What is a sibling relationship? Why are more and more people choosing sibling relationships now?

Hua Chenyu and Xu Qing, two seemingly unrelated people, were once rumored to have an affair.

Everyone is very shocked by this news, because Xu Qing and Hua Chenyu are 21 years apart in age. Such a "sibling relationship" sounds a bit incredible.

Think about it carefully. Although Xu Qing is 51 years old, she has always lived like a little princess. Her mentality is still very girlish. She has always lived in her own world and does not care about the opinions and evaluations of the outside world.

Such a "romance" is not impossible.

If a man is more than 20 years older than a woman, no one would be too surprised. For example, if Gong Li’s husband is 20 years older than her, everyone is still very optimistic about this relationship.

However, the sibling relationship between Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse has never been favored by everyone. Some people said sarcastically: "The female junior girl holds gold bricks, and Nicholas Tse holds four gold bricks."

Nowadays, everyone is still in a state of double standards when it comes to love with age differences.

Why are more and more people choosing brother-brother relationships now?

Nowadays, sibling relationships are becoming more and more popular, and many sibling relationships in movies and TV series make everyone sick of it.

For example, the Yuan and Song Dynasties and the stars in "Happiness at the Next Stop" moved many viewers.

Some research shows that in marriages, the proportion of husbands who are older than their wives is about 44%, and the proportion of wives who are older than their husbands is about 41%, and boys born after 1995 are less accepting of sibling relationships. The degree is also above 90%.

Love in today's society has broken through age boundaries.

In the past, people could not accept the relationship between siblings because in traditional concepts, people believed that men had a higher status.

But now as women’s status becomes higher and higher, they also have more say and choice in marriage, and now boys’ favorability towards mature and steady girls is also increasing, leading to conflicts between siblings. More and more love.

01

Women have more initiative

In the traditional concept, women in marriage need to be dependent on men, whether it is financial or spiritual superior.

But now women are becoming more and more independent. They have the capital to choose the boy they like, and they don’t even care about the age gap.

No matter it is older or younger than them, as long as they like it they will fight for it.

Young boys are more energetic, and being with them will be more relaxed and passionate. This feeling will make some women with successful careers but high pressure become very obsessed with it.

1. Mature women are attractive

Because most young girls are more willful and childish in relationships, and they need the care of boys.

But mature and steady women are more considerate, will not lose their temper, and provide boys with warmth and support.

Although he is older than him, this sense of maturity will make him feel very at ease.

In love, appearance and age are not important, the most important thing is the inner feeling.

2. Pay more attention to your inner feelings

Today’s views on love are becoming more and more open, and the boundaries of age, nationality, and race are becoming more and more blurred, although some people still care. age, but the range of acceptable age gaps has also been widening.

Nowadays, women pay more attention to maintenance. Even if they are older, there will not be much difference in appearance.

Everyone pursues their inner feelings more. As long as they get along with each other, there will be no problem.

Sibling love is becoming more and more accepted by everyone. The main reason is that the freedom of love has increased. Everyone cares more about whether two people get along harmoniously, rather than those worldly visions and standards.

If you meet someone who is "unreliable", your relationship will break down no matter how suitable your age is. If you meet someone who is compatible with you, even if there is a certain age gap, the age difference will become the basis for a stable relationship.

There are no unreliable relationships, only unreliable people

02

Don’t step into the minefield

Although siblings There are more and more romances, but if the relationship between sister and brother is not handled well, it will also run into a minefield.

It was not easy to be accepted by parents and relatives, but it was discovered that there were problems in getting along between the two people.

How should we avoid "stepping on thunder" when it comes to the relationship between siblings?

1. No one should always be accommodated

In many people’s minds, boys should give way to girls, but in a sibling relationship, everyone thinks that girls should give way. In fact, this idea is very wrong.

In a marriage or relationship, regardless of age or gender, there is no rule that one should always give in to the other.

