What are some examples of perspective taking?

1. Although the two literary giants of the Song Dynasty, Su Shi and Wang Anshi, had different political views, it did not affect their relationship. They were very good friends. The two of them often drank together in the moonlight, composing poems in the clear stream, and writing together. But Su Shi was bohemian by nature and outspoken. Once, Su Shi went to visit Prime Minister Wang Anshi at his home, but Wang Anshi was not in the house. Su Shi happened to read the line "The bright moon barks in the sky, and the yellow dog falls into the flower heart" in Wang Anshi's new poem. He couldn't help but sneered: How can the bright moon bark? How can a yellow dog fall into the heart of a flower? So the poem was changed without considering other people's feelings. Later, Wang Anshi impeached and demoted Su Shi. While in exile, Su Shi discovered that in remote areas, people called an insect a yellow dog and a bird a bright moon. He suddenly realized that he regretted misunderstanding Wang Anshi. Just imagine, if Su Shi had waited for Wang Anshi to come back and asked for clarification, taking Wang Anshi's feelings into consideration, he would have maintained their friendship and avoided being demoted. Therefore, it is very important to learn to be like others and think in their shoes.

2. Emperor Rui of the Western Jin Dynasty asked the ministers when the fields were deserted, the food was in drought, and the hungry people were suffering terribly: They had no food to eat, why didn't they eat meat porridge? Such an indifferent tone and complete disregard for the survival of the immigrant people eventually led to the destruction of the Western Jin Dynasty. How long can a dynasty that doesn't care about the lives of its people last? If Emperor Rui could be a commoner, think about problems from the perspective of the common people, be concerned about the hunger and suffering of the common people, formulate effective disaster relief plans, and overcome difficulties, perhaps the history of the Sima family would be rewritten. Otherwise, the country will not be a country, wouldn't it be the same with Jie, Zhou and the First Emperor?

3. Three of Plato’s disciples once asked their teacher for advice, wondering how to find an ideal partner. Plato did not answer directly, but took his disciples to a wheat field and asked them to pick the largest ear of wheat while walking in the field. They could not go back and could only pick one. The first of the three disciples picked what he thought was the biggest ear of wheat before he had walked a few steps, only to find that there were even bigger ones behind him; the second disciple kept looking around, picking here and there, until he reached the finish line. Only then did he realize that the first few largest wheat ears had been missed; the third disciple learned the lessons of the first two and when he had walked 1/3 of the distance, he divided the wheat ears into three categories: large, medium and small, and then walked another 1/3. /3 to verify whether it was correct. When the last 1/3 happened, he chose a beautiful ear of wheat that belonged to the major category. From this story, we should actually learn to think more and learn to think from others’ perspective. When we hold the ear of wheat in our hands and look for the next bigger ear of wheat in the wheat field, aren't we also the ear of wheat in our hands? We are also held in someone's hand, standing on the wheat field, looking left and right, those eyes looking for happiness, lost in the golden color, lest we lose the biggest wheat ear, and in the end, we can only pick it in a hurry. Less than true happiness.

4. If the same flower is placed in front of you, there will be flowers withering and flying all over the sky, and the red flowers will fade away and the fragrance will no longer be felt. The profoundness of protecting flowers. The same bright moon hangs in the night sky. Zhang Ruoxu would recite his thoughts about who first saw the moon by the river and when the river moon first shone on people; Li Taibai would sigh about the nostalgia of the bright moonlight in front of his bed, which has become frost on the ground. Can you blame Sister Lin's sadness for being dependent on someone else? Can you deny the fact that red leaves protect flowers? Can you blame Zhang Ruoxu for complaining about nothing? Can you disdain Li Bai's nostalgia? I'm afraid not even. That’s why we need to learn to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, appreciate the rich connotation of a flower, and feel the same moon that turns out to be so affectionate.

5. Napoleon Hill is a world-famous inspirational success guru. One year, he needed a secretary and placed an advertisement in several newspapers. As a result, letters of application came in like snow. But most of these letters are the same. For example, their first sentence is almost the same: "I saw your advertisement for a secretary in the newspaper. I hope to apply for this position. I am XX years old this year and graduated from XX." School, if I am honored to be selected by you, I will definitely work hard." Napoleon Hill was very disappointed with this. When he was thinking about whether to give up the recruitment plan, a letter came late, which surprised Napoleon Hill. Unexpectedly, she was determined to be the candidate for secretary.

Her letter is written like this: "Dear Sir: The advertisement you published will definitely attract hundreds or even thousands of cover letters, and I believe that your work must be very busy and you have no job application at all. Enough time to read carefully. Therefore, you only need to dial this number and I will be happy to come and help you organize the letter to save your precious time. You don't have to doubt the ability and quality of my work, because I have ten Five years of secretarial work experience.”

Later, Napoleon Hill said: “Know how to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, be able to truly see and consider problems from the perspective of others, and be able to effectively help others solve problems. , this world is yours."