What should I do if I meet a teacher who has taught me?

A recent survey of two schools by China Children's Mental Health Committee shows that 59.3% of children are tired of learning, including children with learning difficulties and children with excellent grades, and this kind of weariness tends to advance.

When a child refuses to learn, it means that he refuses to grow up and cannot replenish the normal energy needed for growth. The final result was that he was eliminated from society. Entertainment baby network

So, why do children refuse to study? Children refuse to learn in kindergarten. What about learning formally? This is a concern of many parents. So we planned the topic of this issue, trying to help parents find this reason and solve this problem-

It's not just children who refuse to learn.

Case 1 pampered dragon dragon (male, 6 years old)

Interviewee: Teacher Wu (kindergarten teacher)

Daily work performance

Longlong's father had a son in middle age, and the family lived with grandparents, so Longlong enjoyed the care of grandparents and parents. Longlong never takes the initiative in his studies, and he doesn't concentrate on any class, especially reading, writing and arithmetic. He always answers irrelevant questions when answering teachers' questions. He still likes learning English, because he took part in English interest classes in the north when he was more than 2 years old and was exposed to English.

This summer, Longlong signed up for a key primary school to take an exam. Get some fucking education and let him practice his exams. He refused to do it anyway, so his anxious mother had to ask me for help. I had to use my spare time to explain it to him alone, but Longlong's attention was always poor, and he often had to stop talking for less than three minutes before he could continue.

Longlong is a clever boy. He can learn anything he wants. When he doesn't want to learn, it is often because he is attracted by other things. When other children are studying, he can concentrate on doing his own thing, and other children may not find it interesting.

Longlong has another problem. In class, he will do something different from others. For example, in painting class, he started painting without waiting for the teacher to explain. The content of the painting is not the theme required by the teacher, and the expression is not good, and the color matching is not harmonious. For example, at one time, he especially liked dark colors and would paint the whole painting black, gray and so on.

Because parents pay more attention to instilling early knowledge before going to kindergarten, Longlong has a wide range of knowledge. He likes to ask many questions about natural science, and especially likes to go to the research room of kindergarten to see animal and plant specimens. Once he caught a bug on the side of the road, took it back to the kindergarten and asked the teacher a lot of questions about bugs. He has been paying attention to this problem all week.

Wang Xiaochun analysis

You can analyze the child's family education. Perhaps, Longlong's mother knows some educational knowledge, so she has a little "control" (such as criticism) over him in language, and may be "reasonable" a lot, but her behavior is to accommodate him, be hollow to the children, and be offensive, which is worse than being unreasonable; Originally, my father should play the role of a disciplinarian at home, showing majesty, but unfortunately it didn't play any role in family education. Grandparents dote on their children in every way ... no one in the family can "hold down" the children, and the children naturally lose control.

Wang Xiaochun suggested.

1. Children are not suitable for several parents to manage together. If there are different opinions, children will take advantage. Therefore, it is especially unsuitable for "soft-hearted" parents.

2. Parents should unify their educational concepts and coordinate their actions. Although you can't beat and scold, you must be punished when you should be punished, and you must not give in when you should not be punished. There can't be a situation where children control their parents and parents can't control their children.

3. Suggest the teacher to associate reading, writing and arithmetic that Longlong dislikes with drawing and puzzles that he likes, so as to arouse his interest and gradually cultivate his attention.

Case 2 fengjian (male, 4.5 years old) began to suffer from autism.

Interviewee: Teacher Li (kindergarten teacher)

Daily work performance

Jianfeng's family has good economic conditions, and his parents pamper their children, but they are eager to succeed.

Jianfeng can't concentrate in class, can't enter the learning state, and refuses to study any subjects. He also refuses to play with other children and doesn't like talking to others. Even if the teacher approaches him, he will walk away. The teacher found that he liked cars better, so he used cars as the object of explanation in arithmetic class, trying to attract his attention. He seemed to be listening, but all he answered were irrelevant questions. For example, the teacher asked how many wheels his car had, and he said he had a car at home. Other children operate toy cars, follow the teacher and observe the colors and shapes. He only cares about playing by himself, no matter what the teacher is talking about.

I found that Jianfeng seems to be a little interested in English class. Maybe the funny expression of the foreign teacher can make him happy. But once he felt that the teacher seemed to be scolding him, so he shouted at the teacher excitedly. Later, Jianfeng kept clamoring not to go to kindergarten. His mother was soft-hearted and could only agree that he would not return to the park.

But when a person teaches him, he doesn't listen. Instead, he told his teacher about his family, his car and toys, his parents taking him to the park, and so on, with a sense of superiority on his face. He seldom asks questions about his studies and is indifferent to the outside world and others.

