, you don't cooperate with me, I ignore you, and die of old age. However, managers should have a certain mind, be able to tolerate other people's dissatisfaction with you, and have the ability to unite others. The core of leading a team is to win over all available people. If you can pull them in to help you, don't push them out to become enemies.

The mainstream view of hot pot in interview questions is: someone toasts, deliberately not giving you respect; Or, if someone smokes but doesn't talk to you, you should smile and keep quiet. There is no need to panic, let alone blush and have a thick neck. Do you feel that your boss and colleagues are laughing at you all over the table? Did it embarrass you on the spot? To tell the truth, mature people in the workplace know that it is not you who are ashamed, but that narrow-minded colleague. What are you embarrassed about?

It is normal to stumble in the workplace and among colleagues. On the desktop, such as in meetings, restaurants and group construction, mature professionals will not show it, but will fight to the death in private, and be polite and hypocritical on the surface. Anyone who deliberately drops eye drops on his colleagues and deliberately exposes contradictions is not a mature person and is not deeply shrewd. Although he is also a "villain", he is the lowest "villain" and this villain is the easiest to deal with.

As a manager, in front of a table of bosses and colleagues, you should take the opportunity to show yourself, quality and emotional intelligence, far higher than the colleague who wants to embarrass you. Grasp these three points: first, resolutely not be fooled by provocation and treat it rationally. Being fooled when you turn your face on the spot shows that you are as "low-level" as that colleague. Second, mature correspondence, when toasting, make a toast to him specifically, so that the company and colleagues on the table can see that you are open-minded. Third, take the initiative to resolve contradictions and strive to be your own person, instead of being pushed out to become an enemy. Play games after drinking, take the initiative to chat privately, find out contradictions, find ways to resolve them and reunite him.

Many netizens agree with Brother Hotpot, but many netizens don't. For example, a netizen left a message saying that such a villain should not be treated as a gentleman. He deliberately embarrassed you in public, which means he made it clear that he provoked you. Do you want to repay him, warm him and influence him? Is it possible? If you give it back to him, he will spill your wine on the floor and let the whole table see your jokes again? Be kind to the wicked, otherwise, you should deliberately show off your mind and be careful not to steal chickens and eat rice.

This netizen's message is not unreasonable. Doing things in the workplace cannot be wishful thinking. You showed your kindness and generosity by offering him a glass of wine in return. As a result, people give you a hard time again. Therefore, in the netizen's message, there are three kinds of "king bombing" counterattack tactics, so that the villains are beaten on the spot and the price drops on the spot.

First, you deliberately disrespect my wine and don't send me cigarettes. I know you are a mean person, so there is no need to "warm" you. I also smoke and propose a toast to others, but I won't give it to you. Contradictions are exposed when they are exposed. It's on, it's on. Who's afraid of who?

Second, you deliberately disrespected my wine and didn't send me cigarettes. I felt that this group of people were not bad to me, so I shouted, I didn't bring any cigarettes today. Whoever gives me a cigarette, there will be seven or eight people scrambling to give me a cigarette immediately, depending on who is heavier, and you will make a fool of yourself on the spot.

Third, he didn't give me a toast or smoke. On the surface, he is dissatisfied with me, but in essence, he looks down on me. If he is powerful, no matter how dissatisfied he is, he will make a toast obediently. The best way to deal with such a dog is to ignore him and work hard. If you care about him, he will give you a toast and lose face.

Finally, popularize the basic etiquette of smoking and toasting. The fundamental principle is that no matter what contradictions there are at ordinary times, we must estimate the face of others at the scene. If it is not necessary to tear it in public, don't tear it. Therefore, we must adhere to the general principle that "one person is not as good as one person". Even if you are unhappy with someone, there is no need to have hatred for a cigarette and a glass of wine. It is better to block the road than to push the wall. I remember a friend deliberately did not propose a toast to his colleagues. As a result, this colleague was promoted and made things difficult for his friends all his life. Not worth remembering.

The basic etiquette of smoking. The first rule is that it is best to send it around without losing anyone. If you want to send it, send it to everyone present. Don't be a snob, don't deliberately embarrass anyone. This will make others think that you are narrow-minded Second, don't take the initiative to smoke if you smoke too much. In principle, you don't smoke cigarettes below 15 yuan. Many people are very picky about smoking. If you don't smoke too much, people will think you are "fishing". Third, don't put your hand on the filter and give it to others. The other end holds a cigarette and hands it to others. Fourth, when you meet people who don't smoke, you should also offer a cigarette. It's easy to ask, don't you smoke, make an exception? Give a cigarette when the other person reaches out, and stop smoking when the other person beckons. When you ask, people next to you will know that he doesn't smoke, otherwise people you don't know will think that you deliberately embarrass others.

The basic etiquette of collecting cigarettes. First, pick up a cigarette and make a gesture of thanks. Second, don't look at the brand of cigarettes immediately, don't smell the smell of cigarettes, don't evaluate the quality of cigarettes, and don't dislike the low grade of cigarettes. Third, non-smokers want declare in advance, not me. Thank you. Fourth, if you don't smoke, you should also take your cigarettes away. If you refuse on the spot, it will embarrass the other party. You can't smoke, or give it to the person next to you. Fifth, I want to return a cigarette.

The basic etiquette of toasting. First, Ning Jing walked around, leaving no one. Second, the toast should start with people with high positions, followed by the elderly. Third, when toasting, we should respect both superiors and subordinates, and we should not appear snobbish. Fourth, for people with high status and the elderly, cups are lower than each other's cups. To the level and lower level, glasses should touch each other. Fifth, when others propose a toast to you, you should look for opportunities to reciprocate and treat each other as equals, giving and taking. Sixth, people respect your wine, even if you don't drink it dry, you should act like drinking it, and don't lick it on your face, which is disrespectful to each other.

If you encounter this kind of deliberate provocation, is there any better way to deal with it? Leave a message to refute. There is also a message asking, I give others cigarettes, others don't answer, and he gives me cigarettes in turn. Is this because my cigarettes are not good? What does this mean? Who can tell me?