You say that the best life is always somewhere else, but where is the way back?

I climbed the Great Wall a few days ago. When there was a sea of ??people and it was difficult to move, I took a photo of the Great Wall and posted it on WeChat Moments.

A minute later, all the comments were sent, "It's better in China, it's so lively!! You don't know, I think the only thing that's gone terribly wrong in the past 10 years is Immigrate to Canada. ”

Although I often see her complaining about the boredom and boredom of life in Toronto in her circle of friends, she never expected that life in Canada would bring her great pain and regret.

I replied to her: "In the past few days in Beijing, there have been long lines everywhere, and it has been foggy every day. The blue sky, white clouds, and beautiful mountains and rivers in Toronto are not as bad as you said."

"It is sparsely populated and inaccessible, and every day's life is the same. Half of the year is winter, and I can only stay at home and watch TV." Qiqi sighed. < /p>

"I'm so envious. They know as soon as they come that life here is boring..."

In the past few years in Canada, I have often heard something like this. complain. At first I didn’t understand. Since I don’t like it here, and since life is better elsewhere, why not live somewhere else?

Later I discovered that in Canada, there are many Chinese people who live their current lives vividly.

Skiing and skating in winter, outing in the park in spring, camping and barbecue in summer, and watching maple leaves on train in autumn. Some people put on their backpacks as soon as they get off work on weekends and go on a casual trip.

The most important thing is that wherever they go, they always have cheerful and peaceful smiles on their faces.

Canada’s leisurely and slow-paced pastoral life actually makes many people yearn for it; just like China’s busy and humane fireworks life makes countless people unable to stop.

We are always here, our hearts are elsewhere, and our lives are elsewhere. It seems that only in this way can we resolve the disappointment and loss of ordinary life.

This "elsewhere" is like the red roses and white roses in a man's heart. It is a cinnabar mole and a particle of rice. The only difference is between "getting" and "not getting".

What has not been obtained and what has been lost is what makes people yearn for and dream about.

They always want to escape from the life they live in because life elsewhere seems better than they imagined.

But he doesn’t know that when his heart is not at peace, he will never be able to maintain a calm and calm attitude wherever he goes, and he will always envy his life elsewhere.

The world is so big, it’s the same everywhere.

If you are beautiful, you will step on lotus flowers as you go, and the fragrance will bloom every step of the way; if you are miserable, you will see the mountains and worry about the mountains, and see the water and hate the water.

As Milan Kundera said, when life is elsewhere, it is dream, art and poetry. And when somewhere else becomes here, the sense of sublimity immediately turns into the other side of life: cruelty.

During those two days, there was smog in Beijing, and the PM2.5 value was off the charts. And Xiaoxi posted a set of photos of mountains and rivers, "Beautiful, isn't it? The PM2.5 here is less than 2.5."

Xiaoxi, who is the same age as me, is a Beijing girl with a Scorpio sign, and now lives in Lijiang. Three years ago, she quit her job in Beijing with a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, came to Lijiang alone, and opened a coffee shop on Xinyi Street.

On the day of the opening, she posted a message on WeChat Moments, and I told her something she must have heard countless times, "I really envy you. You opened a coffee shop in such a beautiful place and you can do it leisurely." What I love?"?

She smiled and said that it was actually not as good as everyone thought. Sometimes she was under a lot of pressure and sometimes she was a little confused. She was afraid that the store would not run well. After all, she was originally in Beijing. The income is much higher.

I have blocked many people’s Moments, but I always click on Xiaoxi’s Moments.

In the morning, she went to the morning market carrying a homemade bamboo basket, and in the evening, she arranged flowers with her friends. In her free time, she runs along the Qingxi Reservoir, goes camping, goes rafting, learns calligraphy, practices yoga, and learns to make all kinds of novel and cute snacks.

During those days, I was breathing in the smog in the imperial capital and felt very uncomfortable because of my throat inflammation. And she is always "picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence" leisurely and contentedly, and every part of her life is enviable.

Three years later, Xiaoxi still runs the coffee shop, but with two more assistants, the business situation is getting better and better. She no longer said she was under great pressure, but her eyes became more determined and calm.

“At first I was unsure. But after several years of hard work and attempts, I feel that I can do it. And in the process of running a coffee shop, I have grown a lot personally. , and her mentality is becoming more and more relaxed."

She gets up at around 9 o'clock every day, goes to the busy morning market to eat something, and then goes to the store. When there are no guests, I read books and videos, study coffee beans, and learn how to make new desserts.

Everything Xiaoxi has experienced makes me feel wonderful.

When people laugh at people who work hard to realize their dreams, when keyboard warriors criticize those who escape "Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou" for no reason, Xiaoxi's heart becomes more and more complete, and her life becomes more and more fulfilling. Rich.

She firmly knew what she wanted and worked hard to make it a reality.

Xiaoxi said, "Actually, many people say that a good life requires a good material foundation as a prerequisite. In my opinion, the attitude towards life is often more important than material conditions.

< p> These years of experience have made me discover that life is the same everywhere. What is different is your choice. The key lies in how you view life. ”

The essence of life is plain, not boring. It's just that some people's attitude towards life is too single and absolute.

If you choose to live in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, as long as you have a dream, persevere and don’t follow the crowd, you can live your own life.

If you choose to live in seclusion in the mountains, as long as you have a calm mind, self-discipline and self-love, and a passion for nature, you can also live your life into poetry.

The British writer Rachel Joyce wrote a passage in "A Man's Pilgrimage":

"The land between the fields is undulating and divided into squares. , surrounded by high and low hedges.

He couldn't help but stop and look at it, feeling ashamed; it turns out that there are so many different shades of green, some as deep as black velvet, and some as dark as black velvet. It was so light that it was almost yellow.

The sunlight must have accidentally caught a passing car or a window in the distance, because a bright spot came into view far across the stacked hills, such as A flickering star. Why didn’t you notice this before?”

Yes, why didn’t you notice this before? I believe that many people will feel this way when they look back at the life path they have traveled as they grow older.

The beauty in life has always been there, but most of the time we choose to get stuck in a mediocre life, never slowing down, stopping, looking at it with our heart, and listening to it.

Everyone has two worlds, one is the external world seen by the eyes, and the other is the internal world unfolded by the mind.

People who have a taste for life usually have an eye for discovering beauty. They can live a colorful life and find new ideas in life even in a dull and boring life.

People who lack wisdom are always envious of life elsewhere. They are full of complaints and hostility all day long. They are wandering wherever they are, and their lives will always be elsewhere.

You stand on the bridge and look at the scenery, and the people watching the scenery look at you under the bridge.

Only slowly will we understand that there has never been any essential difference between the so-called "elsewhere" and "here". They are all the same days, the same life, the same Love hates separation.

No matter how dazzling the changes elsewhere are, they are still external. What really touches people is what they see inside.

Freedom, dreams, and life are not necessarily somewhere else. With a wise heart and a pair of wise eyes, there will still be scenery nearby.

We always love to pick roses from far away, but we don’t know that the most gorgeous rose is in a dimly lit place not far behind us.