My favorite girl stole my money. What should I do?

I married Pumbaa five years ago, which was my birth year. At the wedding, friends and relatives praised Pumbaa for his honesty and ability. He became a boss at such a young age and has a bright future. I also feel that I am a happy little woman, thinking about what my husband and children will look like in the future, and my face is full of peach blossoms.

He always forgets to tell me.

Shortly after my marriage, I found that the fact was completely different from my imagination.

The so-called courier company run by Pumbaa and his friends has no business at all, let alone making money. In fact, when in love, Pumbaa is very stingy and almost "penniless"; On the contrary, I pay for every date, and even occasionally I put a few hundred-dollar bills in his empty wallet.

Pumbaa and I have agreed to implement aa system after marriage, so I get paid every month. I always divide the money into two parts: one part is turned into cash and stuffed into the interlayer of the cosmetic box, and the other part is left in the credit card. The interlayer of the cosmetic case is quite small. I always put money in, but I never count it out. Until one day a few months later, I intend to use this money to buy Pumbaa a mobile phone as a birthday present. Open the mezzanine and find that there are only two thin pieces of money left inside!

I called Pumbaa immediately, and he just mumbled faintly, "I took it and forgot to tell you."

This is the first time we have quarreled after marriage, and it is also the first time we have quarreled over money-I am quite pedantic and always feel that this quarrel is "off the table", but it is only the beginning.

From then on, even though I kept changing places where I hid my money like a guerrilla, Pumbaa always had the ability to take it away and "forget" to tell me. After several failures, I have no cash at all.

One weekend we went to the supermarket together, and I paid the bill as usual, using a credit card. After swiping the card, I put it in Pumbaa's coat pocket and remembered to ask him to come back the next day. At the end of the month, the bank sent a statement: 800 yuan has disappeared again!

He knelt on the ground and begged me not to divorce.

If that's all, I will definitely continue this marriage for the sake of "face". However, I obviously underestimated Pumbaa-

Less than 1 year after marriage, Pumbaa gradually became very busy, socializing, working overtime and traveling, but he still took money from me from time to time. One night, Pumbaa went home drunk again and fell asleep. After a while, Pumbaa's cell phone kept ringing by the bed. I brought it here and just "hello" the other party hung up immediately; Five minutes later, the bell rang again, but it was still the same phone number, so I had to wake Pumbaa.

Pumbaa absently picked up the phone, said a few words and hung up. I felt a little strange and asked angrily who the other party was; Pumbaa pretended to sleep and refused to answer, so I gave him a hard push-to be honest, I really didn't think too much at that time, just wanted to make a "work" on the topic. Who knows, Pumbaa suddenly jumped out of bed and shouted, "It's my girlfriend. She wants me to accompany her now! "

I was completely stunned, watching Pumbaa roll up the quilt and walk into the living room. Soon, there was snoring on the sofa. ...

It took me a few days to find out that Pumbaa knew the girl before she fell in love with me, and their relationship has always been "unusual". Before marriage, Pumbaa proposed to break up with her, but after marriage, she was still unable to resist the girl's "entanglement" and came together again-these were just Pumbaa's "confession", and the real situation was unknown.

When Pumbaa "confessed" these words to me, he actually knelt on the ground and begged me not to divorce. I hesitated. After all, I got divorced less than 1 year after I got married, and I can't get by anyway.

I turned on the gas and closed the doors and windows.

In the summer of 2003, Pumbaa finally ended his so-called company and got a position of sales manager in a foreign trade company, which was a stable income. We made a new agreement: he gave me 3000 yuan for family expenses every month-with the previous lesson, I decided to seize his "economic lifeline". Although he is an "ordinary citizen", he has to.

A few months later, I found myself pregnant and showed signs of miscarriage. Pumbaa still travels a lot, so he asked me to stay at my mother's house for a while and promised to accompany me every weekend.

After having a baby in my stomach, I "value" money more than ever-after all, Pumbaa and I have nothing, and hospitals need a lot of money for regular inspections, preparation of baby products and childbirth. However, Pumbaa doesn't care about this at all. The monthly payment of 3000 yuan is delayed again and again. Occasionally, my credit card fell into his hand. In just half a day, Cary's original 4000 yuan was not left, and she was overdrawn by nearly 2000 yuan!

