The real life of immigrating to America

I know a female teacher of Jiaotong University. It is said that she will go to the United States for more than a year of academic exchanges, so she began to make careful plans, such as when to leave, when her husband will apply for a visit visa, when she will get pregnant, and how to give birth to a child and obtain American citizenship before leaving the United States. So as to finally realize immigration smoothly.

Recently, another friend, who is also a university teacher, and his wife want to have more children, asked me to pay close attention to the American immigration policy in detail and also want to realize this kind of immigration.

In fact, in my opinion, they don't have to. Because their lives are relatively stable and rich, and they have their own cultural circle and circle of friends, the large amount of education costs they have invested may not be recovered in the United States. Joy that is not cherished now will become rare and expensive after leaving. Except for material abundance, everything else is slowly shrinking, and it is bound to move forward silently in loneliness. Think about whether this gap can be tolerated. Of course, there is no denying that many people are happy, which of course depends entirely on their personal definition of happiness.

I actually want to ask, what is it like after immigrating to the United States? Did you succeed?

Blue sky, clear water, fresh milk cheese, fine products from all over the world, vegetables, fruits and meat with reasonable and safe prices, and so on. Indeed, these can be found.

There are also cases around me where overseas Chinese have begun to move back. For example, my husband's younger brother has lived in America for 17 years and has two sons. His elderly parents have settled in America and his wife has found a job. According to common sense, everyone will think they have taken root. But the fact is that they resolutely sold their house and went to Suzhou. He said that because he has money, he has prospects and prospects. At present, there are only two elderly people living in the elderly apartments in the United States.

I have a friend who has been in America for eleven years, especially since the 1960s. After a class reunion, his heart began to be unbalanced, because several students in China who are also engaged in technology are relatively rich. Everyone laughed at his psychology, and the so-called superiority of studying abroad was hit.

I read a blog post this morning called "Seven years after I went to the United States alone, my family immigrated to China". Is a woman who resolutely moved her family back to China. The reason is that the stagnant life in the United States has not changed enough to see the end of life and the narrow real world. She said, "After living here for many years, there are always some people who feel more and more anxious. Looking around, there is such a life everywhere, and everyone is busy smiling. There is almost nothing in the news except America. The fact is that most residents don't care about anything beyond five miles from home. As a person who has no obsession with land and cattle, I feel weaker and weaker: I haven't seen this world yet, but there is no tomorrow. " The anti-intellectual tendency of American basic education also makes her worry about her children's future.

Of course, it is undeniable that there are many books to read at all stages of basic education in the United States, and graded reading libraries are endless, and they are not included in the scope of examinations and credits. These are all good things, but not all children love reading and study hard.

What I want to say is that there are always American-style movies, food, drink, and movies that have a strong impact on the senses on TV. In the process of watching, the individual is deeply immersed in the temptation or pleasure of various senses, which makes people excited, excited, afraid, stimulated, want to buy or want. When the program ended, nothing was left. If one day a movie with a certain depth like The Shawshank Redemption and Emma suddenly appears, the excitement and excitement can last for several months. I think this phenomenon is also related to the so-called anti-intellectual tendency in American culture.

Let's talk about the rhythm of life and socialization. Generally speaking, China people only associate with China people. Although there are American friends, most of them are not deep. Maybe it's a cultural barrier, maybe it's other reasons, in short, this is reality. The pace of life in general cities is far less rapid than that in China. Many places stay in a fixed procedure step by step. Many companies even use domestic big-head computers and big-head TVs, which can be said to be a kind of environmental protection, but also a kind of conservatism under the modern rhythm. On the optimistic side, because of the cultural barrier, we always see other people's smiling faces in America. There is no in-depth exchange of ideas, no profound influence on inner friendship, and no big life challenge. I don't know the comparison of rhythm, but if I basically stay in the United States for a while and then return to China, I will be considered in many aspects of my life and feel out of touch.

Of course, there are many places and things to play in the United States, but it is difficult to find friends who can get together, especially mountains and rivers. It is very gratifying to meet other people nodding on a mountain. On the beach, you are basically alone in guarding a large sky, and even a large area of sea and the sky is yours. Walking in the residential areas of some cities, or walking on the streets of small towns, there are almost no people, only the lights on at night prove that there are people. That feeling often reminds me of the uninhabited city where Spirited Away Chihiro started. If your heart is full of rich emotions and ideas, and you want someone to talk to, it will be difficult for you to choose one easily at home. The warmth of popularity that you are used to snuggling or even ignoring is gone. Of course, you can also enrich your spiritual food, but buying books in America is very expensive, but fortunately, there are libraries everywhere, so it is very convenient to borrow books. But for people with poor English, reading these is also an obstacle compared with mother tongue understanding.

I think it is more painful for immigrants to have no soybean milk, fried dough sticks, pancakes, fruits, bean curd, pies, preserved egg porridge and so on in the morning. Usually you can't buy spicy strips, cold noodles, sauce cakes, pickled peanuts, small walnuts and fried melon seeds. Live fish, live chicken, and don't want to eat pork belly. What feels natural at ordinary times becomes extremely rare through the willfulness and unprecedented indifference of the mouth and stomach.

The stampede in Shanghai just happened is shocking and distressing, reminding government agencies to strengthen the construction of public facilities and various emergency measures to prevent such incidents from happening again. The warmth and temptation that is popular in China are basically not available abroad. Because of the same cultural background and life background, the excitement, excitement and anger caused by unexplained pushing and shoving side by side are real, direct and full of vitality, without masks and brain circuits. The hell that some people want to stay away from is the paradise that others long for, and vice versa.

For those who want to live a relatively quiet and prosperous life, America is indeed a paradise. Everything with reasonable price can be bought, and you can even sit directly in a pile of inexpensive famous brands abroad. But at the same time, what we need to face is how to fill the inner loneliness and spiritual desolation. How to fight for a place in this world and stand there firmly.