Wang Xiaochun analysis

Many parents complain that their children know everything but don't do the right thing. This inconsistency is caused by parents' words and deeds. Without resolute action, all "reasoning" is empty talk, and "education" without resolute action is fake and shoddy education.

Due to the mistakes in family education, the child's problem is no longer a simple study problem, but extends to psychological or personality problems. He is somewhat autistic and has language and interpersonal barriers.

Wang Xiaochun suggested.

1. In view of this mother's poor educational foundation, I'm afraid she needs a family tutor to follow up. Just one or two conversations can't solve the problem.

2. Help mother to change her mind, give her specific suggestions, let her try to do it, feedback the results, come up with the next idea, explain the reasons to her with the experience of success and failure, and further change her mind. In short, teach parents first, and then she will teach children.

3. Teach children to speak sentence by sentence and raise their hands one by one. If these can't be done, children can't communicate with children normally, so they have to retreat to their inner world, become more and more closed and anxious, which may turn into aggressive behavior.

Case 3 "Not enough learning" composition (female, 5 years old)

Interviewee: Miss Li (kindergarten teacher)

Daily work performance

Wenwen's parents are both graduate students. The family immigrated to Canada five years ago and returned to Guangzhou when Wen Wen was four years old. Born in Canada, the child was brought up by his mother before going to kindergarten and received early knowledge education. Wenwen is a clever boy, with strong independent ability, and soon adapted to it after entering the park. She speaks Chinese quite well and knows more words than her classmates, not to mention English. I often have direct conversations with foreign teachers, and she is indispensable for kindergarten's external activities, English performances and receptions. Gradually, her arrogant personality became more and more obvious. She began to refuse to write, read and answer questions, and rarely took the initiative to find children to play with. The only thing that attracted her was the English class taught by foreign teachers.

In English class, Wen Wen often takes the initiative to answer questions. Sometimes when the teacher doesn't call her name, she stands up and says that she will be very unhappy if she is interrupted by the teacher. She refused to study in other aspects.

I heard from Wenwen's mother that she likes watching English cartoons and picture books at home. Her parents don't force her to learn kindergarten teaching contents, such as writing and arithmetic. She can decide what she likes. I once asked her why she didn't want to study. She said that she understood everything the teacher said, so when others were studying, she always went her own way, either reading books or playing with toys or drinking water in the toilet. In short, she just tried to leave her seat.

Wang Xiaochun analysis

The problem of writing is not learning, but cultural conflict. Wen Wen grew up in Canada and didn't adapt to the education in China, and neither did the kindergartens in China. Wen Wen may think that the attitude of teachers and classmates is different from that of foreign countries-she likes to chat with foreign teachers alone, which can be felt.

Because Wen Wen's early education is good and he is smart, he "has not enough to eat" in domestic kindergartens. The teacher has taught her, and the teacher can't always let her perform. This is the reason why she refused to study. Writing is more self-centered, with a sense of superiority and a strong desire to express, which even foreign teachers can't stand, probably because of cultural conflicts.

Wang Xiaochun suggested.

1. There is no way to deal with cultural conflicts. Now that we have returned to China, we must find ways to gradually adapt our children to domestic education. In this regard, time is the best teacher, and parents only need to convince their children.

2. In kindergarten, we can consider making some concessions to Wenwen's original habits and allowing her to be a little special, because she needs to have an adaptation process. For example, if she meets something she has already learned, she can be allowed to do what she likes without attending classes, as long as it does not interfere with others.

This kind of child is not suitable for more praise. She should feel that she is an ordinary child like others and has no special rights. The teacher may take care of her, but that's temporary. Teachers and parents should create conditions for her to help others, which will help overcome her self-centered problem.

Case 4 An overprotected newborn (female, 5 years old).

Interviewee: Teacher Cai (kindergarten teacher)

Daily work performance

I was brought up by my grandmother in front of Xinshang Kindergarten, and my hands-on ability is poor, my movements are slow and I am very dependent. Due to busy work, parents take less care of their children. She was very reluctant to study in kindergarten, and she often deserted. Her parents took her to see a doctor, and she was diagnosed with sensory disorder and inattention.

I can't concentrate when I am happy in class. Even if you listen carefully for a while, your left ear goes in and your right ear goes out, and you can't remember. She never takes the initiative to speak. When the teacher asked questions, she kept her head down and didn't speak, even shed tears or lost her temper. I think she has a strong sense of inferiority and has formed an image of a poor student among her children.

