The girl who lives alone in Iceland and me

"After living alone for a year, I realized that a person can start over in the most desperate time instead of dying." Qian Jia

"Through travel, I have witnessed the existence of these great men and my significance, that is, a course that is not taught by the school, and some life experiences that are missing in reading. In the process of growing up, I was asked to be a useful person and have lofty ideals. I have heard stories of great and distant people, and the school told us that tomorrow will be the person we look up to today. However, after leaving school, most of us have become ordinary people. We realize that we have nothing to do with greatness. The school didn't tell me how to be a happy ordinary person. I know a hundred ways to become a successful and great person, but I don't know how to live a normal life in front of me. I searched wildly in the book, followed the ups and downs of the story, closed it and started the adventure of the next book. However, it is only an idealized character and a fictional plot. Although the author did not mention his theory and thought, it was completely between the lines. "

I remembered the contrast in an interesting article I read before, saying that almost half of children in China are scientists and mathematicians, and the other half are teachers. But the ideals of Japanese children are much more interesting. Some want to be policemen, some want to be nurses, and some want to be cartoonists. This has a lot to do with education. In China, if you say that your ideal is to be a cartoonist, you will definitely be labeled as "doing nothing".

Our life, in fact, has been on the road from the beginning, and it is a road to meet the expectations of family and society. In this, people will inevitably get lost, so sometimes people have to leave the city where they have lived for a long time, and leave the life they live, in order to really see what they need. Only when you leave the society and everyone's expectations can you have time to follow your heart and understand what you want to do and what you can do.

When I read Qian Jia's book, it happened to be in my desperate year of 2020. I had to move to darmstadt because I failed the first interview, and then I failed in the GRE exam again. Then I spent all my time preparing for English, and the make-up exams for specialized courses were delayed. One word to avoid is despair, and I began to feel depressed. I am anxious and have a headache every day. I can only sleep for a few hours all night, so I will try to find an exit for myself.

I accidentally saw someone tweeting Qian Jia on the official WeChat account, and felt that she was a very cured girl. Her classic style is wearing an Icelandic sweater and two ponytails, and she is cute and warm when she smiles. I didn't expect to get rid of the sad past and get a freer future now. After I married her husband, I found that they were not suitable (in fact, nothing is more unbearable than the freedom of not being promised), but I had a child at that time, so I aborted the child and went to Iceland to start over. What I like most is to see girls bravely break free from the shackles imposed by others and move towards the life they want. There are really too many restrictions on women in China, such as what kind of person you want to be and when you should get married and have children. If you can't find the right person by this time, parents will arrange blind dates, and many people will really give up their struggle, even if they repeat the life they don't like. I don't have the courage to say no, especially for a girl who has a life that others look envious like him, a Shanghainese who can freely fall in love, get married and have children. When she finds that all this is not what she wants, it's really not easy to break free and go to a strange place to learn another language and start over.

I was not a quiet child since I was a child. Since junior high school, I like reading warm books about traveling or studying around the world, such as Waiting for Summer by Wang Wei, which I have read many times. Subconsciously, I don't want to live in a corner. I have been collecting all kinds of books about traveling in various countries since high school. Fortunately, when I was in college, I met my boyfriend in a relatively developed provincial capital city and began to take me on a trip to Southeast Asia. My senior year went to Japan to study in the United States. However, I have been asking myself since I graduated from my senior year and started traveling. What do you want? The final answer is that I want to see Europe and Germany during Mr. Ji Xianlin's ten years in Germany. So I decided to study in Germany. After APS, I came to Munich and began to learn German.

I like Munich because it's not too noisy or too cold. Very tolerant. No matter how old you are, you can find activities suitable for you and people who are suitable to do these activities together here. Moreover, the folk customs here are simple, and there are few things like stealing and losing property. I lost my mobile phone twice a year, once in the public library at the university station and once in the crowded shop in Marian Square, and I found it almost twice.

But I failed in the interview of Mugong University the year I passed the German exam. Fortunately, after another year of tossing, I returned to this city and began to study my favorite artificial intelligence major in my favorite school. In fact, I am also a lucky person. Life is like a reverse journey. If you don't want to toss, you may only get farther and farther away from the life you want. Now I have new wishes and other life I want. I hope these new wishes will come true in the future.

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