If you struggle in Shanghai without a house, will you have a real sense of belonging?

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Colleague Qi, a native of a third-tier city in Jiangsu, 14 years ago brought his girlfriend to Shanghai to work hard. Up to now, he has accurately grasped the opportunity to buy a house twice and achieved the goal of taking root in Shanghai.

The two rented a house for five years first. After having children in 2007, they felt that renting for a long time was not a problem. If you don't want to be a passer-by in this city, you must have your own house.

At that time, housing prices in Shanghai were not as high as they are now. The couple gritted their teeth, took out all their savings to make up the down payment and bought a two-bedroom apartment in Minhang.

Later, my daughter went to kindergarten, and my parents came from my hometown to help with the children. The second bedroom is becoming more and more crowded. Last year, Brother Xuan sold his two-bedroom apartment, made up a sum of money to replace the four-bedroom apartment, improved the living environment, and booked a good school district.

Fortunately, he stepped on the right point again this time. After changing the house, the house price in Shanghai soared again. Within a year, his suite actually rose by 60%.

Brother Xuan lamented that if he hadn't bought his first small house, he might never have been able to afford a house in Shanghai at the current sky-high price.

As a first-generation immigrant, it is really difficult to work hard in Shanghai. After listening to Brother Xuan's story, I feel like a history of blood and tears.

Many people don't understand why it takes ten or twenty years to buy a house with a small salary in a crowded city like Shanghai.

Brother Xuan said that a person must have his own home if he wants to take root in a place. Especially with children, buying a house has become the goal he must work hard for.

He believes that if you insist on renting a house in the past, it will cost at least 2,000 yuan a month, but you can save some money and there is no mortgage pressure. However, this kind of saving is depreciating year by year, which can't outrun inflation and is far less than the increase of house prices. If you want to stay in Shanghai, you should try to buy a house, no matter how small. After all, having a sheltered home gives you a sense of belonging.

In fact, according to the current housing prices in Shanghai, a small apartment in Shanghai is already very common, and maybe it can be realized by an ordinary family in Shanghai. The key point is that most local people in Shanghai have welfare houses or demolition houses, or houses left by grandparents. It may not be difficult for them to change a house. However, when a stranger comes to Shanghai, only by buying a house early and constantly replacing it can he realize wealth appreciation, especially for the group with low income.

As the old saying goes, live and work in peace. If you can't find a place to live, how can you work hard? At work, you should also consider whether to pay the rent tomorrow and whether the rent will rise again next month ... Are you sure you can work hard?

It doesn't matter if you are single. If you get married, problems will follow. How can you settle down without buying a house? How to solve the problem of having children in the future? You can't go to a public school kindergarten without a hukou. Public or private schools that can only pay the poor borrowing fees must spell the residence permit "points" during the college entrance examination, otherwise the children are not eligible to participate in the Shanghai college entrance examination.

Buying a house is just to live with dignity, and your children can take a relatively easy road without relying on others.

Also, when a child is an adult, he wants to marry a relatively high-quality daughter-in-law, and having a stable job and a house are two hurdles for boys. Brother Xuan's neighbor downstairs is also a foreigner. In view of this, the wedding room is for children who go to college early.

Shanghai is a famous gathering place of single dog. Even if the proportion of single men and women is out of balance, several women rob a man, but there are eggs! Finding a girlfriend is still so difficult. Boys can't get married without a house and a stable job, and girls can't get high or low.

Shanghai women can't be blamed for snobbery, which is the same all over the country, but to different degrees. In this era, love still needs bread to support it.

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Many people came to this city with their dreams, struggled here for many years, and gradually fell in love with this city. If they want to take root here, the house becomes a necessity.

Once upon a time, we were all waiting for the house price to come down, but what we were waiting for was the rising house price.

A friend from Hunan started to look at the house last year. Because of the disagreement at home, he has been in a wait-and-see state, and he didn't shoot in time, so he missed the opportunity. House prices have skyrocketed this year, and the money originally saved is not enough to pay the down payment. He said gloomily that in Shanghai, he could not afford to buy a house before 10, and he could not afford to buy a house after 10. ...

He can only continue to rent a house, and then bought a house in his hometown in Hunan, intending to return to China after retirement. However, the biggest headache for him is that the school-age son has become a left-behind child in his hometown.

Shanghai's housing prices have gone up to heaven, and rents are certainly rising and unstable. Landlords often change, and the spirit of contract is relatively weak. Unlike renting a house abroad, you can live a safe life. Many people look at the boss's face in the company and look at the landlord's face at home.

This friend moved seven times in Shanghai in the past five years, and every time he was so tired that he was skinned. Every time I move, I feel that I have nothing but this person in this city.

However, he chose to stay in Shanghai. Although life in Shanghai is very stressful, there are many people getting on and off the bus. However, this city has more opportunities and challenges, as well as breaking many secular concepts and respecting and accommodating new thoughts, which are still very beneficial to young people.

