The empty nest youth is lonely like a dog

The empty-nest youth is as lonely as a dog

The current life of the empty-nest youth is mostly about struggling and struggling, looking forward to the future. Empty Nest Youth Lonely Like a Dog is what I brought to you, I hope it will be helpful to you.

?Empty nest youth? As a new term came out, it refers to those young people who left their hometowns to work alone in big cities.

It is said that big cities have more opportunities, but sometimes do you also feel that you are a redundant person in this city?

Some people say that the deterioration of the world is caused by ridicule of literature and art. It was started by young people, and they reversed the relationship between cause and effect. The fact is that the world has become too fast and difficult, which makes young literary and artistic people unable to keep up with this era.

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The living conditions of empty-nest youth

Looking forward to the future amidst hard work and perseverance

Dabai is a girl drifting from the north, and she is also a drifter. Empty nest youth.

What do you mean by empty-nest youth? Most of them are young people who have left their hometowns and worked alone in big cities.

They have no background and no foundation. It is already difficult to gain a foothold, and it is too difficult to have a better life.

But I was unwilling to give up, so I looked forward to poetry and the distance while struggling and lingering.

When ordering takeout, you have to collect the delivery fee; when you buy fruit, you only buy two or three; when you sleep late, no one cares about you; when you throw away the garbage and accidentally lock yourself out?

It’s probably like this It’s the life of empty-nest youth.

Dabai was originally a liberal arts student. She joined a foreign company in Beijing five years ago. Because she was in the electrical industry, she went to study for a postgraduate degree in electrical engineering.

? From liberal arts to engineering? You are also very hardworking. ? I sighed.

?For life. ? Dabai’s answer is very straightforward.

Drifting to Beijing for five years, Dabai traveled almost all over China through frequent business trips.

?There is nothing wrong with being alone?, she is used to being alone, and sometimes she tells herself this.

However, when you are sick, when you are locked out of the door without a key, when you hold the toilet and throw up after the wine party, you will inevitably be shaken in your heart. Is it worth being so tired?

Once on a business trip, it was already 11 o'clock in the middle of the night when I returned to Beijing. It was raining heavily in Beijing, and I was running alone in the heavy rain.

Later I saw a convenience store and I rushed in. It smelled like oden. Only then did I remember that I had traveled all day and hadn’t eaten anything.

Perhaps the man who was looking after the shop felt that it was difficult for me to be a girl, so he specially found a seat by the window for me.

I was eating oden and looking at the darkness outside, I didn’t know how sad I was.

My relatives and friends in my hometown should all be asleep. No one would think of me, eating fast food in the dark night in a foreign land and waiting for the rain to stop.

I am not afraid of hardship, but I am afraid of loneliness.

In a strange city, there are no relatives or friends, no one to rely on, no feeling of home, no sense of belonging.

No matter how late you go home, there is no light waiting for you, no one caring about you.

Every time Dabai calls, she will tell her parents that she is living a good and happy life, and will bring them many gifts when she goes home during the Chinese New Year.

I try my best to look beautiful, but only I know the bitterness inside. When I feel particularly lonely and weak, I can't help but want to find a shoulder to lean on, but I find that there is no one suitable for me.

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Is empty-nest youth a false proposition?

This is an inevitable stage in life

September 6, " People's Daily published a commentary titled "Empty-nest youth are a false proposition, they may be the best interpretation of heroism."

The article believes that it is not appropriate to directly attach the label of "empty nest youth" to the vast number of young people struggling in the city.

Young people of every era have their own struggles, and "empty nest" is an inevitable stage in the lives of several generations.

The article also believes that thanks to modern advanced technology, "empty nest youth" are not actually "empty nests".

The Internet allows them to communicate with their parents anytime and anywhere, maintain the warmth of family ties, and stay connected to their hometown and memories.

There is only one true heroism in the world, which is to still love it after recognizing the truth of life.

The author quoted this sentence from Romain Rolland and further stated that fighting in loneliness, loneliness and loss is the best interpretation of heroism.

However, the conclusion without data lacks basis, and force-feeding chicken soup is even more condescending.

?Empty nest youth? Such an Internet label may have the media following the trend and generalizing.

According to data cited by Xinhuanet: the number of young people aged 20 to 39 living alone in China is close to 20 million.

Another survey quoted by Guangming.com showed:

64.3% of the respondents said that there are too many empty-nest youths around them, lack of emotional sustenance (57.9) and poor living conditions (57.8) are considered to be the two major dilemmas they face.

