How to immigrate to the United States and integrate into the local mainstream society

Cathy has twin children. She has lived in America for a long time. Media at home and abroad always say that China immigrants should be integrated into the mainstream. I don't think so. What is the mainstream? What is mainstreaming? Why should we integrate into the mainstream?

In the 1990s, I graduated from graduate school and entered a large foreign company in Beijing. At that time, mainlanders could not get into the top of the company at all. We are led by a few Americans and a large number of Singaporeans, Hongkong people and Taiwan Province people. Later, mainland students were gradually sent back by the company headquarters to lead us. Everyone saw hope and contacted foreign gold plating. Most of those colleagues from foreign companies went to North America one after another.

After I arrived in America, I was busy studying, looking for a job and getting a green card. I gradually like this country and don't want to go back to China. America is very suitable for women who pursue a quiet family life. And I am a person who feels very dull, and I have hardly felt any racial discrimination for more than ten years. Or because I am more confident, I don't feel inferior in America, and I don't feel inferior to Americans.

I once witnessed racial discrimination, when two cars grabbed the road and almost collided. A middle-aged white woman with disheveled clothes got out of her broken car, pointed to an Indian couple in another car and shouted, Go back to your country! The Indian gave her the middle finger and drove away. In this case, I can only say that I am very sad to lose for nothing. Who cares about the discrimination of such ignorant and stupid people?

Once I went out for dinner with a pair of friends from China and was led to the innermost table. The man said angrily that they were racists. Why don't we sit at the front table? I said, I don't think so. If you don't like it, we can ask to change tables. After receiving his doctorate, this friend worked on Wall Street for several years and then returned to China. Some people need a sense of accomplishment and identity more, and are more suitable for returning to China for development. Everyone chooses their own place of residence and lifestyle according to their own preferences.

Speaking of integration into the mainstream, I think it is difficult for the first generation of immigrants to integrate into the mainstream in the traditional sense unless they marry the locals. Among the immigrants I know, there are university professors who practice oral English hard and have few accents; There are Wall Street elites who often hang out with their colleagues and bosses after work. They work very hard to integrate into the mainstream, study football matches and read mainstream newspapers, which is very hard. Because of different growth experiences and backgrounds, it is almost impossible to really enter the social circle of white people and become good friends. For example, the company's New Year's Eve dinner and entertainment activities are all prize-winning competitions. Many questions are simply unanswerable to immigrants. Who played a role in the films of the 1980s? Play an old song. Who is the composer? In a famous speech delivered by the President of the United States in a certain year, what sentence was there?

There is no need to go all out to integrate into the mainstream. According to religion, race and hobbies, most people live in a small social circle. Everyone is tired enough at work at ordinary times. During recess, they should do what they like with the people they get along with. I like the inclusiveness of the United States, where people of all races live together and tolerate, understand and respect the wishes and cultures of others. As a person who chooses to stay in America, I have made this my home. I work and live in America, where my children were born, raised and went to school. I pay taxes and participate in community activities. At the same time, my good friends are all from China. They prefer watching China movies, going to China's website and attending parties of pure China people. I have sex according to my own preferences.

Do you think I am mainstream? Although there are no intimate white friends, I often chat with my parents when I take my children to participate in activities. During the election, I went to vote and discussed the pros and cons of candidates with my colleagues. I negotiated with the school to get more educational opportunities for my children. I'm a volunteer at school and boy scouts. At the gate of the supermarket, I gave small change to the children who raised money. I bring Chinese food to parties in America ... I am a part of America and my country. I quite agree with the views of netizens. The mainstream in America is the periodic table of elements, and we are all one element? ,? Whether you are integrated or not, the most important thing is to live freely, naturally and confidently! ?