How to find your own blind spot? 2020.3.28

In the gravitational wave leadership training camp, two students in the third round of one-on-one executive coaching have the same coaching contract. "How to find out what your blind spot is?" Blind spots are often unconscious and unknown. How can I realize my blind spot? Deep in thought, thinking hard, wondering how to let people find their blind spots? Arouse deep thought ...

It's easy to know people, but difficult to know people. The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself. It is really not easy to "know yourself" correctly. Know your own advantages, find your own advantages, give play to your own advantages and develop your own advantages. To know your own shortcomings, you can choose to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, foster strengths and complement each other.

What is the blind spot? One of the four small windows in johari is the part that others can see but I can't. Blind spots are not necessarily shortcomings, but also advantages or potential advantages.

As the saying goes, the authorities are fascinated, the bystanders see clearly, and they can't see their own restrictions in the bureau, such as the emperor's new clothes, which means a deer is a horse. ...

Blind spots may be caused by color blindness, poor eyesight, dark light, invisible, invisible. Attention is focused on selectively seeing what you want to see. The famous psychological experiment "Invisible Gorilla" explains this phenomenon. Blind spots may be limited vision, myopia or presbyopia, or limited viewing angle, resulting in one eye being blind and unable to see Mount Tai.

Blind spots may also come from cognitive bias. For example, a business representative's performance is not good, and his immediate supervisor is very dissatisfied with his work. When the supervisor communicated with him, he found that he felt good about himself and didn't realize his own shortcomings. The cognitive deviation of both parties may be the blind spot of business representatives.

Blind spots are unconscious, invisible, unclear and unwilling to see; Another blind spot is self-deception, holding the ostrich mentality and choosing to escape rather than face it.

Why is it important for you to find your own blind spot? Student A: For better self-growth and better self-achievement.

How to find your own blind spot?

First, finding blind spots from external behavior, personality, character and ability belongs to dominant shallow blind spots.

1, see the blind spot from the 360-degree evaluation: the human resources department in the general organization conducts a 360-degree interview evaluation every year, showing your advantages and disadvantages and blind spots like a mirror. Look at the blind spot from all directions and angles. What is the cognitive deviation between self-cognition and others' eyes?

2. See the blind spot from the test evaluation: Through the personality and sexual orientation test, you can also use this as a mirror to find your own blind spot. Such as type 9 personality, 4-D assessment of leadership, disc assessment, Hogan assessment, MBTI professional personality test, etc. For example, 4D's leadership style is yellow and inclusive, refusing to innovate, step by step, avoiding conflicts, compromising, paying attention to harmony and over-commitment.

3. Look at the blind spot from a friend's point of view, and choose to invite a few close friends who know you very well from the circle of friends to find out your blind spot by taking a mirror photo. In the same year, Japan's insurance industry invited friends and customers to have dinner regularly to help him find out his own shortcomings and blind spots and supervise his improvement and progress.

4. Look at the blind spot from the mentor's point of view: find your life mentor, give expert advice, and find your blind spot. Use the tutor's desk to find blind spots. What will colleagues and friends say about you behind your back? What was your past experience of finding your blind spot? Blind spots not only refer to shortcomings, but also include advantages you don't know.

5. Looking at blind spots from God's perspective: If you pull away from your own mindset and look at yourself from the past to the present to the future, what blind spots will you find? Look at yourself from a broader perspective and a more objective perspective.

6. Look at the blind spot from the customer's point of view: invite external customers and other stakeholders to give your suggestions and feedback and find your own blind spot. A student is now looking for his own blind spot from the customer's point of view, and grasping the degree of customer's warm reception is just right and excessive.

7. Behavior habit blind spot: For example, a leader's language habit is always used to saying "but", but he doesn't realize it, giving people a negative feeling and not realizing it; Some people's speaking habits can be summarized as "You are always like this …" and "You are always like this!" I like generalizations.

8. Looking at blind spots from the perspective of time management: Some people live in the "busy mode" of autonomous driving, are busy every day, and don't know why, and have no sense of direction. "Busy in blindness" is simply "busy". They only bury themselves in pulling carts and never look up at the road. Maybe doing useless work efficiently and diligently and enjoying it.

8. Looking at the blind spots in the magic mirror: Using the hypothetical framework, if you get the magic mirror and all the blind spots are clearly visible, what will you see? The customer himself found four blind spots. Dare to try, dare to take responsibility, persist hard and be more professional.

Second, look for blind spots from inner self-awareness, thinking mode and mental model, which belong to deep hidden blind spots.

1, from the blind spot of self-cognition: Who am I? What kind of person am I? This is related to their own environment, growth experience and family education. Some people have self-awareness of "no sense of value", "no sense of security" and "no sense of confidence"

2. See blind spots from feedback: from feedback to self-evaluation, find unknown blind spots, and put yourself in a team or organization to get accurate feedback, such as blind spots in communication, relationship and cooperation.

3. Look at the blind spot from introspection: reflect three times a day and reflect every day. What other unconscious blind spots are unknown? Self-awareness can not only find the shortcomings of the unconscious, but also gain insight into the potential advantages of the self. Is your inner self-dialogue often self-affirming, or are you used to negative self-doubt and self-criticism?

4. Look at the blind spot from the way of thinking: Do you realize fixed thinking or growing thinking? Is it positive thinking or negative thinking? Do you think systematically or blindly? Can you often jump out of the inherent mode of thinking and think from multiple angles and dimensions?

5. Looking at the blind spot from the timeline: Are you a person living in the timeline (living in the present, lacking a sense of time) or a person living outside the timeline (having a strong sense of time and attaching importance to planning)? Do you often live in the past (regret the past and indulge in the pain of the past), live in the present, experience the present, or live in the future (worry about the future)? Standing in the air overlooking your growth trajectory and mental journey, what will you find?

6. Looking at the blind spot from the mental model: What are your restrictive beliefs? What are your internal obstacles? What is the little devil (or devil) hidden in your heart? Is your mode "being-doing-owning" or "having-doing-being"? I once worked as a public welfare coach for a client, and his career has been experiencing difficulties. Although he works hard, he can't see his negative thinking mode. After counseling, he finally realized his blind spots and restrictive beliefs. Desire to turn the mental model into an existential model.

Find your own blind spot from the unconscious, turn the unknown into the known, be suddenly enlightened, turn the blind spot into an opportunity for growth, and help realize self-breakthrough, self-transformation and self-transcendence.

Dear friends, please join me on the journey of inner exploration! Why not try the above method and see what your blind spot is?