Listen to Ted and write down your thoughts (3)

This is the third twelve days. Listening to TED every day has become a habit, and I know it is a meaningful thing. The TED in this loop is as follows. Interested friends can click on the link to watch it.

Topic 1: group loneliness

Nowadays, people with low heads can be seen everywhere, and mobile phones occupy a very important position in people's lives. There is a saying: The furthest distance in the world is when you are sitting beside me playing with your mobile phone. We can be together, but the psychological distance can be far away.

This is what the speaker is aiming at. 1996, the speaker praised the changes brought by the development of science and technology to people's lives. On 20 12, the speaker began to call on people to think about how to treat science and technology correctly. What makes the speaker have such an idea?

The speaker believes that technology enables us to keep in touch with others at any time, but it also makes it difficult for people to really understand each other.

We all know that we can edit our own words through chat tools, and the words sent to others are often well thought out. In real-time communication, we don't have much time to think. What we said is of course our real thoughts at that time, but it better shows a real person. Many people are afraid of face-to-face communication because they can't control it. In the speaker's view, this also reflects that people have no confidence to get understanding from others.

In addition, the speaker believes that social media prevents us from learning to be alone. As long as we are alone, we will try to establish contact with the outside world in various ways. It seems that solitude is a problem that needs to be solved. In the speaker's opinion, if a person can't learn to be alone, he must learn to endure loneliness.

So how to solve the problems brought by social media? The speaker thinks:

1. Start learning to be alone. There is an ancient saying: if you are not indifferent, you can't be clear, and if you are not quiet, you can't be far away. This is also very enlightening in modern times.

2. Create a space in the family where only face-to-face communication is allowed.

3. Give yourself time to think alone.

4. Listen to others and show your true self.

It was quite touching to listen to the whole speech. I think if a person learns not to be lonely, he will never become strong.

Topic 2: Don't ask me where I come from.

In life, there will always be people asking where you are from. In China, with its vast territory, different cultural customs and languages, people like to label people in different places. The speaker has encountered such problems, but people are more concerned about which country she comes from.

But the speaker didn't agree with the way she introduced the country, but she couldn't tell what was wrong. It was not until one day that she chatted with another writer that she realized the defects of this statement. To introduce a person through a country, there is an assumption that the country is constant and has always existed, but in fact, there are countries born and countries die in the world, so this assumption is not valid.

In the speaker's view, history and culture are real, but the country was created, so how should we introduce ourselves from where?

The speaker thinks that our experience determines where we come from, and we should judge it from three aspects: 1. Ceremony. Where do you spend your daily life? 2. Relationship. There are people there who can influence your mood. 3. restrictions. Life is limited, which leads you to leave it. This can help people to shift their attention from where you are now to why you left the original place.

The speaker thinks that it is easier to bring us into real life by judging where we come from, and it is also easier for us to find that people who are different from us through national judgment actually have similar experiences.

In addition, the speaker mentioned that it is difficult for us to go back to the place where we used to live, because it has changed and we are changing, so it is difficult for you to integrate into that life. Although this part is rarely said, it is still very touching. Sometimes you can only choose to move forward because you have no way out.

Topic 3: babies' amazing logical thinking.

In the eyes of many people, babies have no logical thinking, but the well-designed experiments show that babies have the ability to reason based on a small amount of data.

In the first experiment, the baby can judge whether the yellow ball can be pinched according to whether the blue ball is randomly selected, while in the second experiment, the baby can judge whether it is a toy or he is in trouble, and choose to change toys or ask for help.

Therefore, the speaker believes that babies know more than we understand, and we should invest in babies, they are the future.

I am interested in the second experiment. The baby found that he couldn't make the toy ring. When he observes that some people can make toys ring and others can't, he knows that the problem lies with himself, and then he will ask people around him for help. But if he observes that others have such problems, he will think that there is something wrong with the toy and choose to replace it.

