How do elderly immigrants endure loneliness and emptiness?

There are many middle-aged immigrants who have left their homes. At this moment, it is really unbearable to say goodbye to my elderly parents. Similarly, in the eyes of parents, no matter how big and capable a child is, he will always be a child, and he can't rest assured. When the elderly go abroad, there are many kinds of pains for Canadian immigrants, among which affection is the most important. Instead of worrying every day and missing every night, it is better to go and see for yourself; Let me tell you a story about an old man in his seventies who went abroad, waded through mountains and rivers, visited relatives and got together.

A family can live together day and night and care for each other, which should be happy, but there are many unsatisfactory places that affect their relationship.

It is said that it is hard to part with each other after a brief encounter. The joy of meeting for the first time and the excitement of just arriving in a foreign country are quickly dispelled by the cruel reality. Culture, language, customs, environment, etc. It makes the old people afraid and difficult to adapt.

Lao Wang, who came from Beijing and originally lived in downtown Toronto, worked hard for several years and finally bought a house in a remote place. He moved into the new house with his parents who were visiting relatives. Unexpectedly, the place grew bigger and bigger, and the contradiction came. Accustomed to convenience and excitement, two old people get together happily with their neighbors every day and feel bored and speechless in a deserted place.

It turns out that many people have this disease. That day, I met Aunt Zhang in the supermarket for a long time. After talking, I realized that she moved to a mansion in Richmond, and there were sons in most areas. I hurried to congratulate her, but she was sad and said in a weak voice, "I moved so far, I didn't even have friends, and I couldn't go to the Chinese supermarket, so I had to give up my original social activities." It's really like a year. "

Old people trapped at home are inevitably bored, and the only thing they can catch every day is their family members under the same roof. Obviously, they will be wordy, rambling and forgetful, and often say the same thing over and over again; If children don't understand and have no patience to listen to their stories, interesting stories about their bravery and upbringing, and even the hardships of life, will only form a "cold" air in the room, making each other uncomfortable.

Apart from loneliness, what the elderly fear most is physical problems. There is usually medical insurance in China, so it is convenient and easy to see a doctor, and there is no worries. As we all know, medical care in Canada is extremely expensive for non-citizens. Even if they buy insurance, medical expenses may not be fully covered. In addition, because of the language barrier, the elderly will never see a doctor unless they have to. Sometimes, elderly parents worry about bringing trouble to their children. Even if they are unwell, they will not tell them frankly, and even try their best to prepare food, which has become their burden.

Remember, * * * Syria time is short, there are not many opportunities, and both sides should cherish it. I hope that children can learn more, thank their elders with their mouths, show consideration to their parents with affection, protect their parents with love, and repay their parents with heart. In this way, elderly parents will feel that this trip is worthwhile and the long journey is worthwhile.

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