Hubei Huangshi Wedding Customs

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First of all, when she comes to your house for the first time, your parents must give her money,

Then she is "passing by" The door-to-door fee, or what you call the door-to-door fee, means that when you go to her house, all her relatives will go to her house that day and serve wine. Let her relatives wait to see you, which is equivalent to an engagement. This fee is very The big one is also important. You have to give it to his mother. As for how much, it depends on the situation, but generally the more, the more glorious it is. At least 10,000 is required. This money is very important. To make his family look good in front of relatives, 10,000 is actually a small amount. In addition, relatives and friends also have to give money to her home, but usually not much.

Then she officially comes to your home, usually accompanied by her peers such as brothers and sisters, and all your relatives as well. If you want to come, you will also have to drink. Your father or mother will have to give money to the relatives who accompany her. Everyone has to pay, such as her brother and sister. Generally, it will not be less than 500 per person. Don’t worry about this money. I will pay it back in the future. At the same time, your relatives will also give you money, which is usually not much.

After this process is over, it is the money's turn to get married.

< p>After getting married, during the New Year and holidays, according to the rules, you have to go to her home and her relatives one by one to "catch gifts". This actually doesn't cost much, but it is very tedious. I am tired from running around.

Tired of coping. But to deal with the specific situation, you have to ask his family, mainly her mother, to see which relatives are "walking" in her family. ("walking" here is a dialect, which means frequent and close contact. Relatives.) Mainly those who are relatively close. During the Chinese New Year and holidays, she has to buy something to see. Her mother said that all relatives who are "going" should go. But usually they buy some tobacco, alcohol, fruits and the like. , there is no need to give money directly. In addition, if you are out of town and really can't go, you can ask her mother. Her mother says she doesn't have to go, because her parents are here, and some relatives actually don't have the turn to give you gifts yet. You don’t need to worry too much about this aspect. In short, just ask her mother before the festival. Some of them can be omitted.

In addition, when you go to her relative’s house for the first time, you must "To send" means to give money, usually to the children of their family. This is not much, 100 or 200 is fine. Remember that it is your first time to go, no matter which house you are going to, as long as you are ready to go, you must be willing to do so. This is As for the custom, maybe her family's conditions are not good, yours is average, and her parents are reasonable. She may be too embarrassed to tell you this, but in fact this custom exists widely in southeastern Hubei. But you can get the money back.< /p>

After you get married, their relatives will invite you both to their home for a formal dinner according to the rules. Then they will also give you, the son-in-law, money. Generally, relatives don’t give much. But if it is a close relative of her family, such as her brother or sister’s family, then the amount given to you should not be less than 500. If the family is not well-off, it may be less.

Similarly, if After you get married, your relatives should also invite you two to have dinner at home formally. At this time, your relatives should give money to the new daughter-in-law. Generally, the money will be given according to the depth of the relative relationship.

After she gets married, all the relatives on both sides of her family have left, and these aspects are basically over. In the future, when there are important festivals, just buy some gifts and go to her relatives to visit her.

Everyone Family situations are different. Some parents love face and care about this aspect. Especially those who have many relatives and live in rural areas, they usually care about this.

In fact, her mother will tell her about the specific situation when the time comes. She will also ask you. (Many times, whether her mother asks you directly or she asks you, they actually have plans. At this time, you should try your best to pretend not to understand. Let her family arrange everything.

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