Different views on temporary couples

The gray marriage form of "temporary husband and wife" has just begun to surface, and it is only the tip of the iceberg. Many opinions are different. It can be said that different people have different opinions, while the wise see politics and the wise see the light. However, the message sent by "temporary couples" to the society should not be underestimated: the whole society should pay attention to and solve the problem of long-term separation of floating couples.

With the emergence of the tide of migrant workers, the most prominent problem reflected in the family marriage and love life is that the traditional family model and ecological marriage in China are challenged. The first problem is the separation of husband and wife of migrant farmers. With modernization comes urbanization. In the process of modernization, a country may experience a process of "male workers and female farmers": men first move to industries with more advantages, and women who stay at home fill the gaps in male agricultural production. We should treat and solve the marriage and family problems in this transitional period with a positive attitude, and it is impossible to pull men back to the countryside.

There are different opinions, some people agree and some people condemn, and more are sympathy and understanding.

Sociologists say that although the phenomenon of temporary couples violates moral standards, for new immigrants struggling to make a living overseas and those seeking a life in the city, the "temporary other half" has provided great help for their survival in material and spiritual aspects. But this relationship is abnormal after all, and the long-term "temporary husband and wife" life has a huge psychological burden on both sides. In modern society, information is developed. Once something goes wrong, it will often lead to the rupture or trauma of family of origin.

Lin Youzhi, a professor at St. John's University in New York who has studied marriage, family and adolescent education, said that as a social phenomenon, "lovers" have many reasons, such as loneliness. However, it runs counter to morality, impacts the values of new immigrants, makes the past solid marriage system on the verge of collapse, and sets a bad example for children. Lin You said that "temporary couples" often have to maintain two marriages at the same time, and it is not easy to handle the daily life of two people. Marriage is a lifelong training course. Although it is not the whole life, it is an extremely important part of life. A successful marriage is based on fairness rather than selfishness. If marriage is reduced to the point where husband and wife do their respective duties, such marriage is not worth mentioning.

Li, a practicing lawyer in new york, pointed out that temporary couples are common among new immigrants from the mainland, but they do not constitute a de facto marriage. Federal law only recognizes officially registered marriages, and couples in partnership only live together. Once a property dispute occurs, it cannot be resolved in the form of husband-wife relationship.

Netizen: "With the acceleration of urbanization in China, a large number of migrant workers have poured into the city. These are the problems faced by economically developed cities in employment, education, medical care and old-age care. The government needs to consider this issue in the process of formulating policies. "