There are more than 700,000 "Dink" families. Is it really good to have no baby? What's the status quo?

A person's life is very short, whether brilliant or ordinary, it will last for decades. In these limited time, people will have many things they want to do and need to do, such as pursuit, ideal and interest, which need a lot of time to complete.

If a person gets married in his twenties, the bond between family and children will inevitably have an impact on some of his ideas, and he may have to give up something. However, in order to be responsible for themselves, some people will give up their children and join the Dink clan. When others are busy with their children, they can spare more time to better develop their careers and enjoy life.

In addition, giving birth to a child is not an easy task, not only to invest most of the money; It takes a lot of energy. Some people have calculated that from the birth of a child to the graduation from college, every family will spend millions, which is difficult for many people to cope with.

But will life really be easy without the bondage of children? Perhaps as a person with personal experience, he has more say!

There are more than 700,000 "Dink" families. Is it really good not to have children? She persisted for 10 years, and there was nothing she could do.

There is a female star, Xie Lan, who once chose to be a dink for her career, but insisted on having children when she was 4 1 year old. Why is this? Speaking of it, you may not be familiar with it, but when it comes to Li Chunxiu in "Big House Gate" and Liang in "Old Village Woman", I think everyone is very impressed.

Because of her superb acting skills and beautiful appearance, she won many awards for best actress. Later, I had to keep in good shape because I wanted to develop my career. To this end, she decided to be a "dink" and not have children. My husband, Shi Xiaohong, is also very supportive of this decision. Both of them think that life without children will be more exciting.

In this way, the couple lived alone for ten years, and everyone thought that they would continue to be a "dink". However, the idea of having children came into being when Xie Lan was 465,438+0 years old. Undoubtedly, her husband still supported them as always.

After hard work, although both of them are over 40 years old, they still gave birth to a son as they wished. Nowadays, families often take their children to travel. Although life is simple, the fun has increased a lot. However, since Xie Lan gave birth to a child, she has lost her youth and beautiful demeanor, showing all traces of time. Thinking about it is not just emotional.

The doctor once said that although Xie Lan could get pregnant at that time, it was difficult to keep the fetus. If she insists on having children, it will be dangerous, and the children she gives birth to may be unhealthy, but Xie Lan is still not afraid of danger, and her husband Shi Xiaohong is ready.

Later, after caesarean section, my son was finally born in an accident that almost killed him, which made the family cherish it. Compared with when they chose to be "Dink", it was completely different. At that time, the thought of "Dink" was so firm, but they finally compromised and completely forgot the concept of "Dink".

Although the concept of "Dink" is contrary to our traditional thinking, with the development of the times and the change of people's thinking, more and more young couples join the "Dink crowd". According to statistics, more than 700,000 families have decided to have Dink. For one reason or another, they don't want to have children. Some people don't want children but dare not.

Because they are afraid of having children, like families with children, they can't sleep well in the middle of the night, take care of crying children, accompany them to study, do homework, teach and educate people, prepare their children with a house and car when they grow up, and even take their grandchildren when they are old.

It is better to sleep quietly every day, talk and laugh, and enjoy tea. The savings saved by work can go a few more times and spend your old age quietly and leisurely. This kind of life looks very narrow and really enviable.

But in fact, many things in life are not static. There is a cloud in the Book of Changes: it makes sense, and the general principles make sense. Only by constant change and adjustment can our life be smooth. Just like when everyone gets married and has children, it is not a fixed constitution, it depends on everyone's thoughts.

No matter what kind of decision people make, they can't ignore the reality, but also consider it comprehensively from their own perspective. For example, "Dink" is not immutable, but some people don't regret it in their later years. They only represent themselves, not everyone. They may say that they want to "dink" until they are old, but when they are really old, they have to put up with it.

Can't always say: Why can others "dink" and I can't? We should seriously think about whether to be a dink or not, and whether it is necessary to be a dink all our lives. People can try to do it, but they have to bear the consequences. If you are really thinking about being a dink, be prepared to regret it.