Are the ideal twins two sons or daughters, or one son and one daughter?

Ask a circle of hemp girls, if you have two children at home, you will get the ideal pattern order: one son and one daughter are the best, two daughters are the second, and two sons are the last.

Unfortunately, the circle is at the bottom. As soon as others heard that there were two boys at home, they immediately said, "Hey, there will be a lot of pressure in the future." Me: …

Then I said more sympathetically, "You will have two wives …" I:! ! !

Generally speaking, a son and a daughter at home can make a "good" word, which can make my brother take care of my sister and make me less stressed.

Personally, when I was pregnant with a second child, I actually wanted to have a daughter. It is purely because I saw the cute baby of my brother Max online, which made an old mother's heart jump wildly.

As for the two daughters, frankly speaking, they may have been a little cautious about each other when they were young. When they grow up, the sisters will have a good relationship and a higher degree of care for their parents. Just like my sister and I, when I was a child, she accidentally dropped me into the water and carried me back to the sun to dry before going back. When I grow up, I become very close, traveling together, chatting privately and so on.

After giving birth and raising children, I find that there is really no ideal standard for gender, including age difference, which is beyond your control.

Whether it is a son or a daughter, two daughters or sons, raising children has its ups and downs, and all kinds of tastes are understandable.

What are ideal twins? Not only does every family have different ideas, but even couples don't necessarily have the same ideas. Moreover, at different stages, our ideas will be different. So to say ideal twins, we can only say that different people have different views.

If analyzed by probability theory, of course, one son and one woman scored the highest. A brain teaser said that there were two people, a man and a woman. The world is made up of men and women, and everyone likes perfection, so having two children is the dream of most people. Only in this way can we realize the difference between raising children and raising daughters. More importantly, when children grow up, the pressure on parents will not be great. Moreover, with a son to keep up appearances and a daughter to comfort, can a word "good" be summarized?

In fact, whether it is a son, daughter, two daughters or two sons, as long as the children grow up healthily, safely and happily, it is a great blessing. Children usually leave their parents to live alone when they grow up. What parents can do is to cherish the time with them and accompany them to grow up slowly, regardless of gender!

When my wife is pregnant with a second child, I especially hope that the second child will still be a daughter. Although many people may not believe me now and think I am melodramatic, my real idea at that time was that another daughter would be perfect. Because my boss is smart and sensible, he basically doesn't care. At that time, when he saw the naughty boy in the community, he wanted to beat someone up, so by contrast, he might as well have a caring little cotton-padded jacket. But this should be an act of god, destined to make my family a "good" word, and my family's ingot was born.

The emphasis of raising boys and girls is very different. Some of my friends who have boys for the first time are afraid of having a second child, so they simply don't consider having a second child. Then why are so many people afraid of raising boys?

With the rapid development of China's economy, the cost of living is gradually increasing, and there is great pressure in all aspects of life. As a man, in the traditional concept of China, it is best to have a marriage room before marriage, which is the responsibility of men. At present, housing prices in first-and second-tier cities are enough to crush a young man who has just joined the work. If parents don't help with the down payment, most young people can't settle down. Relatively speaking, there is less pressure to raise a girl.

The imbalance between male and female population brings more worries. As a father, after two years of raising a baby, I found that raising a boy is not as terrible as I thought, and the role of a father is very important. Blankenhorn, an American, believes that in the United States without fatherly love, the role of father is irreplaceable, and boys without your love are more prone to violence. Injury, trouble, poor grades in school.

The experience of these two years tells me that the more my father does, the more he can give play to his talent as a father, and finally he can form his own unique parenting style. Here are some suggestions:

In fact, it is not difficult to bring up boys with children. Most boys like sports, play with their father, explore together and experience a bigger and broader world together, because his father looks tall and burly and omnipotent. Simply patting the ball, throwing sandbags and skipping rope can give my baby countless ways to play. A ball in his hand can be patted, kicked, used as a small seat, a skipping rope can jump twice, and then it can become a magic rope to trap me, or it can become an external obstacle in 007. These games are innovations that I didn't experience when I was a child.

