The cage "silent confession" in the name of love

Silent Confession is an article written by Wu Qishi about an China man in the United States. After reading this book completely, we can see the identity of the author-China people, the author's pen name-Wu Qishi (homophonic without discrimination). Maybe the author told us what she wanted to talk about before the story began.

The whole story is about a little girl who drowned in a lake not far from her home, but what touched me was her contradiction.

James is an immigrant from China. Although he is excellent, he is out of tune with everything. During his internship at Harvard, he was withdrawn and inferior, and could not integrate well into the social environment. Lovely, at this moment, a shining girl Marilyn appeared in his class. They were together and later had three children. But what kind of person is Marilyn? She grew up in a single-parent family. Her mother always taught her how to be an excellent housewife, but she always dreamed of becoming a different and respected female doctor.

Obviously, neither of them has realized their dreams. James went to an unknown university and taught a course about American culture with laughter. He still feels inferior to everything. Marilyn was pregnant before graduation, so she dropped out of school and gave birth to a child, and fell into endless family chores. After her mother died, she suddenly realized that this was not the life she wanted at all. She left to continue her studies, but she failed in the end. When two people have suffered so much in life and choose to compromise, they expect their children not to be like them.

It's a pity that the center of the universe, because she is too sensible and afraid of family breakup, chose to obey. Mother told her to study hard, but she couldn't understand profound books that didn't belong to her age. Her father told her to make more friends, so she had to pretend to hold a microphone and chat with people. So she never got the birthday present she really wanted. More importantly, because of the omnipresent love of her parents, Ness turned her down, leaving Lydia with the last straw.

If Lydia is trapped, then Ness is the one who chooses to escape. Although he was also looking forward to the notice from other schools, he was still very happy when he received the notice from Harvard, because he could finally leave. But Lydia couldn't stand it. She knows that Ness hates Jack, and she hopes to arouse Ness' impulse by associating with Jack. She told Jack to stay away from my sister as before, and finally Lydia failed. Jack not only refused her, but also explained that he didn't hate Ness, but liked her. He only dates Lydia, because she is Ness' sister, which is undoubtedly a great blow to her. She doesn't fit in with anything, and no one tells her.

But in the end, she figured it out. She wanted to tell her mother that she failed in physics and didn't want to be a doctor. She will return the necklace and book to her father and never pretend to call again. She wanted to tell Ness that it didn't matter whether he left or not. It is too late. She can't swim, she can only kick water. At this time, no one can hold her body better.

The problems reflected in this article are not easy for the first generation of immigrants, but also a warning to parents. However, no matter how many such articles and living examples there are in real life, our parents continue to do their best to pay endless love for their children. We can't judge who is right or wrong from the moral level, but we have to admit that sometimes parents' love is like a cage, which irresistibly traps us. Especially when we are old or have experienced an unhappy family, we will have stronger psychological hints about what my parents want me to do and what I should do to make my parents not worry, instead of caring about whether this is something I really like and want to do, and I always feel that I should stop being willful.

No one is an island. In family relations, we should pay more attention to this. Effective communication can solve many problems and troubles. This is also the only place to be thankful for in the article. Because of Lydia's death, everyone fell into different sadness. James and Marilyn had a big fight and expressed their pent-up feelings. Hannah also showed her love for this family and got attention. From this perspective, Lydia did promote family communication, but the price was too high.