From this experiment, I think it is very important to attribute the problem correctly after it appears. If this problem is caused by yourself, but you attribute it to external things, you will give up self-change and the problem will definitely not be solved. Similarly, if the problem is caused by external reasons, but you spend too much time looking for your own problems, it will also delay time. At this time, you will "change toys".

So how to make the correct attribution? As the experiment shows, it will inspire us to see if others can succeed. The success of others is naturally our own problem. Observing others, asking others for help and reading relevant books are all ways for us to change ourselves. If everyone else does this, it's probably not our fault. It is a wiser choice to give up self-doubt and turn to something more worthwhile to invest time in.

Topic 4: Herd effect at work

What is herding? It turns out that an experiment shows that it is not the star chickens (especially those who can lay eggs) who want to improve the egg production of chickens, or even individual star chickens in the flock will lower the yield of the whole flock, but what does this have to do with work?

It turns out that in the working environment, it is not individual star employees who improve the efficiency of the whole company. What is the reason? It turns out that star employees tend to care more about their personal success, they are more willing to spend their time on their own affairs, and they are easy to lack interaction with others and are unwilling to contribute to the success of others. The maximization of the company's benefits comes from the fact that every employee can give full play to his potential.

Through the investigation of companies with good performance, it is found that those companies with more empathy, giving everyone the same time and more women are more likely to succeed.

Therefore, some companies specially arrange tea breaks to create time for people to get to know each other, get support, and know who they can turn to for help to solve problems. The relationship and trust between employees established in this way can make the enterprise more successful.

I also found the problems mentioned in this speech at work. In our education, too much emphasis is placed on competition, while practical cooperation is more important. It is very important to cultivate students' sense of cooperation from an early age.

Topic 5: the meaning of life

I think everyone has thought about this question: what is life for? So what does the speaker think?

Many relatives died of cancer, which forced the speaker to think more about death. He will set aside two days a week to do something he will do when he hears about cancer. It is these two days that make the speaker think more about the significance of what he has done.

For example, for this job, the speaker asked many questions: Why not let the person who wants to interview come for an interview? Why can't interviewers talk to company employees? Why can't employees know other people's wages? Why do employees work from nine to five? These ideas make the speaker jump out of the shackles of the existing system and form a new management model.

The way of educational organization has also changed because of thinking. Students can choose what they want to learn according to their own interests, breaking the age limit.

The speaker also applied this kind of thinking to his own life, from "What do I want people to remember me for?" To "Why do I need people to remember me?" This change made the speaker burn everything around him that represented his glorious past. In the speaker's view, this not only frees his children from the pressure of inheriting his father's business, but also allows them to go into battle lightly and start over.

It is precisely because of the speaker's constant thinking, questioning and asking why that he can jump out of the existing bondage and create a new model.

After reading this speech, we can see that the speaker thinks a lot and has his own views on many things, so I won't say much here. What is more rewarding is to ask why when doing things, such as: why should I do this? Why am I in this place? Only in this way will you become smart. The speaker didn't give a clear answer about the meaning of living. In my opinion, what the speaker wants to express is that life is a process of constantly searching for meaning.

Topic 6: Why do we laugh?

Smile is the most beautiful language in the world. It can warm people's hearts and light up the whole world. But I don't have a deep understanding of why I laugh. I watched the speech out of curiosity.

First of all, the speaker told me how infectious a smile is through an example of his childhood. You can even be infected by others' smiles and can't help laughing without knowing the reason why others laugh. The speaker found that no matter what the situation, the similarities between them occurred in the interaction with others.

We laugh to show that we understand each other's feelings, agree with each other's views and like each other. But we should also pay attention to real laughter and fake laughter. The older you get, the more you can distinguish a fake smile.

But why do people fake smiles? It has its social significance. Therefore, in the face of smirking, the human brain will think about the reason why the other person smirked.