If a boy thinks that a girl is older than me, then he should let me do everything. This only shows that his mind is not mature yet, and this kind of sibling relationship will not last long.

In fact, marriage is like two people dancing a pas de deux, one step forward and the other one step back, and then the two people exchange roles, so that the dance can always be within a reasonable range.

If one person is always moving forward and the other person is retreating, then the ending is that the two people are forced into a dead corner, or they keep stepping on each other's feet. No matter which ending, it will be disharmonious. .

Don’t think that in a relationship, the older one must accommodate the younger one in everything. Accommodating each other is the best state.

Just like a seesaw, if you go higher and I go higher, life will become more interesting.

2. Don’t turn the other person into an ideal type

In many sibling relationships, due to the age gap, they have different views on some things, and boys and girls themselves have different views on things. The understanding of marriage is also different.

Especially mature women, their understanding of marriage is to assume family responsibilities, and they need to consider issues such as three meals a day at home and children's education.

However, young boys’ concept of marriage is still at the stage of love. They think that as long as two people can still be in love as before, it will be fine.

After working all day, you should relax when you get home. Your lover will prepare the meals and play some games in bed at night. This is their ideal life.

When girls find that their views are different from boys, don’t try to change him, but consider whether we can accept his thinking mode, whether we can accept the immaturity or immaturity of his views. Minor flaws.

If we blindly want to change the other person into what we think is perfect, not only will the other person be very uncomfortable, but there will also be a lot of friction.

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Sibling relationships will face more problems

1. Feeling strong uneasiness

In many sibling relationships, Women all have varying degrees of insecurity.

As they grow older, they will worry about their appearance and physical function aging, and that their partner will no longer love her or even leave her.

Some women are also worried about having children. Now because their husbands are relatively young, they don’t want children yet.

But when the other party wants to have children, her physical condition is no longer suitable for having children, and these will become factors that worry them.

In fact, since you have the courage to choose a sibling relationship, you should not have these worries. No matter what kind of love it is, there is no guarantee of the longevity of the love. As long as you manage it carefully, you may get a happy ending.

Regarding the matter of childbirth, medical science is relatively advanced now. Although you have passed the optimal childbearing age, you can still choose to have childbirth, but it will be more laborious and difficult.

Another point is that the career gap between two people will make each other feel unbalanced. In many sibling relationships, the girl has already achieved something in her career, but the boy has just entered the workplace. .

Just like Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse, one is a queen and the other is just a young man who has just become famous. The career gap will also make girls feel uneasy.

Many men cannot accept the fact that their wives earn more than they do, if they feel that this will hurt their self-esteem.

If things go on like this, it is very likely that you will have an inferiority complex, or even become twisted in your heart, and start to take revenge on your wife.

In order for the sibling relationship of "strong woman and weak man" to develop well in the long term, both people need to be able to achieve true equality between men and women. Instead of the traditional man, he should make more money to support the family. this kind of thinking.

If the thinking cannot be changed, such a sibling relationship will easily die.

2. Psychological age gap

The most fatal thing about sister-brother love is not the age gap, but the psychological age gap.

Girls are inherently more mentally mature than boys. Coupled with the relationship gap between siblings, the actual mental age of the two people will be far apart.

In a sibling relationship, girls may feel that many of boys’ behaviors are childish or irresponsible, and they may easily have communication problems.

Another condition for a sibling relationship to be successful is that the boy must be mentally mature, or whether the girl can accept the boy's immaturity.

3. Have a strong heart when facing doubts

Another problem that sibling relationships have to face is the lack of understanding and acceptance by people around them. Although sibling relationships have already It is very common, but it is still difficult to be recognized by the older generation, and you are often questioned by relatives around you.

If our hearts are not strong enough, we can easily be swayed by these voices, so facing these questioning voices is also a very big challenge.

The age gap cannot really affect the relationship between two people. What affects the relationship is psychological maturity, and whether they can be independent of each other, respect each other, support and understand each other.