He invested all his savings in himself. He said that in the long run, it is wiser to raise income than to save.

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Houses, registered permanent residence, children going to school and caring for the elderly are all obstacles that many white-collar workers have not yet gained a foothold.

When these problems cannot be solved, some people will choose to go abroad, and there is always a place to stay here. Some people choose to stay and struggle, and they must take root in this megacity; Some people will choose to leave, go home or go to other second-tier cities.

A friend from Hubei, after graduating from college, came to the magic capital with his luggage on his back. At first, I was helpless and self-reliant. Renting a house was cheated, and Uniqlo bought clothes too expensive. Up to now, although the salary is not high, my work has been stable and I have my own circle of friends.

But he still feels very tired and has no sense of belonging. Looking around, villagers have bought houses in Shanghai, but there is no hope of buying a house. No matter how beautiful the days are, I feel that I am not a part of this city, but an accidental intruder.

He said that when you can't afford to buy most parts of a city, you won't feel a sense of belonging. Three years later, he chose to go to Wuhan for development.

Another friend from Anhui bought a suite in Shanghai a few years ago, but he couldn't stand the fast pace of Shanghai. After repeated weighing, he feels that the pressure of life in his hometown is small, he can take care of the elderly and children, enjoy the warmth of his family and have a high happiness index. I sold my house during the high housing price this year and returned to my acre of land for more than 5 million in cash.

He spent more than 2 million yuan to buy a villa in his hometown, bought more than 500 thousand cars and sent his son to a local international school. The remaining 2 million was deposited in the bank, found an easy and economical job, and lived a fairy-like life.

Almost every big city in the world has its advantages and disadvantages that need to be improved. Although he left, he was still grateful for the days of living in Shanghai, which broadened his horizons and mind and increased his experience. These are all important wealth in life.

He thinks that youth is a kind of capital. College students can work hard in first-tier cities for several years and have some experience. If you feel tired and can't stay, you can choose to go to your hometown or other second-tier cities. Second-tier cities have relatively low living pressure, relatively low housing prices and developed urban transportation.

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Many people also say that this peace of mind belongs to my hometown, but it is not about the house. The so-called sense of belonging to the house is just the psychology of most people in China and the inherent plot of the house in China.

Many young people are full of passion for the future and come here alone with a beautiful yearning for Shanghai. When they first came, they were full of enthusiasm and infinite expectations, and felt that the house was not everything.

A young friend said, "Can't you get married without a house?" Does everything have to be linked to the house? Why does someone always look at the house? Is it too tired to live like this? "

Brother Xuan, who has experienced this problem, looks at it this way: "I don't want to dampen their enthusiasm for life and confidence in the future, but there is always a long way to go."

The world in Shanghai is wonderful, but there are three obstacles: house, hukou and children's education. Only one of them killed the will of many people. What can never be avoided in front of outsiders is the house. Before there is a house, everything is empty talk.

Another friend said that when I first came to Shanghai, I liked the city and the lifestyle here. I once thought I had found the so-called "sense of belonging", but when I was old enough to fall in love and get married, people asked me the most: "Where are you from?" Where is the registered permanent residence? Is there a house in Shanghai? How much is the income? "

Faced with this problem, he is always speechless. Later, he used his parents' savings to pay the down payment for a small house and used his salary to repay the loan on a monthly basis, becoming a real new Shanghainese.

He said that sometimes the house is really everything. If you don't have a house in Shanghai, even if you have a good Shanghai accent, you are familiar with the streets and lanes here and master the local customs here, but you don't have a house and a hukou here, and you have to walk around here often. You always say that you are a foreigner here, so what is your so-called ideal, future and sense of belonging? You are just a passer-by in this city after all.

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From 2065438 to 2006, Shanghai's housing prices soared, and running all the way didn't turn back on the way of price increase. Those ordinary migrant wage earners who have no family financial support will be less and less likely to buy a house in Shanghai on their own wages.

A few years later, there may be only three types of people buying a house in Shanghai: first, local investors from all over the country and even the world; Second, executives with an annual salary of more than one million; The third is the replacement person who has a house in Shanghai.

Nowadays, economic strength is often regarded as an important judging factor of social status, and the house has even become a symbol of the identity of a certain class. Although it may be unreasonable, it seems that this situation cannot be reversed in the short term.

As you are struggling in Shanghai, whether you choose to go or stay is based on everyone's own comprehensive consideration. Different types of new Shanghainese at different stages will depend on their own situation, and it is correct to stay or not.

There is another kind of people, with good quality and strong economic strength, who come to Shanghai to show their value. They don't think that there is no sense of belonging without a house in Shanghai.

Although the house is the focus of ordinary people's asset allocation, it is not the only basis for considering whether to stay or not. The key is whether you find the life you want here.