Take the children to do manual labor and labor together. Whenever there is a courier at home, I usually take the ingot to the trailer and take it from the courier cabinet. The door lock at home is broken, the screen window needs to be replaced, the newly bought bookcase needs to be assembled, and the vehicle needs to be cleaned. I will do it with the ingot and tell him with practical actions that he can do many things. On the one hand, he can enhance his self-confidence. On the other hand, tell him that this is the responsibility that men should shoulder. As long as parents actively participate in the whole process of boys' education and let children stand on their own feet, the above anxiety should not appear when children grow up.

Teach boys to respect women once. Ma Bao threw a piece of draft paper into the trash can by mistake. When Yuanbao saw it, he was immediately unhappy. The back of the paper should be the picture he painted in kindergarten. He shouted angrily at his mother, "Mom, why did you throw away my painting?" I don't like you ... "At this time, I put down my work, pulled Yuanbao aside and told him that there is not only affection between father and son, but also moral strength. As a father, he really cares about and respects his wife, so in his son's heart, his father has prestige.

If you want to be a good father, you must make a lot of efforts, which is a test for fathers in modern society.

Personally, I think two sons or two daughters are better. According to my city, two sons are better. As long as the two sons clean up the house, the children are usually taken care of by their grandmothers. Because I am two sons, my mother takes care of the children more. My husband's sister married two brothers and took care of the children by herself. Her sister-in-law also takes care of the children by herself, and her mother-in-law plays mahjong every day. Most importantly, my father is my two brothers. They are very filial to my grandmother. My family praised me and envied me. Father and brother-in-law are married and earn their own money to support their families. My grandmother used to build an old house with two floors and bought a house outside. My sister and I are sisters, very close, but very worried about my mother, so we prayed for a boy after giving birth to two children. Since I got married, my parents have been very heartbroken, afraid that my married life will be bad, because my husband's house is an hour away from my mother's house and I can't be seen in the next city. I am always afraid that I will suffer indignities and I will be tired. Although my sister is at home, she gave birth to a daughter, and all the old people prefer boys to girls. It is said that there will be another boy. Because my sister gave birth to the baby, my father was sad for more than a month.

Speaking of a man and a woman, as far as I know, my brothers and sisters around me are inseparable after marriage. They seldom contact each other anyway. It doesn't matter if you just got married. After a long time, I feel my words are full of thorns. I remember a mother chatting with another person on the phone when her eldest son was waiting in line to pay for school. He and I both came out of my mother's stomach. Why does everything belong to him? Isn't he one thing longer than me? In which year did I give less? )

My sister and I have two daughters. Although we are very filial and caring, my parents are very heartbroken when they are pregnant and have children, including the child's illness. I had a miscarriage in the hospital, and my parents were worried about abortion and big moon! Tired! I don't know if it's like this here or all over the world. Generally speaking, grandma is very comfortable.

So I think my son is good. Up to now, my father and uncle will come forward together for anything. The most important thing is that the local ruffians and hooligans at home are very polite when they pass by my house. My grandmother can walk straight when she goes out, and the two at home are leaders. The same food and clothing for boys and girls depends mainly on what you want when you grow up. Afraid of being tired, I have two daughters. I worry about the rest of my life. I am not afraid of being tired. I earn more money and worry about the rest of my life. There is no throne to inherit anyway.

Generally speaking, a son and a daughter at home can make a "good" word, which can make my brother take care of my sister and make me less stressed.

Personally, when I was pregnant with a second child, I actually wanted to have a daughter. It is purely because I saw the cute baby of my brother Max online, which made an old mother's heart jump wildly.

As for the two daughters, frankly speaking, they may have been a little cautious about each other when they were young. When they grow up, the sisters will have a good relationship and a higher degree of care for their parents. Just like my sister and I, when I was a child, she accidentally dropped me into the water and carried me back to the sun to dry before going back. When I grow up, I become very close, traveling together, chatting privately and so on.

After giving birth and raising children, I find that there is really no ideal standard for gender, including age difference, which is beyond your control.

Whether it is a son or a daughter, two daughters or sons, raising children has its ups and downs, and all kinds of tastes are understandable.

In our traditional concept, we pay attention to both children and children. A son and a woman are easy to get along with, and it is best to have a man and a woman.

But most people have already moved on, and this kind of thing is not forced. Parents who want a second child don't want a second child because they have a son or daughter. I want my children to have a companion. In any case, children naturally come to us, and no matter what sex they are, parents will like them very much. Two children or two women are different life experiences. In short, the best arrangements are arranged by heaven, and we can accept them and enjoy the beauty.