When I was almost 5 months pregnant, one weekend Pumbaa suddenly said that she couldn't come back and wanted to go to Hangzhou with her old classmates. Before he left, he asked the courier to send his laptop and some DVDs, saying that he was afraid that I would be too lonely.

That computer is Pumbaa's work computer and is rarely taken home. Tired of watching DVD, I suddenly thought that Pumbaa might download some small games, so I began to look for them one by one.

Only then did I find myself an idiot-in a folder, I found a photo of him and a girl, head-to-head, very close, and there were actually several good friends of Pumbaa; In another document called "Daily Accounts", there is a line that says "Cocoa living expenses 1000, 660 for shopping with Cocoa, 370 for eating with Cocoa ..."; To make matters worse, I later found a photo of him and another girl, and they were making an exaggerated kiss.

How many girlfriends does Pumbaa have? I don't know anything, and I am immersed in the happiness of expectant mothers all day!

Pumbaa stayed in Hangzhou for three days, and his mobile phone was turned off until Monday afternoon. That kind of pain almost drives people crazy. In a rage, I smashed the computer screen and then stopped a taxi and ran home. I still can't reach Pumbaa. At night, I turn on the gas and close the doors and windows. ...

Pumbaa arrived home 10 minutes after I turned on the gas. He was obviously frightened, stayed for a while, hugged me and cried. Before I woke up, I hit him, bit him, smashed things at home, cut the clothes I bought for him, and tore up the photos taken at the wedding reception. Pumbaa didn't stop me, just cried and begged me to forgive. He vowed that the girl met online, and he got bored when I was not at home, so he took her to Hangzhou to play. But nothing happened between them, although they slept in the same room. ...

He said he wanted to be free by himself.

I gave birth to a girl last summer. With the birth of the child, we suddenly became rich-I received a maternity insurance and gifts from my parents and relatives. For me, more than 20 thousand yuan is already a lot of wealth.

I imagine using this money to buy insurance for my daughter, but Pumbaa has been thinking about this money under various excuses-one moment he said that he would buy candy and eggs, and the other he said that it would cost thousands of dollars to vaccinate his children. In the month when I was confined, he took 1 000 yuan from Cary. On the day of the child's full moon, Pumbaa disappeared. Suddenly someone knocked at the door at home and said that the bank had come to collect money. Only then did I know that Pumbaa secretly set up a credit card, but it was overdrawn and not returned. After a few months, it will be more than 6700 yuan with interest. If you don't pay back the bank, you will sue the court!

I was shaking with anger, but my daughter was just born, and I never asked for a divorce to save face and have a baby.

Who knows that just last month, Pumbaa suddenly filed for divorce. He refused to admit that he was having an affair, but repeatedly stressed that he wanted freedom. During this month, I visited the legal aid center, women's federations and law firms countless times, but the answers I can get are all against me-unless I can catch conclusive evidence that Pumbaa is living with someone, I can't fight for more rights for my daughter at all. Today, I just want to send a post to tell you what happened to me. I was even angrier when I saw a person posting that he was caught stealing by the police.

When I first arrived in Sweden, I heard from the Consul General of the Consulate General that some China people had done some disgraceful things, which affected Sweden's overall view of China people. He also comforted us that people from Middle Eastern countries stole things and the Swedes wronged us. But I hope to pay attention to my words and deeds abroad, because we represent the whole Chinese nation rather than individuals. People will not say what someone did, but what China people did.

Today, I went to a supermarket I often go to and bought only a postcard. As a result, the cashier had to check my bag. I asked why, and she said that everyone should check it when they bring it here. I always carry that bag. Most people carry bags. Just checking me! ! ! )

I really feel insulted! ! In front of so many people! ! !

When I first came to Sweden, I felt good. Wherever we go, the service staff are very enthusiastic, and passers-by are also very enthusiastic. But recently, I found that sometimes, I met some cashier service personnel, greeted the customers who paid the bill before and after me, and immediately gave me a straight face. I am so depressed! ! !

Today is the most serious one! ! ! ! Is the poster reported in the newspaper? Have any friends who know Swedish read it?

Bigger bags are not allowed in the supermarket. I was checked once, but I had a good attitude. Express sympathy for the landlord's experience! But I also hope that the landlord will not change his view of the whole because of a few small things.

Abroad, China suffers from mixed quality! ~

When you see that many people's words and deeds are discriminated against by foreigners ... there is no way to ... do your best ... you can't change everyone's views and living habits ... and some living habits are in line with foreigners' lives ... until improvement is the best. ....

