Relatives nowadays don’t feel as close as before. Why is this?

I am born in the 1970s. My father is from the countryside and is the eldest son of the family. He has six younger sisters and one younger brother. It is a big family. My grandfather passed away early, leaving my grandmother to take care of a large family. In this era when it was difficult to make a living, my father was considered lucky because he did very well in school and was admitted to a technical secondary school. He struggled to move from his hometown to the city.

After arriving in the city, my younger brothers and sisters were still young, and part of the family's food and drink problems fell on my father who was working. After my father first started working, he would go home whenever he had the opportunity to provide money and help every girl get married. He was like the head of a big family.

My mother is an educated youth in Beijing. She has two parents at home. One brother works in Shanxi and two sisters work in Beijing. The conditions on my mother's side are much better. My grandfather is a veteran of the Red Army and often comes to visit us while working in Beijing.

These are real relatives of my family. In the 1980s and 1990s, as long as we can remember, we have to go back to our hometown every year to celebrate the New Year. My father packed several big boxes with the things his work unit distributed and bought them himself. At that time, their work unit sent car handles. Those who live far away are sent back to their hometowns. I remember that my parents often argued about going home for the New Year, but my mother always gave in and went back to my grandma's house with my father. As the eldest grandchild in the family, it goes without saying that my grandma feels sorry for me. When I go back home, I go crazy and no one cares about me. Therefore, I especially like to go back to my hometown to celebrate the New Year.

My mother later recalled that when she married my father, my fifth aunt, sister-in-law, and brother-in-law were only in their teens. Every time she returned to her hometown from the city, they hid and did not dare to come out. , my mother is the eldest sister-in-law of this family, and she comes from Beijing. My aunt and uncle have been afraid of my mother since they were young. Later, after my father passed away, they often called my mother. Sometimes my mother would often talk to them when she was anxious.

My mother’s situation is a bit special. My grandfather has a bad temper. He doesn’t like children very much and thinks they are too noisy. My mother said that she took me back to my grandmother’s house one time. My grandfather was very unhappy, so my mother took me with her. I came back crying from my grandma’s house, and I haven’t been back for ten years since then. Later, my grandpa may have realized that he was wrong and shouldn’t have treated my mother like this. He came to our city from Beijing to lose face. My mother apologized and asked her to take me to their place. I remember that I was in the fifth grade of elementary school at that time. I had two aunts in Beijing and an uncle in Shanxi. I had an eldest sister in Shanxi, a younger sister in Beijing, and a younger brother. Since my second trip to Beijing, I have become familiar with my younger brothers and sisters. I have never met my eldest sister from Shanxi, and my uncle has had troubles with my grandfather and has not been back to Beijing for more than ten years.

It can be said that my aunt and uncle from my hometown have been close friends since childhood. But these years have passed, and my aunt is over 70 and four generations live together. The children of my aunts are getting married and starting families one after another. , some interactions are much less. I went back to my hometown to see my grandma, and stayed at my uncle's house for a day. I didn't feel that close to my younger brothers and sisters, but I had a good relationship with my uncle.

Not to mention my mother's side. My second aunt's daughter married in Singapore, and the old couple immigrated there. They rarely return to Beijing, and we can't talk about seeing each other. Because my aunt's family was afraid that we would divide my grandfather's inheritance, they almost cut off all contact with my mother. When my mother became angry, she never went to Beijing again after my grandfather passed away.

Having said so much, I actually miss my childhood. Although we were all poor, we all missed each other and were grateful to each other. The family gathered around the table, nibbling Wowotou and eating pickles. Still so lively.

Suppose that some of your relatives are not as good as they used to be. There is no need to be suspicious or guess. Human thoughts are disturbed by such trivial matters, and some things are completely imaginary.

You should concentrate on living your own life, especially enriching yourself, building yourself up, and constantly trying to improve your abilities. When you make achievements, are you used to a life full of guests?