Obviously, laughter is contagious. Those magical smiles in the video not only make the audience laugh, but also make me laugh. It can be seen that laughter is really infectious and can be transmitted across the screen.

The speaker found that we also laughed to dissolve the embarrassing atmosphere. In the video, the boy who plunged into the ice smiled after his companion laughed. The original awkward atmosphere was dissolved by laughter.

Life needs laughter. Laughter brings people closer together and makes them feel better about themselves. Laugh more when you have nothing to do, be happy with yourself and infect others.

Topic 7: Fuck off, little mood.

I know that people's mental health will have an impact on people, but how it affects them is not very clear. After reading this speech, I have a clear understanding of the harm of some common negative psychology to people and how to deal with these negative psychology.

The speaker first talked about the influence of loneliness on people. Because of his study, the speaker left his twin brother, which is the first time they have separated.

On his birthday, the speaker waited for his brother to call, and he spent the longest and saddest night in his life. Until the next morning, I found myself kicking off the phone line that I paced last night. He immediately connected the phone and soon received a call from his brother. No matter how he explained it, it was hard for him to understand why he couldn't call. The speaker also wondered why he could not make a phone call.

It was not until later that the speaker learned psychology that he understood that loneliness is a feeling that one has no connection with society and emotion. This feeling will disturb a person's normal thinking and make us feel that others don't care about us. We dare not take the initiative to contact others for fear of rejection. Loneliness can make you feel pain. Long-term loneliness will increase your blood pressure and cholesterol and suppress your immune system, so it will affect your life span. In the face of loneliness, we should take action to eliminate this feeling. Because it is a kind of self-feeling, as long as you can keep in touch with the outside world, it is not easy to feel this way.

Another kind of negative psychology is to think that you are a loser. It will make you give up trying or even unwilling to try at all, so that you can't give full play to your abilities and succeed. Facing it, you need to fight against failure and change your understanding of failure.

The third kind of negative psychology is rejection. Being rejected will hurt a person's self-esteem and make people feel stressed and nervous. After being rejected, you should treat yourself as a friend, not hurt yourself. How to treat rejection? You can watch the TED talk "Rejected 100 Days".

The fourth kind of negative psychology is to recall unpleasant experiences repeatedly. It is easy to form a habit, and some unpleasant experiences haunt your mind repeatedly, which can easily lead to depression, which in turn leads to alcoholism, eating disorders and cardiovascular diseases. Faced with this mental state, we need to divert our attention in some healthy ways.

Mental health is very important, so you should take care of your own psychology as well as your body.

Topic 8: How to achieve excellent decision-making

The right decision can make people move in the right direction, and the wrong decision may ruin everything before. The importance of decision-making is self-evident, just as one sentence says: choice is more important than hard work.

The problem is not that people don't want to make the right decision, but that they don't know how to do it. If decision-making used to depend largely on the decision-maker's own judgment ability, now there is a more objective way to make decisions.

Because of a wrong decision, the speaker suffered a great loss. This lesson made him think: How do I know I am right? He has become humble. He wants to create a system that can gather everyone's ideas and finally make the best ideas stand out.

Finally, he built it. He asked everyone to rate others' opinions according to certain standards, and everyone could clearly see others' ratings. In this way, people no longer cling to their own views, but look at their own views objectively. Effectively overcome people's arrogance and naivety, and greatly improve the accuracy of decision-making.

This sounds good, but it is not easy to realize. It took his company 18 months to make employees like this method.

This is indeed a very novel decision-making method. We all know that a person's views are limited, but if many people can express their views through the tools in the video and clearly show their views, people will examine their views from a higher angle and think about whether their ideas are correct or not. Moreover, this feedback mechanism can also promote everyone's progress, and this method can be applied to meetings and discussions attended by many people to make decisions more wise.

Topic 9: Reading the whole world

I like reading, and I have read some world famous books, but I never thought of reading all over the world. How did the speaker come up with such an idea?

