Mental illness of small international students studying in the United States

Mental illness of small international students studying in the United States

Many foreign students studying in the United States have a certain degree of mental illness because they have left their parents to live alone since childhood. I have prepared the following mental illnesses for the overseas students studying in the United States, hoping to help you.

worship blindly

Sunny, an American stay-at-home mother, said: I have never seen such a group of boys. They like shopping and collecting what they buy every day, just like women. No matter how much they buy, they don't get rid of or throw away their things, and they seem to have a soft spot for some things. Andy almost keeps buying toys and catching dolls on the doll machine? . With these words, Sunny's eyes rested on the scattered toy models Gundam and Transformers' boxes. Although they are different anime characters, they are almost the same in category and type.

Sunny said helplessly while sorting out these boxes. Andy's roommate is a boy his age. He likes basketball shoes very much. The boy has been buying basketball shoes since he came to America. Are these children really shopping like women? .

Andy's crazy behavior of buying toys is unusual in the eyes of Ms. Lu Shenxiang, a psychological consultant in Los Angeles. This phenomenon of repeatedly buying the same product can't be fully utilized? Do you like it? Explain, this is probably a kind of? Addiction? Behavior, in other words, this behavior and? Taking drugs? 、? Drinking? This kind of behavior is essentially the same, and it is through this kind of behavior that the inner depression is relieved. If you don't do this, it will be very painful and difficult to quit.

Dr. Shen also said that the fundamental reason behind this is that these children are young and do not have enough ability to deal with their repressed emotions. At this time, the parents who need it most are not around, which leads to nowhere to talk. Dr. Shen reminded parents in China that if children are found to have this kind of repeated purchase of certain items, they should pay attention to it and try to have a video call with their children at a fixed time every day to keep abreast of their mood.

In view of the common psychological problems of international students, Dr. Zhang Xinfang first does not recommend that children leave their parents to live overseas before going to college. The original intention of many families to send their children out is to help them avoid the pressure of domestic exams as soon as possible, but they don't know that coming to the United States alone will only face different pressures. Instead of letting them face it alone, it is better to accompany and guide them until their minds are fully mature? Fly out? It might be better.

Secondly, if parents decide to send their children to study abroad before they reach adulthood, they must make a clear investigation on the school, environment and guardians in the early stage.

Xie said: Different families have different situations, and there is no absolute right or wrong way for children to grow up. However, considering whether this experience of studying abroad has a positive impact on children's future development, it is suggested that families who are willing to immigrate to the United States choose to go abroad when their children are young, so that children can more easily accept American language and culture. For parents who just want their children to have an overseas study experience and eventually return to their side, it is not recommended to let their children study abroad too early. Apart from the possible problems mentioned just now, what will happen to the children after they return to China? Anti-adaptation? Will China's cultural problems bother the whole family again? .

Birds of a feather flock together.

? We are together every day, not because we are friends, but because we are the same person, or I just don't want to be alone. It's much more normal to have fun with a group of friends than to be alone, isn't it? Xiaojie, who is studying in a private high school in central California, said.

Xiaojie said,? After studying in the United States, life is much more boring than in China, and there are too many idles. Almost every day around 4 pm, we finish school. Every day after school, I get entangled. I looked at the teacher who usually taught us and began to prepare to leave school and return to my home. In the eyes of American students who are almost ignored, I don't know who I should be with today. Friends? Go home together or alone. Many times, I tell myself that I really don't like their circle. When I am with them every day, I feel extremely uncomfortable and depressed. Although I sometimes laugh when I am with them, I know I am not happy.

One of them has a girl whose father is the financial director of China XX Bureau. Almost all the other students will take her as the center. I don't like her, so I often convince myself that I should leave their circle and do what I want. But every time I go back to my host family, I go back to my room alone and open the window to see my neighbor's barbecue on the lawn. I can't wait to close the window at once, because the taste of food and the laughter of that family don't belong to me. They? . Although not friends, but still forced by the surrounding environment. Same frame? Together, maybe it's just because we are the same kind of people. ?

? After I tasted the boredom of being alone all night, I returned to our small group the next day. Often by this time, I will miss my junior high school life in China. At that time, there were many students in my class. Of course, there would be people who could talk, but at least I could choose. Even if I stay away from people who are different from me, I can still find friends to talk to, so at least I won't be isolated. ? Xiaojie said.

In addition, Xiaojie also said that many people think that the pressure of attending high school in the United States will be relatively less, but in fact, for children from China families, getting into a good university is the common expectation of all parents in China, but the education system in the United States is different, but he can still see many second-generation immigrants from China, who need to attend various types of cram schools and extracurricular remedial classes on weekends and after school. On the contrary, they are? Airborne? The children went to host families in the United States, and no one arranged spare time for them.

? Compared with the second-generation immigrants from China, I feel lonely not only because I am far away from my parents, but also because I have too much spare time, and the circle of friends around me is not what I want to fit in, so I feel very lonely most of the time. ? Xiaojie said this.

? Frankly speaking, I have been in high school in America for more than a year. In fact, I have never really integrated into the life here. On the contrary, I always look forward to my holidays. Even if it is a short holiday, I hope to go back to China and breathe the air of true freedom and friendship. The circles here suffocate me. In the eyes of many friends, I am rich and willful, but who understands my difficulties as a Chinese-American day student? .

Internet cafe time

In the Internet cafe, Yu Yu wears headphones and lights the mouse at will. Unlike boys who play games in other online areas, Yu Yu sits in the corner as if she were isolated from her surroundings. She is not holding a mouse, but a cup of hot coffee, listening to music aimlessly and surfing the Internet. From Taiwan Province to Los Angeles, Yu Yu spent the first three years of high school here alone.

She said:? Actually, I come to the Internet cafe every Friday afternoon after school? Go for a dip? This is one of the essential items in my leisure activities every weekend. Although I have nothing special to do here, just like on my computer, surfing the Internet, listening to music and chatting. I don't have internet addiction and I don't play games. What attracts me here is that the owner of this Internet cafe is from Taiwan Province Province. The layout of the store is as big as the decoration design, and as small as the popular elements in the cartoon pattern on the mouse pad, all of which are very similar to the styles in the Internet cafes in Taiwan Province Province. I feel familiar here. ?

? When I was in Taiwan Province Province, I was not a rebellious child in the eyes of my parents and teachers, but also an easy-going type with good grades among my friends. I came to the United States to attend high school, and my goal was more clear. I was admitted to an Ivy League school. So, at ordinary times, I study at school and have normal activities. For me, the host family is just a temporary residence. I never really thought of it as? Home? There are also many students from China families in my class, and the learning atmosphere is very strong? . He said.

At the same time, Yu Yu also said frankly: I don't feel much less schoolwork and study pressure here than my friends studying in Taiwan Province. However, for me, the hardest thing is that every Friday afternoon, I want to relax, but I can't find a companion to chat and go shopping, so I always come to this Internet cafe to surf the Internet after school on Friday afternoon. Here I actually realized a truth: studying in the United States is not as difficult as studying in Taiwan Province Province, so bitter. What is difficult is how to spend time when I don't study. .

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