To set foot on the road to victory, you must work hard on prose.

A few days ago, I had dinner with my cousin whom I haven't seen for a long time. He still looked at the big piece of meat on the plate in a daze. I asked him if he was worried. He stared blankly for a moment and said, I don't know what I should do.

My cousin is six years younger than me. He learned competitive aerobics in high school and became a physical education student because of his poor grades. He couldn't go to a physical education college because of his poor results in the college entrance examination. He had to study animation design in a junior college in Xi 'an. After graduation, he worked in his hometown for several times, selling products in supermarkets, working as a secretary in a small company and doing campus activities for Nestle, but most of them ended in vain. Later, he had the opportunity to volunteer and went south to Hunan to become a temporary administrator in the office.

This is the course of study and work that he can write in his resume. I asked him at dinner, do you know what he is good at? He thought about it and didn't know. I asked you again, do you know what you want to do in the future? He said he didn't know. I then asked, do you have any dreams and goals? He said he didn't know. I said if you have an idea, do you know what to do? He said impatiently, elder brother, don't ask, I don't know.

In the middle of a meal, it was deadlocked in an awkward atmosphere. My cousin gnashed his teeth by mixing French fries with ketchup. I think he was a little unhappy. I think he and I have never talked about such a serious topic. Later, I said in a low voice, you should have a goal, and you should know yourself.

My cousin gave me a look and sighed heavily. I just don't know what I want. My eldest brother has been a ballet dancer since childhood, a national first-class actor, and performed all over the world every day. Now he has emigrated to Australia, where he has love, a big house and a good car. You are so good, too. Your advertisements are broadcast on TV every day, and several books have been published. Even my colleagues are listening to your programs. I am embarrassed to tell them that they are my two brothers. What do I have? I am under great pressure myself.

I felt sad after hearing these words. I said, if you put these things into your heart, it will only make you stay here all the time. You have to do what you want, and you have to seize your opportunity. Don't compare with others. No one is born better than you, but they know what they want and then know how to do it.

my cousin drank all the wine in one breath, put down his glass and looked at me, brother, but I don't know what I want and what to do. I like communication, but what's the use of talking? Will big companies want it? I also like to do some programs quietly like you, but the conditions where I live don't allow me to have no software and no microphone. I also like to write something, but my literary talent is only junior high school level, and I feel funny when I write it myself. I think I just can't do anything. Just be a person who can't do anything.

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On my public WeChat, I get messages from some friends almost every day. They are telling their troubles. Simply classified, they are similar to my cousin's situation. They don't know what they will do or what they want to do. They often don't know how to do what they want to do, or they haven't really tried it, but they are unwilling. In short, they just don't know what to do, and then they can only remain confused.

A few years ago, a friend told me that he would rather muddle along all day than accept a seemingly fruitless challenge. He feels that he has no talent and ability, and he is just an ordinary person. He dare not do what he wants to do, because there is no end in sight. If there is no result, he would rather not start. It's just that such emotions can't be resolved and I'm unhappy.

at that time, I could hardly find a reason to refute it, but when I went through the same confused and difficult days, I felt that such words were just an excuse. Let's not talk about those distant, tall and great topics. It's not us bystanders who live day by day, but yourself. daily growing's is not the help of others, but yourself. It's not other people's eyes that see the future day by day, but yourself. Let's talk about yourself first. What kind of person do you want to be?

If you want to be an ordinary person, then be an ordinary person. If you want to be a better self, then take the first step bravely. Thinking about a better future with your ordinary conditions, and then unable to break away from ordinary concepts, and then blindly emphasizing your own commonness is a self-contradictory topic. If you want to do better, just do it and don't think about it. If you just stay in the unwilling mood forever, you might as well let go of those lofty ideals and fulfill your present.

I think that the significance of hard work is not only limited to making money, or winning social identity, but also includes the embodiment of self-worth, and the most direct thing is to smooth your unwillingness. One day, we will understand that it is not easy to get along with ourselves. Dreams and reality will always stand in a position of mutual confrontation but mutual balance. The only one who needs to make efforts and changes most is himself.

Third cousin

said to me, wouldn't it be a failure if all those thoughts were done one day, but they didn't come true? By then, it will be too late to turn back. I asked him, what is your so-called success? He thought about it, earned a lot of money, was recognized and admired by many people, and made his family live well.

I nodded and said it was a success. He looked at me doubtfully, didn't he think it was very utilitarian? I said it was utilitarian, but the sense of social identity itself was utilitarian. The most direct criterion of success is what everyone thinks. If you ask yourself too much with these things, it is more important now that you know what you want. My cousin was thoughtfully silent.

We don't know what the results of our efforts will bring. Sometimes we fail again and again, and sometimes we will gradually succeed. () The reason for failure may be that your efforts are in the wrong direction, but it is more likely that you don't know whether your efforts are in the right direction or not. Everyone is on the road, everyone seems to be working from nine to five all day, but as long as you don't stop on your way, the so-called success will wait for you not far away.

As for utilitarianism and reward, it is not the key point that should be considered, which is far less than the enrichment and enjoyment brought by this process. Although we will be excited and excited when we see the achievements, we should understand that this result is the result of our countless efforts and struggles. If our efforts are to become a better self, even if we take 1, steps back for utilitarianism, why not start? If we take the first step towards that goal, who says that is not the result of our choice and courage in the past?

Do everything little by little. If you don't do it, you will always be entangled in your thoughts. If you don't try to change the present, your tomorrow will be exactly the same as the present, or even worse.

That's the terrible thing about life. If a person is content with the status quo, it's all right. What he is afraid of is suffering from inner unwillingness, but he is unwilling to change. In the end, his present life will not be good and his future will be in jeopardy. I don't know how to do it, or if I return to the starting point halfway because of various excuses, then life will become an embarrassing situation, which will make you worry about whether you can get up or down and fall into self-doubt and denial, but in fact, it is not your ability, but your mentality.

I have read biographies of many famous people, and I have seen some similarities in their stories, that is, action and persistence. A friend once listed many plans, such as traveling, remembering many words every day, reading a book a week, reviewing three old movies a week, etc., but after a long time, he gave up again and again, and the reason seemed reasonable. Today, I was too tired at work. Today, my colleagues got together. If I didn't do it today, I will do it tomorrow, and I will make up for it next week.

When my cousin laughed, he also worked hard. At least there was a plan to implement it. I said yes, he did work hard, but the results were not satisfactory.

I told my cousin that our road can't be realized by a simple effort and idea, nor can it be adapted to you by a few popular rules. You must first know yourself and arrange yourself before you can live step by step. A person's mobility represents his ability. If his ability is limited, don't specify too complicated goals for the time being. If you really make up your mind, push yourself. Your goals become more and more difficult to achieve because of procrastination. From the initial disapproval, you will become suspicious of yourself, thus becoming a vicious circle, and in the end you will still achieve nothing.

The change of mentality is the first step to change yourself. If you blindly follow the trend and practice, you will only live very tired in the end. Only when you really reverse your consciousness will you be willing to do those challenges that you have never tried. If you clearly want to change yourself, but you are always stuck in your fantasy, and you are forced to change when you clearly put your efforts into it, then life will tell you that everything is wrong and you need to start again.