According to the test of the hospital, there is nothing wrong with the child's intelligence, because the sensory imbalance makes her unable to concentrate on her study, and her poor study makes her lose interest in learning more and more. When others are studying, Xinxin likes to play with the buttons and lace of her clothes and looks very happy. Sometimes I see her eyes looking at the teacher, but her eyes are empty and seem to wander. She is slow in doing manual work. If she doesn't like it, she loses her temper easily.

Wang Xiaochun analysis

Initially, children were overprotected, resulting in low ability, not only poor mobility, but also "rusty" brain. Poor ability will be laughed at by friends and criticized by teachers, so you will feel inferior and shrink back. If they can hide something, they won't do it. In this way, their abilities in all aspects will not develop by leaps and bounds. This is by no means a simple refusal to learn, but a poor survival ability and a low degree of socialization.

Wang Xiaochun suggested.

1. To solve this child's problem, the most important thing is that parents should be "lazy". Whatever a child can do by herself, even if she can't do it well, let her do it herself. Parents can guide her, but can't do everything. I can endure not to interfere, and I don't care if my child asks you for help.

2. Children should always pay a little attention to everything. When they do something, they always increase their self-confidence. So they can accumulate slowly. After a long time, their self-confidence, attention and ability can be improved. This is the real practical education. If parents can't do this, don't blame the children, because it's the parents' problem.

Every generation is eager to protect their children. When absolutely necessary, it is best to ask grandma not to ask about their education.

Warm reminder:

Five ways to make children fall in love with learning

1.*** The boring method of "you teach me to learn" is prohibited. For children aged 3-5, the most suitable way to learn is to play, which can integrate the knowledge that children need to master or learn into the game. For example, military chess can be changed into addition and subtraction chess, and the characters in military chess can be changed into addition and subtraction exercises. If the addition and subtraction result of the flip is greater than who, the chess will be eaten.

2. Caring for curiosity is the source of children's interest in learning. Parents should not ignore and deny their children's learning and exploration behavior, but try to observe the world with his eyes, and surprise, ask questions, discuss and draw conclusions with him.

Never stop your children from learning musical instruments or attending interest classes. When he finishes painting a picture or playing music, you must first affirm him, make him have confidence in himself, and then guide him to find out his shortcomings. Constant encouragement will keep children interested in what they need to master and eager to learn, so that they can learn better.

4. Creating a pleasant learning environment can make children feel relaxed and happy and get good grades. For example, children generally love to listen to stories, and you will find that children are eager to know the words in the book. This spirit of actively asking for learning is very valuable. Parents can take this opportunity to teach their children to read correctly. After listening and reading more, children naturally master these words and gradually develop the interest and habit of actively learning and exploring knowledge.

When going outdoors, parents can often take their children to nature to broaden their horizons, enrich their knowledge and improve their interest in learning. It is best to guide him to participate in some practical activities, such as collecting seeds, conducting germination experiments, planting potted flowers, etc. Small animals can also be kept. As children grow older, they can be inspired to draw what they have seen and heard, and encouraged to read relevant books, learn to ask questions and learn to find answers in books. In this way, children's interests are wide, their knowledge is expanded, and their learning ability is improved unconsciously.

Children think that children are tired of learning = family education mistakes.

Children refuse to learn, and the problem is not learning itself, nor intelligence in general. The fault mainly lies in non-intellectual factors, mainly caused by family education mistakes.

Although interest is very important for learning, learning can't rely solely on interest. Learning is a controlled mental activity. Without a certain degree of self-control, you can't concentrate, and you lose your psychological foundation in learning. This is the main reason why many children refuse to study. At first, they were unable to enter the learning state (unable to get started), so they avoided it and became disgusted and rejected. Therefore, generally speaking, the essence of children's weariness of learning is lack of will, laziness and incompetence.

Will is not innate, and laziness is not innate. Parental doting and overprotection are the main reasons that hinder the development of children's willpower and cause children to be lazy. Therefore, if parents do not adjust their wrong educational behavior, children will inevitably be tired of learning or behave. I am tired of learning when I go to kindergarten. What should I do after school? It seems that parents need to pay great attention to solving the problem of children's weariness before going to school, so that children can fall in love with learning.

To this end, we conducted a survey in a certain range and found that the reasons why children refuse to learn are as follows:

1. Poor academic performance and lack of self-confidence.

2. Parents are busy and have little discipline.

3. Children can't control themselves and lack concentration.

4. Parents are overprotective and children lack willpower.

5. Influenced by family background, they have no interest in schoolwork and lack learning motivation.

6. Parents don't cooperate with the teacher's education