Overseas Chinese do encounter many difficulties in marriage and love.

Recently, the University of Southern California Students and Scholars Association was held on campus? If you are the one? The blind date networking event was attended by 14 girls and 6 boys, and more than 100 players, relatives and audience gathered at the scene. Coincidentally, the host, Morphy, broke the news in the Weibo that a special Australian program "If You Are the One" would be held. This inevitably reflects the worrying situation of overseas Chinese marriage and love. Dilemma 1: the social circle is small and it is not suitable to meet people.

Overseas Chinese, especially the new immigrants from China, worked hard to get a degree and find a job, but suddenly they found themselves in their thirties, and marriage became a problem. Qing Xu studied in Canada in his early years, and now he has settled down. Recently, he has been considering meeting some different people in the blind date edition of this newspaper. Her life is simple. After working hours, she goes shopping, reading and shopping. It is difficult for her to play with foreigners around her. And because everyone pays great attention to privacy, few people will arrange blind dates for her. Even if I have friends in China or relatives and friends in China, it is difficult for me to find a suitable one. Qing Xu told reporters that what made her most angry was the object introduced by her friends. After less than a week, she asked. Do you have money with you? It's the man who pursues money. ? Many people think that people who go abroad will be rich. Boys should encounter this kind of problem more often, and the other party is coming for their own conditions. This kind of love is too unreliable and insecure. ?

Dilemma 2: Cultural differences are difficult to adapt to.

Is it appropriate to find foreigners abroad? According to the data, 68% of Japanese with China nationality are 20-39 years old, so we should talk about marriage. However, China and Italian partners are always hard to find. On the surface, it seems that Chinese in Japan have one more choice than in China: marry or marry a Japanese. But the reality is always cruel. Xiao Mo just joined a Japanese food trading company this year. Last year, his parents returned to China to settle down, and he stayed in Japan alone. Taking advantage of last month's earthquake, in order to reassure his parents, he risked being deported and asked for leave to live in China for more than ten days. During these ten days, he called the only primary school student in Shanghai for a party, during which he kept asking about the whereabouts of Xiao Ke, a girl in the next class. It turned out that Xiao was the first girl he secretly loved in those years. He just wanted to take a chance and see if he could get back the feeling of that year. Although he is only 24 years old, Xiao Mo is still looking forward to his family. The biggest problem he faces now is that he can't determine the future development location. ? After staying in Japan for so many years, it would be a waste to come back directly. The goal now is to send it back to Shanghai within 2-3 years. But it is not convenient to find a girlfriend now. I'm afraid of any changes in my work in the future. I'm afraid my little daughter won't come back to China with me in the future. According to the previous experience of trying to associate with Japanese girls, there will be many contradictions because of different nationalities. ?

Dilemma 3: Long-distance love is easy to derail.

On the other hand, compatriots in foreign countries, because of the same cultural background and similar life experiences, seem to be more likely to get together, but they are not. After five years of long-distance love, I finally got married on April 9 this year. Tang Xiao's marriage is hard-won. ? I have experienced family conflicts and the troubles of a third party, and then I still have to look at it myself, and finally I can make a positive result. ? After a year of love, Tang Xiao's boyfriend Cheng Xiao went to Japan and started a long-distance relationship for four years. At first, they chatted online every day except for work, and gradually became self-centered. ? We are only happy when he comes back, and we feel that parting is better than marriage. Other times, we are very busy and make a phone call every few days. ? Last year, I learned from others that my boyfriend fell in love with a female colleague of the company in Japan, but it was just a secret love. Tang Xiao unconsciously fell into a period? Cutting or messy? In the pentagonal love, her boyfriend Cheng Xiao and another married male colleague took a fancy to the female colleague at the same time, and the wife of the married male colleague came to tell Tang Xiao. ? I really wanted to break up at that time, but I paid so much for this result. ? But calm down, Tang Xiao can understand her boyfriend's emptiness and loneliness in a different place. Under her boyfriend's pleading, Tang Xiao finally forgave him. At the end of March this year, Cheng Xiao returned to Shanghai to discuss marriage with Tang Xiao. The wedding reception is scheduled for May next year, after which Tang Xiao will go to Japan with Cheng Xiao. ? In fact, I am also very confused about the future. I don't know what I can do when I go to Japan, but at least we can be together. ?

Expert advice: more communication in foreign love and more trust in long-distance love.

Overseas Chinese do encounter many difficulties in marriage and love. Many China people who stay and work in the local area after studying abroad, the highlight is blind date again and again, and even parents give blind dates to their children. The People's Park in Shanghai is the most representative. Recently appeared in the blind date corner? Overseas corner? , divided into? America? 、? Japan? Wait a minute. However, whether it is blind date or natural acquaintance, the object of choice should be mutual understanding, tolerance, trust and support. Long-distance love needs communication, and long-distance love needs trust. The special situation of overseas Chinese makes them know more about long-term planning than ordinary people, and their money, work and life should be considered comprehensively, so as to give each other enough sense of security and a clear future. For people who are already in love, what I want to say is that it is not easy to meet such people in life. Don't ruin a beautiful relationship because of temporary emptiness and loneliness. As long as we get through the time of separation, a bright future is just around the corner.