Many 30-year-old people in rural areas do not get married. What is it that bothers them that they choose not to get married?

The four great joys in life are "the rain comes after a long drought, meeting an old friend in a foreign land, the night of flowers and candles in the bridal chamber, and the time when the gold medal is named." Marriage is a very important thing in a person's life, and men should marry women. Marrying has been like this for thousands of years. But now there are many people in rural areas who are still unmarried at the age of 30. So what is it that bothers them in choosing not to get married? In fact, it's not that they don't want to get married, but that they can't get married for various reasons. 1. The imbalance between men and women in rural areas

The ratio of men to women in our country is about 116.9:100. There are 30-40 million more men than women. In other words, there are more than 30 million men in society who cannot marry. To my wife.

The main reason for today’s results is the idea of ??favoring boys over girls. Some people say, isn’t this just ignorance? I don't think so. The reason why the social problem of favoring sons over daughters is inseparable from the fact that our country is a large agricultural country. In the past, agricultural machinery was underdeveloped and agricultural production was basically done by people. In this regard, boys obviously had an advantage over girls.

However, in recent years, with the popularization of agricultural mechanization and the rapid development of society, this phenomenon has gradually improved, but it still takes time. 2. Most rural girls have gone to the city

In today's rural areas, after graduation, regardless of their education level, girls basically go to the city to work, and very few stay in the village. These girls saw the wider world outside, and their vision became higher. Some simply married in the city, and some started free love with the boys who worked with them. No longer the generation of their parents, they will choose to marry in Shiliba Village near their home. They care more about their own feelings. 3. I have financial difficulties

Nowadays, when girls get married, they don’t need to leave any betrothal gifts, houses, and cars. Our local betrothal gifts in Xianyang, Shaanxi Province start at 100,000 yuan, and the jewelry is 4 gold (rings, necklaces, earrings, and gold bracelets). ) plus a commercial house in the county, a car worth about 100,000 yuan, plus a deposit of 500,000 yuan (house or mortgage) for marriage, don’t even think about it.

For an ordinary rural family, this is simply an astronomical figure. This is also the main reason why many older rural youths cannot find wives. Although the Ministry of Civil Affairs issued repeated orders and documents to curb high-priced betrothal gifts, little effect has been achieved. The poorer the place, the higher the betrothal gift. In Tingkou Town, Changwu County, where I went to provide poverty alleviation, the betrothal gift was as high as nearly 200,000 yuan. In one small village, there were 17 bachelors. 4. Poor personal ability

In the past, rural people liked to use "honest" to praise a person's honesty, but today this word has become a derogatory term. Honest means that you have no innovation and no courage. . Girls nowadays prefer young people who can toss around innovative ideas.

You may have poorer family conditions, but as long as you let girls and family see your abilities and believe that you are a blue chip stock with future market value, it is not too difficult to find a wife in the countryside. But if you have no ability and can only repeat simple tasks and make a living, it will be difficult for you to attract girls. 5. Physically disabled or mentally retarded

Some rural young men are born with or acquired physical or mental disabilities. Such people are inconvenient both in life and work, and most girls will not choose to marry them. As a result, they delay again and again and grow older. Girls are different. As long as it is not serious, they will basically get married early.

There is a girl in our village. When she was a child, we called her "Gua Yanyan". She has no physical disability, but her IQ is only 40% of others. When she becomes an adult, she can do nothing but eat, drink and defecate by herself. She didn't know how to do it, so under such circumstances, there were several marriage proposals coming to her, and she finally married into a family whose family was poor but the husband was normal. She didn't care about the children she had, and her mother-in-law took care of them.

These people are not the older leftover women in the city. They have no higher spiritual needs, nor are they disillusioned with the world. It is really difficult to get a wife!