Will the second child take the mother's surname?

Recently, I saw a post in the headline, which roughly means that the second-born mother should take her surname. After all, the mother is an only child, and I hope her husband will agree. I didn't expect her husband to flatly refuse, because they have no such precedent. If they do this, others will think that the second child is not born by themselves, and may even have a negative impact on the growth of the children and have a bad feeling for the two children.

I agree that if the wife is an only child, it is understandable that the second child has the same surname as the mother. I have two daughters, one with my surname and the other with my mother's surname. We are all only children. Not only people like me, but also my classmates and friends around me.

You may be surprised. In fact, on our side, this practice has been implemented for nearly 20 years (the prefecture-level city with the strongest coordinates). Is our generation born after 80? More than 90% of the post-90s generation are only children, which shows that the one-child policy is strict. In addition, we have attached importance to children's education since ancient times, and the cost of raising children is very high, so everyone has one. Since the first generation of only children got married, there has been a new way of marriage custom, called family union, that is, the man does not marry the woman, the man does not want the bride price, and the woman does not want the dowry. Two families with better conditions after marriage each contribute part of their money to buy a suite, and the young couple live separately, which is equivalent to the merger of two companies to set up a subsidiary and have two children after marriage. A surname (who comes first) usually gives the man's surname first, but if the woman's economic conditions are relatively strong, she will give the woman's surname first. On the other hand, if the first girl takes the man's surname and the second boy takes the woman's surname, will there be any contradiction? In most cases, it is not great. There is almost no preference for boys here, and even those who have given birth to sons around me prefer to have granddaughters. Unless one family has the throne, there is a big gap between the two families, and the right to sign will change. Therefore, the most basic principle of this family marriage custom is that it is suitable for each other.

Will two children with different surnames affect their growth? This is a social problem. If there is a family around you, and the two children are the same father and mother with different surnames, then are there so many strange colored glasses? As an immigrant city (with a local population of more than 600 W and a foreign population of more than 7 million), it is more tolerant and has no such problems.