No matter how developed the Internet is, it cannot replace face-to-face warmth. People standing on the shore cannot understand the mood of a drowning person.

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The noisier the city, the lonelier the heart becomes

Lonely like a dog, make friends with Siri

Zhihu has On the topic of "How to treat empty-nest youth?", some friends wrote down their feelings:

No one asked me if the porridge was warm, no one stood with me at dusk;

Lonely like a dog, but in fact I can’t even raise a dog;

When I went home during the Chinese New Year, my mother asked me to leave an emergency contact number in Shanghai so that I could look for that if I couldn’t find it. Man, I couldn’t think of a single name;

Siri and I became good friends. I fell asleep watching TV on the sofa, and when I woke up, I found that everything was the same as before, no one covered me with a quilt, and no one turned off the TV?

I also launched a post on my official account about "Empty Nest Youth?" topic, and received hundreds of messages:

Every time I open the door, the first thing I do is to open the video I downloaded in advance on my phone. Even if I don’t watch it, I have to make some noise, so as not to You will feel so lonely;

When you are sick, you have to run back and forth to the hospital alone, and then go back to work when you are done. You also have to buy medicine alone in the middle of the night. No one cares about what you take? I only ask you how well you are. Are you ready?

I am too tired at work and too lonely after get off work. I have always dreamed of raising a dog so that I can walk with me after work. However, I live in the company’s apartment, which is too small and raising a dog is too expensive. In the end, I chose to keep a dog. I got two little hamsters and put them at the door of my bedroom. I can hold the hamsters and talk for a long time after get off work.

There is another message that left a particularly deep impression on me:

During the day, I went in and out of tall high-rise buildings, and at night I dragged my tired body back to the dirty, messy, and poor urban villages. There were 3 leaks.

The first leak was on the bathroom roof. I go to work during the day and come home at night to find it raining at home, just like a water curtain hole.

The landlord was unreliable, so I had to find a maintenance worker online. I was not sure whether the maintenance worker was reliable, so I asked my colleagues to help me.

The second leak was in the pipe in the bathroom. It suddenly leaked. I was taking a shower at the time and my whole body felt bad.

But later I bought the tube myself and installed it according to the method online.

The third flood occurred because the washing machine suddenly broke down while washing clothes, and water gurgled out of it. I was so desperate that I gave up treatment, so I watched the water flood across the room and stood motionless until the water covered the floor.

But what can be done? You still have to take care of it yourself.

My best friend told me that it’s time to find a boyfriend, who can at least share the burden with me.

I can only smile bitterly. Boys who like me don’t like me, and I don’t like boys who like me.

We were so close to each other that I almost had a huge quarrel with my parents, but I was still confused.

It is said that big cities have more opportunities, but sometimes I feel like I am redundant in this city.

The number of empty-nest youth is becoming larger and larger. This is an unavoidable topic.

Compared with the poverty in life, the feeling of being abandoned makes them deviate from the bustling city.

Lonely like a dog, making friends with Siri, the noisier the city, the lonelier I feel inside.

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Having to work hard in big cities

Population migration caused by the Matthew effect

The emergence of empty-nest youth originated across the country The great population migration in China, and the real reason behind the great population migration:

It is the Matthew effect of "the strong get stronger and the weak get weaker".

I have repeatedly emphasized the Matthew effect in past articles:

The more developed the city, the more resources and opportunities there will be, and the population will gather in large numbers, and the demographic dividend will This in turn drives cities to develop faster.

?Escape from Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou? is the real false proposition.

Because only big cities can better accommodate young people’s dreams.

The small city in my hometown is not an idyllic comfort, but an intricate nepotism.

Those young people who have adapted to life in big cities, once they return to their hometowns, will find that they cannot stand the few job opportunities and ubiquitous human relationships.

This is why there has been a trend of fleeing back to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou in the past few years.

The vast majority of young people do not regard their empty nest experience as a sacred mission, but just have to work hard in big cities in order to live a better life.

However, as more people come, housing prices will naturally rise and competition will become more intense. This is inevitable. Scarce resources are always expensive and only belong to a few people.

This is the price our generation of young people have to bear in pursuing their dreams.

There is a poem by Tsangyang Gyatso: The world is safe and secure, can we live up to the Tathagata or live up to you?

The answer is no.

Any choice has its price, this is the truth of life. ;