I think the ideal two children are two daughters! Because of the words of two boys, after marriage in China, according to the traditional and factual environment, in-laws should help take care of their son's small family. Most sons will feel that their parents are unfair to them, which will affect the harmony between brothers, young couples and two generations! There are too many enemies, and most of them are not harmonious! Old people are hard to do, and all relationships in the family are not harmonious! One son and one daughter are relatively better, but most of the brothers and sisters are girls who take care of boys, and boys rarely estimate the feelings of girls, let alone help them, because of their nature or busyness! And parents should do their duty to support their parents, but parents often only give everything to their sons, and their daughters are outsiders. Sending something to my daughter is like eating a big loss. Even a pair of children with good feelings will eventually live far apart! Daughter will be hurt too much! Two girls are different, girls are delicate, they can take care of each other, they can speak their minds together, they can get along like girlfriends, and they can be considerate of each other! Therefore, generally speaking, it is better to have two girls, because as parents, having one more child is to make the child not lonely after a hundred years and have a companion! Not to add burden or trouble to children, nor to find the enemy injured!

What are ideal twins? Not only does every family have different ideas, but even couples don't necessarily have the same ideas. Moreover, at different stages, our ideas will be different. So to say ideal twins, we can only say that different people have different views.

If analyzed by probability theory, of course, one son and one woman scored the highest. A brain teaser said that there were two people, a man and a woman. The world is made up of men and women, and everyone likes perfection, so having two children is the dream of most people. Only in this way can we realize the difference between raising children and raising daughters. More importantly, when children grow up, the pressure on parents will not be great. Moreover, with a son to keep up appearances and a daughter to comfort, can a word "good" be summarized?

This sort should be like this:

If you have two children, you'd better have a daughter and a son. The second best is a son and a daughter. There are two women in Class Three and two children in Class Four. Fifth, there is a big age gap between the two girls. Sixth, there is a big age gap between the two girls. (there is another special case, no sorting, and finally talk about it).

Explain.

It is better to have a daughter and a son, that is, the daughter comes first, the daughter is older and the son is younger, that is, three to five years old. When the daughter is older, she can be sensible first, take care of her younger brother and play together, which will be very harmonious.

The second best thing is a son and a daughter, that is, the son comes first and the daughter comes last, with a difference of three to five years. When the son is older, he often can't take care of his sister, and sometimes two people will argue.

In both cases, the children are intact, and the children are similar in age, so they can be taken care of at the same time within a few years. Of course, they are extremely gratifying.

Third, there are two women. Although the variety is not complete, after all, there are two, which is better than one. Two women, the training risk is small. Qing is waiting to be an old woman and enjoy life. There is no pressure for a daughter to get married. It can be said that raising a daughter is very affordable! Raising a son is vanity. This vanity is just a surname of yours!

Fourth, there are two children. The variety is incomplete. But when I grow up, I will be strong. It's just that two sons are difficult to get along with. Daughter-in-law is not as good as son-in-law, and children are not as good as daughters. This is the new normal. Moreover, it costs money to get married, and the pressure of using a house is too great. But also bear the risk of cultivating talents.

Fifth, sixth, etc. It was said together. In addition to the defects in the third and fourth grades, this situation is particularly bad if the age gap between the two children is too big and they are both in their teens. Because the gap is over ten years old, they don't understand each other, and there is an age gap. There will be conflict between them. Parents also have to use two completely different ways and means to take care of them. It is often difficult to do everything, and they will take care of one thing and lose sight of another. Brothers and sisters who are too different in age generally don't get along well. The main reason is that the world outlook and methodology are inconsistent. There used to be seven or eight brothers and sisters, but neither the eldest nor the third had much emotional communication. Another reason is that they don't have the same childhood.

There is a special case at the beginning, which is not sorted. Now let's talk about it. This special case is twins, twins and multiple births. China people have always believed that having more children and happiness is the greatest expectation, which goes beyond money and status. Once you have twins, you are a hero mother, a hero mother! But after you calm down, think about it carefully, two at a time. After all, the pressure is too great, and you will be exhausted if you don't take good care of it. If you are unfortunate enough to have multiple births, it will really burn your intestines out and make you unable to cope. Yes, we have to rely on society to help milk powder. Therefore, in this special case, I will put her last.

