Will high stress affect a couple’s relationship?

Among Chinese living in Western China, it is very common for couples to separate due to the pressure of life. It is common among Chinese people that the relationship between husband and wife becomes alienated due to the separation of husband and wife. During the investigation, the reporter found that although many Chinese people are forced to separate in order to enable their families and children to live a better life, separation will also bring a lot of insecurity and a sense of homelessness to the parties involved. It will lead to mutual suspicion between husband and wife and emotional crisis.

After the economic crisis, the phenomenon among Chinese people that separation has caused sensitive and fragile relationships between couples, and even family crises, has become increasingly prominent. Affected by traditional concepts and economic conditions, most Chinese couples are unwilling to divorce even if their marriages are in name only, and choose to separate instead. The main reason is that Chinese people value family relationships and are afraid that divorce will drag down their parents, children, relatives, etc.

High pressure in life leads to separation

Immigration brings changes to families that many people did not expect. On the one hand, the pressure of life faced by couples after immigrating leads to constant disputes and mutual complaints. On the other hand, the lifestyle of traveling between two places for a long time will also wear out the original relatively solid emotional foundation, and finally lead to the separation of work and life between husband and wife.

Ms. Chen lives in Spain with her husband and has a pair of children. In order to make the life of this pair of children better. Ms. Chen works at a 100-yen store in Barcelona, ??while her husband also works at a 100-yen store in a city in southern Spain. The separation between the two places left Ms. Chen in a state of instability and lack of security for a long time. Ms. Chen said that in the beginning, because the relationship between the couple was still there, they often looked for opportunities. Either he would come to Barcelona or I would go to the south, and the couple would meet and talk to each other. But the longer we are separated, the weaker our relationship becomes. I often suspect that my husband is looking for a partner in the south. Now we don’t even meet each other. Even if we talk on the phone, we often quarrel. We can’t even make two or three phone calls a year. , even if they talk on the phone, they talk about their children.

Ms. Chen said that the relationship between the couple also affects their children. Once I heard my son tell his classmates that his parents would definitely get divorced. I felt very uncomfortable after hearing this. I didn’t know why I separated from my husband. What do you get? Although our relationship as husband and wife is in name only, I have reached middle age. I don’t want to divorce or live with my husband, so I just want to keep it like this.

Lack of emotional communication leads to separation

If a couple lives in the same city, even if they quarrel, they can still communicate face to face later. But if we live in two places, we can only communicate by phone. There are so many temptations in society now, and it is difficult to ensure that one party will not be tempted to stick to his or her feelings. The reporter found that separation leads to a crisis in the relationship between husband and wife. The main reason is that one of the parties has emotional problems.

After five years abroad, Mr. Liu, an overseas Chinese from Tianjin, finally applied for his wife to come to Spain through family reunion. When Mrs. Liu first arrived in Spain, before she had time to share the joy of reunion, she heard a fellow villager tell her about her husband's love affair with finding a partner abroad. After some quarrel, Mrs. Liu forgave her husband with her husband's assurance. After all, her husband lived a difficult life abroad and was not around to take care of her. He lived a lonely life, so a temporary cheating could be forgiven. In addition, the husband refused to divorce because there was another wife in the country. Kids in college.

The couple save money for work and marriage in order to support their son who is studying in college in China. Mrs. Liu soon found a job as a nanny. Although the two live in the same city, in order to save money, Mrs. Liu lives in the boss's house where food and accommodation are provided. The husband only occasionally goes to his wife's house to discuss family matters with her, and the two have basically no emotional communication. Friends around them are laughing at Mr. Liu and his wife, saying that the couple has finally reunited because they have not been separated in the same country for so long. They both live in the same city and are still living apart. Is it worth it to make a little money?

Mr. Liu and his wife disagreed. The wife seemed to encourage her husband to work hard to make money and did not care about the separation issue. According to a friend of Mr. Liu, Mr. Liu is now working on an island, and the woman who originally built the shop has also followed him. Although Mrs. Liu is aware of the marriage that is on thin ice, she is still unwilling to think about how to save it. Instead, she is in Barcelona Continue to work as a nanny.