What are the adverse effects of children enjoying doting?

Today's children are willful and provocative, just like "little demons". Everything depends on mom and dad. If not, there will be "upside down". As we all know, everything depends on children, which is doting. However, if children are treated with wrong doting from the beginning, children are used to growing up in this environment. Over time, once parents stop doting on their children, it will be as painful as giving up doting. It is human nature that parents love their children and children are attached to their parents. However, a child's excessive attachment to his parents will only make him unable to be independent. In some families, grandparents follow their children around in circles every day, with cups and sneakers hanging on their bodies and small change and candied beans in their pockets. This is no longer the image of grandparents, but more like a nanny. In this way, children seem to live a moist and comfortable life, but in fact they unconsciously lose their ability to take care of themselves. What should these incompetent children do if their grandparents are not around? Some far-sighted parents will consciously cultivate their children's ability to survive and develop independently when they are very young; Parents who have no foresight will tightly imprison their children in the "sterile room" they created for their children. Imagine what will happen to the children once this "fortress" collapses? In life, we will encounter such a scene more than once: the son is taller than his mother, but he looks like an ignorant child. In order to satisfy his wishes, he cries endlessly with his mother, attracting passers-by. The following news story hopes to arouse parents' vigilance. A recent graduate of a university in Yangzhou had a little argument with his cousin while playing computer. He couldn't stand his cousin calling him "stupid", so he killed his cousin and his mother with a knife. Afterwards, the judge asked him why even his cousin's mother spared such a sentence. He said, "When my cousin called me' stupid, I can't even play computer', his mother was watching Gameloft. I just want to kill them all so that no one dares to laugh at me again. " What kind of children to shape, the initiative is in the hands of parents. We should really reflect on what happened to our parents now. Paying too much attention to and protecting children is to spoil them and deprive them of their independence. We always want to protect our children at any time. As a result, when children grow up, they simply have no ability to cope with various life problems. It is human nature that parents care for their children and don't let them get hurt. But doting deprives children of the opportunity to learn. Children need not only caring parents, but also parents who know how to educate their children correctly. Then, if children get into the habit of enjoying doting, what bad effects will there be in the future? ■ The overprotection of children by social parents, which affects children, is actually to isolate children prematurely and let them lose the opportunity to learn interpersonal communication at first. In the children's world, there are only parents, and there is no collective concept. If this goes on, children will not only lose friendship, but also lose the ability to get along with others in harmony. If children don't know how to communicate with others, they will be rejected by society and the collective. ■ Suppressing children's thirst for knowledge and learning motivation is over-protected or restricted. His parents met his needs from all aspects, suppressed the child's motivation, greatly reduced his interest and curiosity about external things, and weakened the child's initiative, enthusiasm and willpower to explore external things. ■ Overprotection that affects children's intellectual development actually limits children's intellectual development, and children rarely have the opportunity to explore under the protection of their parents. Because children don't have to use their brains and hands, they will become weak and lazy after entering the society. Such fatal personality defects will make children be eliminated in social competition. After analyzing the growth of childhood, we can look at the problems existing in society. What is more prominent is the phenomenon that parents accompany them to study, take exams and find jobs. Poverty inherits the wind! Whenever the college entrance examination comes, parents are looking forward to it under the scorching sun. As soon as the bell rang, the parents watched their children enter the examination room. After waiting for a long time, it was hot, and my parents squatted and stood on the side of the road, which made people feel sad for a while. Finally, the child was admitted to the university. At the beginning of the semester, the gates of various universities are crowded with parents. Settle the children well during the day. If there is not enough dormitory for parents to rest at night, they will choose to sleep in the playground or downstairs of the dormitory and spend a few nights with their children. Now, a more serious situation has emerged. Children are fully capable of living independently after graduation, but parents still have to accompany their children to job fairs to help them make up their minds. While lamenting that "poverty leads to change", we also have to ponder over whether children nowadays need their parents to "care" about everything. Parents' intentions are good, that is, they are worried that their children are inexperienced and afraid of setbacks. We are well aware of the disadvantages of children's poor independence in China, but we just can't take action to avoid this phenomenon. Qualified parents should learn to let their children solve their own problems and make their own decisions, even if they sometimes make mistakes, which will be of great benefit to their future.