This is my personal experience and experience for more than 60 years. Write it out and share it with you.

Thank you for answering my questions and answers. Personally, I think one son and one daughter are the best.

Although your daughter-in-law or son-in-law is an old woman or half a son, you didn't give birth to him or her, and you didn't raise him or her when you were a child. Why do you want others to serve you well and compliment you? Daughters or sons are different. He or she should serve you for no reason and work hard.

I am three sons. I took my eldest daughter-in-law last year/kloc-October/February. In February this year, I accidentally fell down. I am really sorry to disturb my daughter-in-law when I am recuperating at home. I had to have my husband or son hand this around. Although my daughter-in-law is very kind to me, she can't be told to do this and that just because she is kind to me!

People's hearts are all fleshy, so when they give others trouble, they should take care of each other. If they want to stand in that position and think more about others, they won't bother others, let alone bother others all the time.

It's not that I have two kinds of hearts, but the fact tells us that to be convenient to others is to be convenient to myself, and to respect others is to respect myself. So neither son nor daughter is the best. What do you think?

I think most people want to have both sons and daughters. I also think that most people don't care too much about Bauer's gender after birth. Maybe they will be a little frustrated at first, but it won't affect their love for Bauer. Of course, it does not rule out that individuals are patriarchal or persistent, and they must have a son (daughter).

My Dabao is a boy. When I was pregnant with Bauer, my husband and I very much hoped that the second child would be a cotton-padded jacket. When I was pregnant with my boss, my husband wanted to be a daughter. He feels that his daughter is considerate and filial and will be closer to her parents in the future. Maybe I loved too many people in my last life, but my husband is an unsociable person, so our second child is still a boy, haha.

I made a lot of mistakes when I was pregnant with Bauer. My early pregnancy reaction is very serious. My morning sickness lasted for five and a half months, and I was bleeding at 365,438+0 weeks of pregnancy. Fortunately, I was narrowly missed. After some tossing and turning, I don't care whether he is a man or a woman, I just hope he is safe and healthy. After Bauer was born, the doctor told me it was a boy and gave him a big kiss when I held him beside me.

Because Bauer was found to be a right umbilical vein during pregnancy, he was scared by the doctor after birth. Let's examine the baby. She suspected that there was something wrong with his organs. Her husband was frightened and took the baby to the research institute the day after giving birth, but the oval hole was not closed and there were no other problems. At the age of one and a half, the oval hole was completely closed and nothing happened. Her heart was finally relieved.

It's not easy to have a baby! After so much trouble, I have long ignored gender. I am satisfied to see two naughty little guys rolling around together all day, healthy and healthy.

The ideal sex is before the child is born, and after the child is born, all that remains is how to love him, no matter whether he is male or female.

As a mother, I think any combination is good, because it's all a piece of meat falling from me.

China people's ideal model is, of course, "having both children". A son is born to carry on the family line, and a daughter is born to consider.

For those who prefer boys to girls, the more sons, the better. For them, the daughter is a married man, and when she grows up, she gives it to someone else's house. Without a son, there is always a bad feeling in her heart.

In fact, these concepts are related to China's traditional concept of "raising children to prevent old age". I always feel that my son can support the elderly, but my daughter can't. Now, these ideas should be updated.

I have a colleague and two sisters who are considerate and filial to their parents. The eldest daughter is married locally, and her colleague immigrated two years ago. She is very reluctant to go abroad because she doesn't want to leave her elderly parents and leave her sister to take care of herself. But my husband is determined to emigrate. Her husband is an only child, but he is determined to emigrate. Colleagues persuaded, what should parents do? My husband says they have their own way of living, and I just pay money every year. She gave birth to a son and told me that her biggest fear was that her son was as heartless as his father.

An old man in our village died of a cold last year, and his three sons all lived beside him.

The villagers all say that this is a typical "three monks have no water to drink", and they pass the buck to each other, resulting in no one being responsible for the life and death of the elderly.

There are many students who are only children around me. They all bring their parents and children. They are also very happy.

As a mother, having two children is already very happy. Both men and women are their own children. As long as they are safe, healthy and happy, I think it is the most ideal.

I am the mother of two children. I have a master's degree in management from Renmin University of China, a master's degree in applied psychology from Beijing Normal University, an American lecturer in active subjects, and a gold medal tutor in parent-child reading, focusing on family education.

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