The speaker is a person who loves reading and thinks he is literate. We say that we can learn about a person by reading books. Three years ago, the speaker looked at the books in her bookcase and suddenly found that she was reading the works of British or North American writers, so she came up with the idea of reading all the books on the United Nations list.

However, she found that the works translated into English often come from developed cultural industries, and the works of those small countries are hard to find, and she doesn't know what to see.

She wants to ask others for help. In June 1 1, she registered a blog and introduced where she came from and what her needs were. I hope you can leave comments and suggestions.

A few hours later, someone started to contact her. Four days later, a lady who was 6000 miles away was going to the local bookstore to help her choose books. All this is something she never thought of. As long as you want to understand the whole world, the whole world will help you.

During the year of 12, she got help from others in various ways. She became the first reader of unpublished books and set up a volunteer of nine people to help her translate books. It turned out that in her opinion, the behavior of asking for help because of her own limitations brought her unexpected surprises and made her establish a wide range of contacts.

In addition to meeting friends who love books, she came into contact with other cultures by reading books from different countries this year, which will bring value conflicts, but it is also enlightening. She realized the richness and complexity of the world and was no longer confined to her own small world.

Reading has its magical power. Even if you don't travel far, you can experience the world through reading. Life is short and our life experience is limited, but reading can compress time and space and let us experience another possibility in a short time. This is the charm of reading.

Topic 10: How can we "not be afraid of the future"

Many people have experienced fear, which is always accompanied by the unknown. We are afraid to put the topic: how can we "not be afraid of the future"

Many people have experienced fear, which is always accompanied by the unknown. We are afraid of the future because there are uncertain things, so how can we not be afraid of the future?

The speaker first talked about the current situation in the western world: elections full of differences; Class-divided society; Extremism prevails in the political and religious fields.

The speaker's friend described the election of the new American government as a man on the Titanic, holding a whisky glass and saying, I said I need some ice.

Anxiety, uncertainty and fear aggravate these problems in western society, especially when we are in such a rapidly changing era, and it has been determined that it will change faster, people's fear of the future is easy to understand.

The speaker thinks that to understand how to be fearless of the future, we must know what people worship. The western world advocates individualism. Look at these English words: self-help, self-esteem and self-ie, all of which embody individualism. The speaker admits that individualism can really release itself and make itself stronger, but people are social creatures and need to establish contact with others.

Only by turning "I" into "we" more can we be fearless about the future. The speaker thinks that we can start from three aspects.

1. Our relationship. We should not only associate with people with the same views, but also with people with different views. The former will only lead us to extremes, while the latter will make us realize that we can still be friends even if we have different views. The speaker's best decision is to meet his wife, a completely different person from him.

2. Our identity. We can see the difference between Britain and America from the People's Monument. As an immigrant country, the United States used to be very good at telling national stories, so people have a greater sense of identity. But now there are fewer stories in America. People don't know who they are, where they come from and what their ideal life is. Therefore, they lack identity consciousness and have a threatened mentality towards immigrants. In order to prove his point, he also listed that although Jews are scattered all over the world, they still retain their national identity, just because they will tell their stories to future generations one day every year.

We should not fantasize that electing a strong president can solve all problems, but everyone should take responsibility, and only by uniting can we be saved.

When you know that we face the future together, we will no longer worry about the future.

This speech is the most attractive one I have seen so far. The speaker's language is infectious, his body language is just right and his expression logic is clear. The three suggestions mentioned in it are also very enlightening.

I am particularly interested in identification. I have never met my grandparents, but my mother often tells me their stories. These stories really gave me strength when I was growing up and made me remember them when I persisted in the face of difficulties.

I think the Jewish people can have so many excellent people because they often tell their own national stories. Therefore, I think that if we want to revive the Chinese nation, we should really return to the understanding of our own national history. Only by knowing more about our national history can we not only have a strong economy, but also have a strong national self-confidence and pride. And this is the spiritual power that really makes us stand in the world.

