Immigrants are rich in mountains and water.

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Yesterday I talked about Japan and Henan, and many people's messages didn't have a chance to be published.

There are two reasons for not letting go, one is that the upper limit of refinement has reached, and the other is that I think some people's messages are easy to cause unnecessary quarrels.

Seeing readers arguing is something that many official WeChat accounts welcome, and we try our best to avoid it. I am so headstrong, hehe.

Yesterday, a reader asked me how to change other people's prejudices.

My suggestion is to communicate more, but in fact, you and I both know that it is impossible to completely eliminate prejudice by communicating more.

Communication can only dispel the doubts of unbiased people. For biased people, communication can't change anything. You should be very clear about this.

Why?

Because the root of prejudice is lack of resources, or lack of confidence caused by lack of resources.

Lu Xun wrote many characters, but fortunately many people forgot them, because to be honest, Mr. Lu Xun's writing is too harsh and will hurt too many people, such as Ah Q.

Man ah q despises the city people because they fry fish with shredded onion. He thinks it's wrong and should use chopped green onion.

So Q appreciates country people? No, Ah Q looks down on country people because they have never seen city people fry fish with shredded onions. ......

Isn't it interesting? You think this man's logic is strange, but Ah Q's idea can't be explained by logic.

If you have studied psychology, you will understand that Ah Q just wants to make himself comfortable, that's all. Lu Xun saw through it, so he coined a word called the spirit of Ah Q, that is, he lied to himself.

From Ah Q's point of view, he really has no choice.

When you think about it, Ah Q has so few choices. When there is only a penny left in a man's hand, it is hard for him not to see it as big as the moon.

In tuba, we once wrote a man named He Shanshuo. He is from Shanghai. His parents left him a small house, but he did nothing every day. Finally, he was laid off and couldn't find his way. His wife took the child away, and his relatives and friends looked down on him.

Then he was very uncomfortable. There are two ways to be uncomfortable. One way is to solve the problem, but the problem is that He Shanshuo has no ability to solve the problem himself. This is the biggest problem.

I wonder if you can figure this out.

If he stays in Shanghai, it will be a harm to him. So he chose to sell his house and immigrate to America.

After going to America, he still couldn't find a job. After all, he didn't even speak English, so he was relieved. But I am far from home, so I can brag to my relatives and friends that I am very happy in America. Anyway, people won't go to Wan Li to poke it.

Then this has become a spiritual sustenance of rivers and mountains.

He Shanshuo's house in Shanghai was sold on 20 14, and it was sold at a low price. Later, housing prices in Shanghai rose a lot, which obviously hurt him more. After all, he has had enough.

Then, from the perspective of rivers and mountains, the spiritual sustenance he can count on is to expect Shanghai to go bad.

Later, I didn't know whether to say that his life was bad or good. He got COVID-19, and the Americans didn't treat him, so he died. He still stood for the interests of the United States when he died.

To tell the truth, in fact, my sympathy for him is far greater than my disgust for him.

I know what I said is not pleasing and doesn't sound like a position, but I do sympathize with him. Because he really can't change himself, you know what I mean?

In the past few decades, we did have some people who didn't get along well. Not only did they not get along well, but we also saw people around them getting along well and better.

How do you feel?

Don't say anything in front of frustrated people. You have to tell people that the spring breeze of reform is blowing everywhere, and my life is really proud. The problem is that people may not be proud.

If someone's dissatisfaction is a solvable problem, and he intends to solve it, you are willing to help him solve the problem, and you can cooperate.

But if you know very well that the other person's dissatisfaction can't be solved, to put it bluntly, he only found out when people are not good and the road is not bumpy, which is really cruel.

This sounds unreasonable or unprincipled, but it is my opinion.

Let's think about it, even if a frustrated person has no ability to change, what is the practical significance of knowing himself?

It doesn't really make sense. You know, I understand. Doesn't he understand?

He understood, so he chose to deceive himself, that's all.

When a person has only a few things left in his hand, such as an American passport, that is his last self-esteem.

So many times, prejudice is not necessarily prejudice. Do you think biased people are not aware of their prejudice?

Not necessarily. Perhaps people's midnight dreams are clearer than anyone else, but they need a little comfort.

In the past, some Manchu Eight Banners competed with each other, with three banners and five flags. Why is it so divided? Because the three flags above are personally headed by the emperor, and the flag owners of the five flags below are all royalty.

Interesting, isn't it? The flag bearer will say which flag he is, such as yellow flag or blue flag.

Let me ask you a question. Will the emperor say which flag he is?

The emperor never said which flag he belonged to, only that all the flags belonged to him.

Did you taste anything?

People need to be attached when resources are scarce. When people are rich in resources, those attributes will gradually disappear.

This is the same as printing business cards.

Since a person has a business card, titles are printed more and more, such as general manager, director, and a bunch. There may be a bunch of consultants, founders, co-founders and independent directors of institutions.

Finally, I tell you that at the end of printing, or after this person really has strength, those will gradually decrease. Don't talk about the title without weight, which will only dilute the theme.

Finally, what do you think of a person's business card?

The business card of the biggest person I received is very interesting, just the name, not even the phone number and address, just a name, only one language.

In fact, that person doesn't need a business card anymore, and people all over the world know it. Handing a business card is just a courtesy or a gesture.

If you really don't have a business card, it looks a little proud, but there is no need to write anything on the business card. What you write is superfluous.

This is a very good state, to be honest, I envy it, but I also know that it is too rare.

From the point of view of most people, people are more or less biased. Do you dare to say that it is not prejudice to print "what allowance do you enjoy" on your business card?

Actually, they are all.

It's just that some people are high-end, some people are low-end, and some people really have nothing to flaunt. They can only talk about the scallion and region of steamed fish.

Just like southerners and northerners quarrel online all day, just like jiaozi is as boring as dipping in soy sauce.

To put it bluntly, they are not confident, but some people are lighter, some people are heavier, some people are harmless, and some people are aggressive and serious enough to violate the law, so we must abide by the rules. There is no violation of laws and regulations, just laugh it off.

Laughter is not to persuade you to be generous, but to tell you that it is meaningless. You don't have to waste time on these trivial topics, nor do you have to come to me to enlighten you on these trivial topics.

Nothing in life is more important than progress.

Try to climb to the top of the mountain: it dwarfs all the peaks under our feet.

From top to bottom, many arguments are as ridiculous as dipping onions in jiaozi.

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