Why do Chinese couples in New Zealand miss the custody of their sons?

Chinese education has always been controversial at home and abroad. Chinese education has advantages and disadvantages. The following China couples in New Zealand missed the custody of their children because of Chinese education. What happened? Follow me to read the relevant information! Welcome to reading.

Chinese tutoring is illegal: Chinese couples in New Zealand are deprived of custody.

According to New Zealand Tianwei. Some people say that New Zealand is a paradise for children. Many China parents choose to immigrate to New Zealand for their next generation. In addition to the visible welfare, in order to let children live a carefree life, New Zealand also has a mature and perfect child safety guarantee mechanism.

But because of this, Mr. and Mrs. Ding, who live in Hamilton, may lose custody of their children. A few days ago, something happened that Mr. Ding regretted. He didn't expect to be scolded for educating his children, but he turned the whole family upside down.

The child sued me.

At 8: 30 pm local time165438+1October 14, the police came to Ding's house and took the child away. The eldest son 13 years old, the second son is 5 years old, and the youngest just turned 3 months old. It turned out that the eldest son told the school teacher that he had been abused by his father and lied that his mother had abused his two younger sons. Mr. Ding and his wife were identified as dangerous people.

Mrs. Ding immediately collapsed to the ground. Unexpectedly, the plot in the movie Scraping will happen to her. In the movie, China's father in the United States was jailed and deprived of custody because he scraped a sick child. On Christmas Eve, he can only climb the wall to see his son from a distance.

Afterwards, Mr. Ding posted in the forum for help, hoping that his case could serve as a warning to parents in China. He recalled in the post: "I have three children, the boss 13 years old, and I did something I shouldn't have done outside." As a result, I came back and hit a few times, and my hand was a little bruised. Today, people from the community came to ask me some questions. They asked me if I played, and I said no. Later, they called the police to pick up my other two children, saying that they wanted to go to court. "

Once the post was published, it triggered a hot discussion in the forum. Referring to the reasons for children's behavior, Mrs. Ding recalled that children have always been brought up by grandparents. Old people spoil their grandchildren, spoil them, don't listen to adults, and often lie. Children in a rebellious period are resistant to adults.

The two youngest sons were safely isolated for 48 hours and sent home, but they lived in a friend's house, and this friend had to be next to them. The couple are not allowed to be alone with the children. The experience of being forcibly isolated that night also left a great psychological shadow on the child. After coming back, the child often has nightmares and cries that he will never leave his mother again. There is a bruise on the instep of the second son. It is said that when he was taken away by the police that day, his foot was caught in the car door. Speaking of which, Ding Furen's words are full of heartache. Mr. Ding said that he would reserve the right to sue the police. It's cruel. There is no evidence, just a child's words.

police

In the case of domestic violence against children in New Zealand, the police do have the right to safely isolate children before obtaining legal documents. Police officer Richard said that the police have the right to save children and protect them. They are worried about their personal and sensory safety. Cases are different. They will try their best to find out the truth and see if the child has been abused.

Jessica, an Asian female police officer, said that when children are angry and have poor grades, they must not beat their children. "As soon as we arrive in New Zealand, we must abide by the laws here. If we commit a crime, the police have the right to sue anyone. You won't be treated differently because you are from China. Don't feel that you can't express yourself clearly if you don't understand the language. You can find an interpreter, free of charge. " She said.

lawyer

Lawyer Daniel said that many people in China have this awareness. Government departments come to me, and I will cooperate. These departments are now in opposition to you, and their way of thinking may not be neutral. Compromise too early is not good for you. The immediate effect is that you will not see the children for the time being, and the long-term effect is that you may lose custody. Even if you are anxious to see the children, you should come to a lawyer first to discuss what you can and can't say, but whether it is criminal responsibility or custody, it is decided by the court.

Ministry of Social Development, Ministry of Children, Youth and Family

The work of the Children, Youth and Family Department under the Ministry of Social Development is to ensure the healthy and happy growth of children and adolescents. In the past year, the Ministry of Youth and Family received more than140,000 reports on the abuse of teenagers. Among them, the custody rights of more than 5,000 teenagers were transferred to the department for custody, with Maori accounting for the most, reaching 60%, and Asians only accounting for about 1%.

Grace, a Chinese social worker, said that many people often think that only when children are violently abused can they call the police. In fact, the abuse we are talking about also includes emotional abuse, such as cold violence and psychological abuse, such as swearing at children, sexual abuse, neglecting parents' care, and children doing what adults should do. These are all kinds of abuses. "In the traditional understanding of orientals, a child begins to occupy half the sky of a family at the age of four or five. Cooking and washing clothes are responsible for taking care of sick family members and are typical moral models. But in New Zealand, this practice is actually illegal. Although we encourage children to undertake housework properly, if they want to undertake housework at home, it is obviously against the law and will affect their education, mental health and social activities. " She said.

Grace said: "Generally speaking, if there is child abuse, we will communicate with our parents at the first time. If they are willing to cooperate, we will provide them with some guidance and let them participate in the parent guidance class organized by their community. These community organizations will send special social workers to help and guide these parents to ensure that they will not be abused again. Parents in general are more cooperative. If there is a great lack of cooperation, we need further communication from other relatives of the children or the school. If the circumstances are serious, you must appeal to the court. "

warn

Some people in China often think of touching someone's head or hugging them when they see their lovely children. But in New Zealand, touching a child's head or body without parents' permission is taboo.

Moreover, some people in China often like to tell their children when chatting with them. "Your mother doesn't want you. Come with me. " In this case, it is not good for children's physical and mental health. Especially when visiting relatives and friends, you should pay more attention to your words and deeds in front of your children.

Parents in China should keep in touch with kindergartens, schools and hospitals in a timely manner, so that school teachers can know their family and cultural background and constantly learn New Zealand's humanities, society and legal knowledge. Parents in New Zealand are likely to face very serious consequences if they still keep the old ideas of educating their children, such as "Don't beat a stick, don't get used to children" and "A dutiful son will be born under a stick".

You know, New Zealand society as a whole attaches great importance to child abuse. Sometimes, even the birthmark may be questioned by the teacher, because foreign children rarely have birthmarks, so many people don't know birthmarks. Therefore, it is very important to maintain effective communication with schools and communities and seek help and consultation from relevant departments in time when problems arise.

follow-up action

It has been two weeks since it happened, and Mr. and Mrs. Ding have never seen their eldest son. Mrs. Ding said that she only wants her children to go home now, and her eldest son must want to come back in his heart, just worried that his mother would scold me and his father would be fierce. Of course he doesn't know that we are crazy.

The above is the news about studying in New Zealand. Welcome to reading.