I have some questions about the current mentality of most people who want to immigrate.

1 Cultural conflict, I am in the United States, and I feel that others are curious and respectful of our culture. It’s funny how everyone looks greedy when it comes to Chinese food. People here don’t judge others in front of others. Even in China, they never say harsh words that are a little bit eye-opening, or words of advice that are offensive to others, but here are all good words. Everyone is friendly but never negates each other, and there are very few Talk deeply about other people's lives (what you tell your wife when you go home is another matter). This is much better than in China. After you come here for a long time, you will only find that people in China do not let others have a good time. This is a social phenomenon. In the United States, interpersonal relationships are very simple. Don't interfere with others and comment on others. Be a nice guy , usually nothing unhappy happens. But after all, we are all human beings, and some of the most basic characteristics are the same. Even unpleasant things cannot all be classified as cultural conflicts, I think. ——Since we have a full education experience, we should have enough confidence and ability to view cultural differences with an open eye. If we don’t accept it at all, then please respect it. It's that simple, but what does it matter whether you personally agree with it or not.

2 Language depends on yourself. IQ will not drop when people reach middle age. Failure to learn is also caused by the pressure of family life and trivial matters. But some people here switch careers to become doctors in their 50s, which means they don’t start studying a new major until they are 50 years old. Some people immigrated when they were in middle school. Now when they are middle-aged, their English is half-baked. I know a Korean who is like this. Some people in Chinatown have been here for 30 years and can only speak yes, ok and thank you.

3 I don’t think you need to think too much about the third point. As long as they come from different cultures, they can get along harmoniously but it is impossible to talk about integration. For example: if an Asian baby is adopted by a white family, then the child will not have any integration problems when he grows up. On the contrary, he or she will not adapt to the Asian values ????and social relationships at all. Moreover, if you really integrate into white society, you will find that it is no different than not integrating. They attach great importance to privacy and independence. From a Chinese perspective, they are simply heartless and meaningless to each other, but this is their culture. One time I went to the supermarket and saw an old woman in an automatic wheelchair. She wanted to reach for an item, but her hands couldn't reach it. I asked her "can I help you", but the old woman refused incoherently and didn't say anything. I was grateful and said to myself "I can do it...I can do it". I stood there and watched her do it. It actually succeeded, and I quite admired her. If you are a Chinese grandma, she will think you are a good child even if you are not asked to help, or you may simply enjoy this kind of care. ...The so-called integration, for example, the Hui and Han people in mainland China now live in the same place. After a long history, some people have begun to integrate with each other, while others still cannot fully accept all of each other's life concepts and habits, but this It's nothing, just live in peace.

So, from this example, the first time Chinese immigrated to the United States was the oppressed Chinese workers a hundred years ago (the number was very small and had little impact on society), and the second time was from mainland China twenty or thirty years ago. There is a huge trend of going abroad. With such a short history, it is too early to talk about integration. It is better to talk about mutual respect. ——To give a small example, Chinese people love to eat live meat and think that live chickens are delicious when they are slaughtered (particularly Southern Cantonese people think so). From the perspective of mainstream white society, privately slaughtering live chickens is simply animal cruelty and a major crime of felony. But now, in the Chinese area, this is not controlled. Some Chinese members protested. The government turned a blind eye out of respect for ethnic cultural traditions. This is called respect. This is probably as far away as the moon from "integration". (My mother was killing chickens in the backyard and was called to the police by her neighbors. The police came and educated her, but did nothing and left.) We didn’t blame the neighbors for being nosy. They were not Asians. In their eyes, the police Killing a living animal with blood is simply terrorism. According to the law, the police would arrest people for this kind of thing, but because they knew the customs of the Tang people, they had nothing to do.

4 This is not a problem within or outside the system. When it comes to discipline and the rule of law, you will know only when you come here that the authority of the law and state machinery will never be allowed to be provoked or blasphemed. This is a relative lack of freedom, even worse than in China. If you don’t comply, you will be punished like shit (haha). But one thing is that while you respect the state apparatus, the government also gives everyone full respect. This is what people who want to go abroad want. The so-called "difficulties after jumping out" are nothing more than the economic aspect. However, once the economy is in trouble, the government shows its strong superiority in providing various guarantees, but this is the weakest point in the country. Of course, illegal immigrants don’t enjoy these things, so don’t mention them. Here’s a suggestion: If you are quite satisfied with your life in China, don’t come here. The new environment, not just the language, but everything is brand new. You are as ignorant as a newborn baby. But people give babies time to grow, but the United States does not. It doesn’t give you time to adapt, so it’s not an easy task, so be careful.

If there is anything particularly bad about it, some people are not used to living here. Their friends and relatives are all in China, and here it is a vast area with few people, which makes it very boring. ——The public security in the African-American ghetto area is poor, the quality of the population is poor, and there are guns, the social security is really not optimistic. Here, you really have to be careful about black people.

——There is also the bragging about some people returning to China. Take it from a normal perspective. When I went home, I met an acquaintance I didn’t know well. He said that a friend of his was studying in the United States and could buy a Ferrari and drive it even though he was working part-time as a dishwasher. I thought to myself, why am I so far away from Ferrari? These people are quite immoral, but they also meet the psychological needs of themselves and some of their relatives and friends in the country. Can this be considered one of our cultural characteristics? It's hard to tell.