Older girls’ sentiments on marriage: Should a 31-year-old leftover girl just get married?

01

My friend Yiyi is 28 years old. She lives in a first-tier city and is not considered a leftover girl. But in their hometown, they were already considered older leftover girls. When they returned home at the beginning of the year, they were forced to marry by various relatives.

She was distressed and had to ask me for help. She asked me whether she should find a soulmate or just marry herself.

I told her about my classmate’s personal experience. There was a very rich man chasing her, and he could indeed help her a lot in all aspects, but she didn’t have that kind of love for him. It feels like I once thought about just giving it up, until I met my current boyfriend.

My family is about the same as hers, well-off above average, with no problem with the car and house. The key is that we like each other very much, have the same views, and have a high degree of compatibility in all aspects.

Moreover, meeting this person was very accidental, and it felt like I had finally met love at first sight.

And just at the beginning of this year, before she met this Prince Charming, she still negatively thought that she would marry casually in the future.

02

"Leftover women are left because they are chosen"? This is most people's concept of leftover women. It is true that there are some girls who have not found a partner that suits them because of their high family thresholds, high academic qualifications, and high requirements, but you can't defeat everyone with one stick.

Many of my friends around me are leftover women, and the reason is not that they are picky. Some of them fell in love, but were deeply hurt.

Some people have been waiting for true love, but all they met were jerks. Some have difficulty meeting other boys because of their social circle. They are both very good girls, but the fate has not come yet.

I don’t know why? The society and the public like to label them as “leftover women”. I think this is more like discrimination.

Everyone has the right to control their own life. When they fall in love, when they get married, when they have children, it is their own business. Marriage is for both parties. Girls should marry casually because of their age. You will also encounter men who marry casually.

Therefore, being single is an attitude, and being single is a state.

03

In the forum, I saw a post by a girl, a 31-year-old leftover woman, confused as to whether she should get married or continue looking.

The girl graduated with a master's degree and is of average appearance. She is now engaged in scientific research in a research institute in a first-tier city. The job is stable and the salary is not high. She works in a research institute and has a small living circle. She usually lives in the workplace and has many contacts. The number of people is also very limited, so we can only rely on blind dates to find a partner.

I had a boyfriend when I was studying. The long-distance relationship lasted for 5 years. Both of us were very tired and exhausted, and we finally broke up.

After breaking up, I didn’t find a boyfriend for a long time, which was a waste of time in my youth. Before I knew it, I was already 30 years old. My parents were also very worried. I looked in the mirror and saw what appeared in the corner of my eyes. The crow's feet really shocked me, and before I knew it, I was getting older and my youthful years were gone.

Due to pressure, I bit the bullet and registered on a dating website and started my own blind date journey. At the end of the year, I met a man who was a designer. His family background was relatively good in all aspects. He was 4 years older than her. , it felt good to meet each other, and later they gradually developed into boyfriend and girlfriend, and both of them really wanted to get married.

But later I discovered that he might just want to find a nanny. He just hoped to find someone to help him clean the room, buy food, cook, and take care of the children. He never held her hand when he went out with her, and he didn't care about her either. I didn't care at all. After talking to him later, he said that there is no relationship at this age, only benefits. As long as both parties feel that they will not suffer, they can get married.

Such remarks made her feel that this man was so cold, and the girl decided to break up. Now that man is back to look for her again, and she doesn't know whether she should compromise or continue?

04

Being single is just lonely, but making do with it is torture. Marrying someone you don't like pleases your family and tortures yourself.

Because what you want is not a certificate, what you want is a life after marriage. From marriage to old age, you have a life of several decades.

Many people feel guilty for going against their parents' wishes, so they can only make do with blind dates, marry with humiliation, and love with humiliation. But I want to say that no one will pay for your painful marriage in the future, only you have to bear it.

Love is an additional question in life, it is never a must-choose question! Some people can still live a wonderful life even if they never get married.

Greta Garbo, the legendary actress of the last century, has already set an example for us! This actress from Sweden,

placed the works of Japanese female writer Yamamoto Moto It would be particularly interesting to watch them together, "Love Addiction", "And Then I Was Alone", "So What at 31" and "All the Women in the World Are Married".

While the Chinese are still laughing at leftover women, Japan has begun to vigorously promote the principle of "not getting married" and has never been ashamed of it. Since you have lived so long and been single for so long, why do you have to make do with your love and life now?

Jiang Xin, one of the five beauties in "Ode to Joy", is such a girl who lives a free and easy life.

Jiang Xin debuted on stage at the age of 8 and drifted to Beijing at the age of 18. This year is Jiang Xin's 25th year as an artist, and it has only been less than 5 years since she became famous. She said that she is used to taking her time, including love: "Marriage is a lifelong matter, no matter how old you are, you will never give in."

People who love each other cannot have marriage, and those who have marriage do not have love. This is Common in real life.

Some people don’t understand love when they are young, and they enter the marriage hall vaguely, only to find out later that the "shoes" are not suitable for them. Empty and sad.

"There are only feelings when you should get married, but there is no age when you should get married." This sentence comes from the goddess Lin Chiling with high IQ and high EQ. I don't know how many people's hearts have been touched.

"Why is the Shengxiao silent" a simple sentence of "Don't want to make do with it" restores the original appearance of love. Love is love. If you don't love, you can't cater.

"If that person had ever appeared in this world, everyone else would have to make do with it, but I don't want to make do with it." This sentence that He Yichen said softly became a favorite of many viewers. and love quotes for readers.

Whether it lasts forever or has been there once, the most precious thing about love is the true love that "does not want to give in".

Author of this article: Esther

This article is an original article. The copyright belongs to the author and may not be reproduced without authorization!