Improve the image of China people in the eyes of foreigners. Start with everyone in China ... Start with small things. ..

I remember a few years ago, a China man came to Sweden to see his daughter and stole things in the shopping center. He stole it several times without being found. As a result, he became more and more courageous. ..

In fact, there is closed-circuit television in Sweden, and the security guards also found it. ...

For the last time, I stole a lot of things, and the security guard couldn't stand it. As a result, I was called to an empty room in the mall. When the security guard called her only girl, the woman committed suicide because of shame! ~~

There are some things that our department can control ... because of the relationship between habit and personality. ..

China also learned a lot from defendants and harassing neighbors ... because music was played at midnight or carnival. ...

It's not noisy under normal circumstances! ~~

I remember Sweden ... Generally speaking, parties can be held from Friday to Saturday night, and music can be played until midnight, which is not allowed compared with 12 ... from Sunday to Thursday midnight. ..

Pay attention to this, too. .....

Well, how can I put it? Because I want to go, maybe I still like its quiet and peaceful. What I said upstairs is not wrong. Do your best. When others can't control themselves, they try to make themselves happy. After all, it is a rare experience, and it is important to have good memories.

I wish the landlord happy:)

Thank you. I suffer indignities almost every day in China, especially when I work in some government agencies. It feels very different to be here. I'm always afraid that people will be prejudiced against us in China. In fact, the service in Sweden is still very good on the whole. Most Swedes are ok. Several times, the person in front of me saw that I only had one thing, and asked me to pay the bill first. Some Swedes are indifferent. Actually, everyone in the world is the same. But there are still differences on the whole.

Don't mind being unhappy in a foreign country, it will hurt your health, so let it be! !

People with immigrant faces are always discriminated against in these countries, and China people are no exception. Why are they discriminated against? It is because someone has done something that discriminates against others, thus affecting the image of Chinese people abroad! The key problem is that you can't stop others' words and deeds, you can only be responsible for your own words and deeds! As long as what you do is worthy of your heart, don't care about those discriminations.

If you really can't stand it, find a deserted place to live in seclusion as soon as possible.

PS, I read the local newspaper in Gothenburg these two days. Newspapers don't report such trifles at all.

It may be a little old-fashioned If you want to be angry, you must live up to your expectations.

You don't understand, this is a kind of national pride injury, not that I can't stand a little anger. As I said, the level and frequency of domestic service make customers angry. But I don't think it means the same thing here. You don't know, when I walk on the streets of Sweden, I feel stiff.

Hmm. How interesting .....

I've been in Sweden for so many years ... I really haven't encountered anything about bag searching. .....

My impression is that Sweden can't just search for bags, right?

Hehe ... there are many disgraceful things ... there is no need to get angry one by one. ...

You can't control others ... so even if you are angry, those people still go their own way! ~

Living outside, you can't do whatever you want ... Just remember, when you do things, don't embarrass China people. ...

Then you will live a wonderful life! ~

The master's words are really like "the voice of great compassion sweeps away the haze" and "seeing the sun through the clouds", which makes us netizens see hope and the future! A bolt from the blue and an awakening may not be enough to describe the accident of the master's article; Clouds in Wushan and flowing water in the Yangtze River are even more difficult to compare with the master's literary talent! Huang Lu, what a shock! You shine on the world and see thousands of miles; Rain and dew all over the world, Ze Wanfang! Through your profound words, I seem to see your heroic spirit. I seem to see your wisdom of writing articles all over the world with a large sum of money in your hand; As if I saw you pressing your sword and looking around, Jiangshan has countless heroic spirit! Landlord, your writing is really good. The only thing I can do is to put this post at the top.

It seems that the supermarket has really started searching for bags recently. I have been here for more than a year. I used to go to the supermarket with my backpack on my back, and no one cared. I was checked twice in the last two months, and once I went shopping without buying it, I came out empty-handed.

I wonder what happened to others. I was asked twice if I could look in my bag, so I let him. But next time, you can complain and see what's going on. After all, all the local regulations are in Swedish. I wonder if this inspection is legal.

Everything has two sides. I feel that the service in Sweden is very good, from government employees to ordinary workers, and it is very good for China people.

Are bags not allowed in the supermarket? My big schoolbag goes in every day

Who can say whether it is legal or not?

