Why did the “main force in raising children” change from grandma to grandma? There are three main reasons, which are very realistic

Nowadays, there is a popular saying on the Internet, "Mom gives birth to a child, grandma raises it, and grandparents come to watch it." I don’t know since when, in communities and squares, old people taking care of their children have gradually changed from their children’s grandmothers to their children’s grandmothers.

Around 10 o'clock every day, the small square in the community becomes a gathering place for people walking with their children. However, what is very subtle is that everyone is naturally divided into several small areas, such as grandma's group, grandma's group, There are mothers’ groups, but the most popular among them is the grandma’s group, and Guoguo’s grandma is among them.

Grandma Guoguo is from Sichuan. Her daughter married in the Northeast. She came here after her daughter became pregnant. Although she has never been accustomed to the diet and life, she can go to work peacefully so that the baby she has always held in her hands can , she still endured it. However, Grandma Guoguo was really tired during this period, so she told her daughter that she wanted to return to her hometown.

Later, the daughter specially took her mother-in-law to take care of the child and sent her mother back to Sichuan, hoping that her mother could take a good rest.

But not long after, Guo Guo’s mother had a conflict with her mother-in-law, so Grandma Guo Guo had to pack her luggage again and come to the Northeast to take care of her granddaughter for the sake of her daughter.

In fact, what many grandmothers may say the most is that it is really tiring to take care of children, but they all do it to make their daughters less tired.

In fact, most of the reasons why grandma is disliked cannot escape these factors.

1) Grandma and grandma have different mentality when raising children

Grandma’s mentality when raising children is to take care of her own offspring, and she will dote on her children even more, and sometimes even If you raise your children completely according to your own ideas, over time, you will inevitably have some conflicts with your daughter-in-law.

When a grandma takes care of a child, she shares her daughter’s hard work and is very cautious when raising a child.

2) Grandma taking care of the baby can avoid conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are under the same roof for a long time, it will be caused by some trivial matters in life or the way of raising the baby. There were some minor conflicts.

If not handled properly, it is very easy to cause conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Even if there is a small disagreement between the daughter and the biological mother, it may not rise to the level of conflict, so many mothers hope that the grandma will take care of the baby. The reason is still very practical.

3) The two parties have different original intentions when raising the baby.

But when the grandmother is raising the baby, in addition to loving the baby, she also tries her best to help her daughter do as many things as possible. , if you help your daughter to share more, you will feel more sorry for your daughter.

Bringing up children is a very hard job. Not only do you have to take care of the children's diet, but you also have to ensure their safety.

Babies who are about one year old can already walk, but as the elderly get older, their bodies will sometimes be overwhelmed, so even if there are some problems in the parenting concept, or the care is not so meticulous When this happens, as a parent, you still need to be more understanding and tolerant, and look at this matter with a grateful heart.

The elderly have raised their children. In fact, they have no obligation to take care of the next generation. They can choose not to take care of their children. However, many elderly people choose to take care of their children in order to help their children share the burden, so parents must be more careful. Be grateful more.

Nowadays, many families can only ask the elderly to take care of their children because their parents need to work. Although there are certain objective reasons for this, no matter which elderly person helps take care of the children, parents must be grateful and tolerant. , so that the family can be more harmonious, and a harmonious atmosphere is also very important for the healthy growth of children.

Daily question: Is the grandma taking care of your child?