Topic 1 1: Why should we work?

This is indeed a question worth consider. For most people, work is a kind of helplessness. Survival needs money, and work needs money. In order to survive, too many people do jobs they don't like. A few people are lucky to be able to do what they like and truly feel the value in their work.

In the speaker's view, except for some people who are engaged in challenging, interesting and meaningful work, most people are engaged in monotonous, meaningless and repetitive work. If it weren't for money, no one would do such a job.

Why are so many people engaged in monotonous and meaningless jobs? The speaker thinks it is "idea technology". In the field of social science, it is the way for us to know ourselves. This understanding will affect how we think, what motivates us to do things, and how we act.

Just as your different attribution to poverty will lead to your different behaviors, the author believes that the influence of "conceptual technology" is also enormous.

As long as people think that the viewpoint is correct, people will design corresponding systems to run it. As the father of capitalist modern industry, Adam Smith thinks that human nature is lazy. So people don't like work. In order to motivate people to work, it needs to be realized through wages. For this reason, the western world has created a factory system that adapts to human nature.

The speaker does not deny that people can get a sense of accomplishment from work, but those meaningless jobs that consume people's enthusiasm.

This is the author's example of how people will create a system to adapt to a wrong view. In his view, human nature can be changed by explaining and helping us understand our own theories. Human nature is designed, not discovered. So if you are an organization leader, you can design the corresponding company system according to what you want and who you want.

I haven't heard the author say that Adam Smith's theory is wrong. I think the best working condition is a spontaneous need, not forced by external reasons. In addition, simply encouraging people to work through money really ignores the power needs of different people and is not necessarily correct.

We have seen the harm to society by encouraging people to work through money. Those who make drugs and sell drugs to make money, those who make money by taking advantage of the characteristics that teenagers' life values have not yet been established, like to listen to some unconventional words and will say some grandstanding words. All these will affect the establishment of a healthy and progressive society and the future of a country. Therefore, we should change the single financial incentive model and establish a diversified incentive model.

In this speech, I don't think the speaker's content closely surrounds his title, so that the audience can't grasp his core. However, some viewpoints mentioned in it can be considered, such as: Is laziness human nature? What motivates people to work Can human nature be designed? People are doing jobs they don't like. A few people are lucky to be able to do what they like and truly feel the value in their work.

Five ways to destroy dreams

We often see the topic is; How to realize your dream? This speech, however, begins with how to destroy dreams, and the idea is very novel.

The speaker thinks that the first way to destroy dreams is to believe in overnight success. We will suddenly know someone overnight, so it is easy to have an illusion that he became famous overnight. In fact, he has made a lot of efforts for this day, but we just don't understand it.

The speaker thinks that the second way to destroy dreams is to believe that others have the answers to your life. Your relatives and friends may be able to show you the direction of your future efforts, but you should know that in this process, you will encounter all kinds of decisions, and no one can help you make these decisions, so you need to learn to make your own decisions.

The speaker thinks that the third way to destroy your dreams is that you choose to retreat when you grow up. After a certain success, you choose to be content with the status quo, stop working hard and climb a higher peak of your life, which prevents you from giving full play to your potential.

The speaker thinks that the fourth way to destroy dreams is to think that the mistakes are all others'. It is easy to complain about others. We can blame others for the failure, but it makes us give up reflection and look for reasons from ourselves. In fact, only we ourselves are the masters of our dreams, and complaining about others can't help us realize our dreams.

The speaker thinks that the fifth way to destroy dreams is to think that only dreams are the most important. The moment when a dream comes true is short, but the process of realization can be long. If we always want to achieve happiness at that moment and neglect the process of enjoying our efforts, then our feeling of happiness will only be short-lived. Whether you succeed or fail in the end, please enjoy the process of hard work.

Although this speech is very short, the speaker's thinking is clear and well-founded, and it is a good speech. My favorite sentence: If this is your dream, you have the responsibility to realize it.