What are the pitfalls in attending high school in America?

A netizen once asked me: I have read a lot of your posts about American education, from elementary school to university, and they are all looking on the bright side. Can you say something bad? A topic "the trap of American high schools" immediately came to my mind, but because there was no first-hand interview material at that time, I wrote several outlines, but I always felt "scratching my boots." At present, many parents in China are considering the possibility of sending their children to high school in the United States. On the one hand, they want to escape the pressure of college entrance examination in China, on the other hand, they want to go to college directly here. Of course, the starting point is to love your children, and the intermediary also uses this psychology to blow the advantage of attending high school in the United States. But I want to ask: if parents can't accompany them, who will supervise the underage children? Not to mention the psychological problems faced by studying in the United States, and the temptation of drugs? Many domestic parents probably don't realize the following problems in American schools:

First, the American campus is flooded with drugs!

This is the first China family I came into contact with. My parents are the first generation of American immigrants, and they are busy making a living all day. Due to peer pressure, my only son started smoking marijuana in middle school. Although marijuana has a special smell, it's a pity that China's parents have no such consciousness at all. As long as children get good grades, they will be given whatever they want. As a result, during a field trip at school, the child and several other boys were found hiding in the hotel bathroom and smoking marijuana. The children who were arrested did well in school, and their parents were severely punished before they knew it. Imagine that parents in the United States have such problems, not to mention that children "fly alone"?

In the second grade of Yaya Primary School, the school has taught them to refuse drugs. At that time, I still felt puzzled. However, it was later discovered that drugs had quietly spread in junior high schools in the United States. Children may meet senior students selling marijuana at any time, and many people start smoking. Almost all high schools smoke marijuana, and top star high schools are no exception. According to the survey data of MonitoringtheFuture in 2009, 15.7% of the students in the eighth grade in the United States have smoked marijuana, rising to 32.3% in the tenth grade and 42.0% in the twelfth grade. In 2008, these figures were 65,438+04.6% and 29.9% respectively.

Second, the temptation of alcohol.

In the United States, there is a minimum age for drinking, and the laws of different States are different. In Virginia, this is twenty-one. However, American high school students like to climb ladders. Sometimes this kind of ladder climbing is not as simple as a group of children eating cakes and watching movies together. The most important thing is drinking. After drinking a lot, the inhibition is weakened, and then madness, drug abuse, and even promiscuity. As long as they are in it, it is difficult for many children not to participate under peer pressure.

In Virginia,/kloc-you can get a driver's license at the age of 0/6, because you can't buy alcohol when you are young. Some of them stole their parents' wine from home, and some bought fake driver's licenses, which resulted in breaking other laws. Even more frightening is drunk driving. The case I mentioned at the beginning is that a group of children climbing stairs were drunk by drivers, resulting in death and injury after a vicious car accident, which shocked their school and even the whole community, because we belong to a very good school district in the United States and our school belongs to a very good public high school.

Third, prescription drug addiction.

America is a drug-dependent country. When I was a child, if I didn't pay attention, my parents would take my children to see a psychiatrist. As a result, nearly 65,438+00% of American children diagnosed with attention deficit disorder or hyperactivity disorder (ADDH) rely on pills to learn every day. No matter what happens to the child, as long as parents take their children to see a doctor, the doctor will prescribe a prescription under pressure to "solve the problem". The illusion of comfort caused by painkillers and antidepressants makes some children addicted to prescription drugs. Peer pressure and excessive superstition of prescription drugs make this behavior a "fashion", and it is difficult for children in it to survive if they lack self-control and judgment. This phenomenon has created some children who sell prescription drugs. A few years ago, a middle school in a nearby city died of eating prescription drugs indiscriminately. As a result, more than a dozen students selling drugs were arrested and expelled from school. The scale not only shocked the whole community, but also made the public education system in the whole state begin to examine and reflect on this issue.

Fourth, sexual temptation.

For American children, high school love is a common phenomenon. Boys and girls are full of hormones, so it is logical to steal forbidden fruit. The key point is that most American children don't take this seriously, and boys even brag that it is more than the number of times they have sex with girls. Many American parents even started taking birth control pills for girls earlier. Last year, I visited Martinsville High School, which is one of the worst high schools in the state. Actually, there is a nursery for girls. On campus, I met a ninth-grade girl who came to school with a big belly. What's more, she doesn't know who her father is! Children who grew up in China are conservative in this respect, but they are likely to be ridiculed, challenged and influenced by their peers at school, so deviant and rebellious things happen from time to time.

Sexual assault is no longer a simple sexual temptation, it is a possible disaster for American children, and it is not limited to girls now. Sexual assault may occur not only in dating of peers, but also in host families. According to the World Journal, this summer, a 16-year-old girl came to new york from China to attend middle school. As a minor, she asked her only relative and uncle to take care of her and live in her house. Unexpectedly, I was sexually assaulted by my uncle during my nap, which delayed the best opportunity to report and collect evidence due to family relations and other factors. At last, her child had a nervous breakdown, and now she has been deprived of custody by social services in new york. If China's parents want her children back, they may face some complicated legal difficulties.

Verb (the abbreviation of verb) lacks supervision and the trap of excessive freedom.

This is another case of a child in China. A Chinese male student who lives in a private high school in California has the highest grade. This year has been admitted to Harvard, Stanford, Berkeley and other famous schools. Then the student chose his dream Harvard and declined other famous schools. The student thinks he is excellent in all aspects, and the admission is a foregone conclusion. He had nothing to do before he graduated and returned to China. As a result, he made inappropriate comments on his Facebook, which was recorded by his high school. So Harvard decided to reject his words and deeds and finally returned home empty-handed.

At this point, I don't mean to belittle American education. From the sunny side I wrote before, we can see that American education is still very scientific as a whole. But, like anything in the world, it has both good and bad sides. In fact, no matter where you are, the temptation is always there and will never disappear. But the crux of the problem is that many American schools or guardians are difficult to effectively or even forcibly manage students or guardians because they are afraid of litigation. These temptations are even a severe challenge to all families with teenagers in the United States. It is important to make friends after entering middle school. Parents should always pay attention to which friends their children have made and take timely and effective intervention measures, while unattended young international students rely entirely on luck. Therefore, in today's age when international students are getting younger and younger, it is very critical and important for parents to make sober choices for their children according to their own reality.