Hehe, almost all supermarkets have written that it is forbidden to bring bags, and there are usually small cabinets at the entrance of supermarkets, which can be locked and kept. But you can usually bring a small shoulder bag.

As guests, it's really shameful for us to steal. . .

Hey! China didn't do anything. He's here to steal. . . can't bear/stand

Maybe that's why I was beaten for stealing in China ~ ~ ~

the second part

Last month, my classmates and I went shopping in Norway. She told me that the management of the shopping malls here is very loose, so we can take some things without paying. So we took some jewelry and some clothes and came out without paying. I came out first, and as soon as I came out, I was caught by the staff in the mall, but my classmates were not caught.

After that, they sent me to the police station, the police made a statement for me, and I admitted everything, so they let me out. I thought it was nothing, but they called me again the other day and asked me to go to the police station.

I'm so scared now. Can you give me some advice? What should I do? I am here now because my boyfriend works here, but he is not a citizen here either. I have an ID number. I have been here for almost 1 year, and I originally planned to return to China next month. But according to the present situation, can I go back? Will they sue me? Will this put me in jail? Still have to pay a fine?

I really regret it now! ! ! How could you do such a thing at that time? Please give me some advice! ! !

What a pity! No wonder people think of us this way. First of all, some people in China are too unruly outside. See this post

, so sad!

When these people do these things, do they ever think that it will bring shame to the people of China?

Because of greed and petty gain, it left a stain of contempt for life. Let those who study abroad bear the differences of others for her behavior.

What a humiliating expression!

Is this man really from China? I hope it is. This is just a rumor.

You really make me angry! That's disgusting! ! ! However, since I know I'm wrong, that's good. Don't do this anywhere in the future! ! People are poor but can't be short-sighted! ! ! Don't lose your integrity in order to take advantage. This is my opinion. Don't be afraid of what has happened now, and accept the punishment with the right attitude. Don't think it hurts when I stand and talk. People should be responsible for what they have done.

I really regret it now. I really didn't know what I was thinking, and I didn't want to defend myself anymore. What I did wrong is wrong.

But I'm really confused now. I don't know what to do now. The police said they would send me a letter last week, but it hasn't arrived yet. Should I go to the police station? But I can't speak Swedish. I can't speak English either. I didn't let my boyfriend know about it. I'm so nervous. What should I do ... what will the police do to me? I'm applying for a visa for next year now. Will it be impossible? I want to go back to China next month. Can I go back?

After this incident, I really feel that there is no regret medicine in the world. Especially in foreign countries, don't do something you think will be fine. Keeping the rules is the happiest thing. I really want to bump into a dead man's head now. I haven't slept well all day after what happened.

Buy yourself a piece of tofu and pat yourself to death. This is a disgrace to China people.

You won't go to jail, but you will definitely be fined. I don't know how much it costs. It must cost thousands of dollars.

First of all, I am so disappointed in you. I guess you also bought less and took advantage of other Swedes. Please all China people pay attention to their words and deeds. Don't always have the mentality of opportunism and taking advantage. Everyone is not rich, but don't be greedy and cheap, lose your personality and discredit the country and the people. Let people in China look down on us.

Of course, you should not be too stressed. Wrong is wrong, and it's no use regretting. Thank you for having the courage to say it. The visa you applied for will definitely have problems, and it is unlikely to be approved, because it is all online. Besides, you shouldn't go to jail, and you didn't steal anything too expensive. But a fine of several thousand dollars can't escape.

Good luck!

It's okay. Pay attention next time. Much better than in China. If it was in China, it would have been sent to a detention center.

Thank you for leaving me a message ... Although you scold me, I can feel that you still care about me. Through this incident, I also hope to give you a warning not to make the same mistake as me. Being down-to-earth is the happiest. ...

Yes, that's great. Everyone loves you and cares about you. The depth of love is the urgency of responsibility. I'm glad you can understand positively.

In fact, it takes a lot of courage for you to speak out bravely here. So people still value you.

Take care of yourself, keep an optimistic attitude, and hope that everything will pass smoothly as a lesson and warning for the future.

A person's life is very long and he can only walk once. Everyone makes mistakes because of a moment of confusion. The key is repentance. As the saying goes, the prodigal son never changes his money. Your reflection today is priceless spiritual wealth in your life.

Good luck and all the best! ! !

Well, stealing is real anyway. . .

How much can that be worth? But this man really lost a lot.

Well, I can't figure it out. I don't understand how you can take people's things for nothing.