Parents are only valid for 10 years: the three kinds of education you must give your child.

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Text: May

A famous writer in Taiwan Province Province once shared a story.

The author has a friend and an 8-year-old daughter at home.

When the writer first met his friend's daughter, the little girl was naive and romantic, with a good memory and a gift for drawing. She can easily describe the cherry blossoms on the wine label that she has only seen once.

The writer thinks that the little girl is very talented and thoughtful, so she often advises her friends to cultivate her ability in this field.

But the author's friends always prevaricate that they are too busy to spend time with their children.

10 years later, the writer saw the little girl again, and the aura in her body and eyes disappeared.

Holding a cigarette in his hand, wearing trendy clothes, showing a small belly, sitting in the corner with his cohabiting boyfriend, whispering to each other and occasionally showing disdain for the guests.

The girl who was originally very aura, because her parents did not give her timely education, gradually moved towards mediocrity.

Looking at the girl, the writer sighed: "It turns out that parents, like food, have a' shelf life'. Children are a gift from God. When you don't cherish them, God takes back this sweet gift. "

Therefore, while the role of "parents" is still effective, we must complete the most important education for our children.

Once parents are "overdue" and want to educate their children, no matter how much time and energy they spend, it is difficult to have a substantial impact on their children, only sigh and regret.

The shelf life of parents is only ten years, so how can parents provide the most suitable education for their children in these ten years to help them grow up better?

Russell believes that children of every age have different characteristics, and it is very important to cultivate children according to their age.

1-3 years old: let children develop good habits.

A reporter interviewed a Nobel Prize winner and asked, "What did you learn in which university is the most important?"

The Nobel Prize winner calmly replied, "In kindergarten."

"In kindergarten, I learned to give half of my things to my friends; Don't take things that are not your own; Things should be placed neatly; Disturb others to apologize; Nature is beautiful, so we should observe it carefully ... I have been doing what the kindergarten teacher taught me. "

From the Nobel Prize winners, we can easily find that the education and habits a person received as a child will have a great influence on his character formation and life development.

The more good habits are cultivated earlier, the easier it will be for parents to raise their children in the future, and the easier it will be for children to get good grades.

3-6 years old: give more encouragement and appreciation to children.

When my family first learned to ride a bike, I was timid, afraid of falling, and afraid to let his father let go of his hand holding the back seat.

Later, I didn't think it was the right way to drag on like this, so I kept saying to my children:

"Beibei, come on, you can do it!"

"You are so smart and brave, how can it be so difficult to learn cycling?"

With my encouragement, Beibei seems to have suddenly hung up, pedaled and rode bravely for a long time.

British psychologist hadfield said:

People with self-confidence can develop their potential to more than 500%, while those without self-confidence and inferiority can only develop their ability to 30%.

Therefore, parents must pay attention to the cultivation of children's self-confidence in their childhood.

Confident children are full of confidence in the future, will not be easily knocked down by difficulties, and do things more gracefully and calmly.

After 6 years old: pay attention to the excavation of children's special talents.

Dr. Wei, a professor of psychology in Peking University and a judge of super brain science, once said: "Childhood is the golden age of brain development, and intelligent education is very important."

After the age of 6, the child's brain is gradually fully developed and can accept more knowledge.

At this stage, parents can start to explore their children's interests, supplemented by corresponding training, to help children explore their own advantages faster and better, and have stronger abilities.

Being a parent has always been a difficult process. Few parents can do nothing, but 10 or 20 years later, they will have a smart and sensible child who is good at learning and performing well in all aspects.

Therefore, parents must not be lazy, take care of every important stage of their children's growth, and give them all-round companionship and education as much as possible.

If you have time, spend more time with your children.

Some time ago, in "Little Celebrity in Chinese Studies", the video of "The Strongest Flying Flower Order" by He Liran, who is 13 years old, exploded the circle of friends.

/kloc-at the age of 0/3, she smiles very smartly in Wenya.

In just 5 minutes, I told 127 a poem with the word "wind", which captured the hearts of many parents.

So, how did the "flying girl" He Liran develop?

Looking back on her growing experience, it is not difficult to see that all this is due to the nourishment of various famous books.

Her parents cultivated her reading habits when she was very young. While other children are playing with their mobile phones and watching TV, she is reading books in the company of her parents.

The profound cultivation of childlike innocence has already integrated those literary classics into the flesh and blood. When you grow up, you will naturally have elegant temperament and extraordinary tolerance.

Reading is storing wisdom and borrowing money. Psychological research has confirmed that reading can make a person's IQ higher and his logical judgment clearer.

At the same time, reading can also make children surpass their age and class. Everyone is equal before reading. No matter whether children are born in poverty or wealth, whether in urban or rural areas, reading can always give children a starting point in life when they grow up, more than children who don't read or study less.

Respect children's interests if possible.

I once saw a small animation "One Sample", only 8 minutes, without a line, but it shocked countless parents.

Here's the story.

My son is a little guy who is curious about the world. In his world, the sound of the violin is the most beautiful note, and the English letters are cute animals and elves.

But in dad's world, attending classes honestly is the only thing children should do.

Dad smoothes the edges and corners of the child in a way that he thinks is good for the child, so that he can integrate into the world that he thinks is successful in a uniform but lifeless way.

But in the end, dad suddenly found that after the child started his daily life in the way he planned, people became more and more unhappy and the light in his eyes was gone.

He regretted it and began to work hard to help the child find the light in his eyes.

I especially like a sentence: "You cut my wings, but you blame me for not flying."

Sometimes, children are not good enough, perhaps because their parents snuffed out their interest and cut off their flying wings when they were young.

Every child has his own growth trajectory and his own nature. What parents have to do is to take good care of the nature in their children's bones and then explore them slowly.

One day, a child's interest will take him to a higher place.

If there is an opportunity, let children learn English.

A few years ago, I traveled to the United States and lived in an immigrant family from southern Fujian.

There is a 7-year-old boy at home who can "talk nonsense" easily: he speaks Minnan dialect with his grandfather, Mandarin with his parents, and English with his classmates at school, and his language changes freely.

A child is like a blank sheet of paper, and everyone around him speaks his mother tongue.

The younger the child, the less division. No matter what language you teach him, he can learn as fast and well as his mother tongue.

In today's society, English is becoming more and more important. From primary school to studying in universities, English exams are needed. Many jobs also require you to know some English; It is much more convenient for people with good English to travel abroad or watch English movies or books at home.

Therefore, it is wise to enlighten children in English when they are young and have strong language absorption ability.