Talking about children's report cards

At the end of the school year, my son took home his school report card, and his grades were probably above average in the class, and his grades in all subjects were slightly higher than last semester. ? At dinner, I asked him, "The first day, give yourself a score. From 1 to 10, 1 is the least satisfied and 10 is the most satisfied. How many points do you give yourself? "

The son thought for a moment and said, "Let's score 10."

I paused: "Why?"

Answer: "Because I am happy to go to school every day, and I have made many new friends. The happiest thing is that I entered the basketball team and the football team through heavy selection! "

I asked again, "Are you satisfied with your academic performance?"

A: "Well, I am very satisfied!"

Then he asked, "Don't you want to improve your score a little?"

A: "I don't want to!"

"Why?"

"Because I want to get better grades, I have to spend more time and energy on my study. I don't think it's worth it I would rather spend that time on what I want to do. "

The son's thoughts may represent the views of most boys of this age on the report card. As a parent, I still hope that his studies can be more solid, especially in mathematics and Chinese. Now that he has laid a good foundation, it won't be too difficult to come to high school.

As for the academic performance on the report card, although the school does not rank, it will list the median of the class to let parents know the position of their children in the class. In the past, when we went to school in China, we used to determine our grades by exam results, but junior high schools in Canada generally didn't have mid-term and final exams, so in the total academic year score of the report card, the usual grading assignments (summative) and projects accounted for a large proportion. In this grading system, scores not only reflect the test results of students' mastery of subject knowledge, but also give a fair evaluation of students' efforts and thoughts in their homework.

Scores do not represent abilities. In Ontario's unified report card, teachers are also required to grade students' six study habits and learning ability respectively, and put the evaluation results on the first page of the report card. The reason why Ontario pays special attention to the cultivation of study habits and abilities is that these soft abilities, which have nothing to do with IQ, reflect children's attitudes and methods towards learning and can better reflect a child's comprehensive quality than academic performance. These six items are: 1. Responsibility; 2. organization; 3. Work independently; 4. Teamwork; 5. Subjective initiative; 6. Self-management. These six items are not graded, and each student is rated by four grades, E- excellent, G- good, S- satisfactory, and N- need to be improved, that is, excellent, good, satisfied and hardworking. Among them, responsibility, organizational planning, teamwork and self-management ability are the basic requirements of a qualified student. Independent work and subjective initiative are the watershed between qualified students and excellent students.

As for the specific content of each index, every teacher has a different understanding. I chose one that I agree with most and share it with you.

do one's duty

Among the various responsibilities listed above, I personally value the ability to finish my homework in time and seriously, and make persistent efforts in the face of complex tasks. In the seventh grade, there is not much homework, but occasionally there are some projects. If the son likes to play, he can play first, and the projects assigned by the teacher are always put off until the end. In the first semester, my son almost paid a heavy price for the delay. It was not until the night before the deadline that he started a project in science class. He was so upset that he barely finished writing at 1: 30 in the morning. I overslept the next day. I didn't call him, so I missed the second selection of the school basketball team early in the morning. Basketball is my son's favorite, and my frustration and chagrin can be imagined. Fortunately, in the first round of 100 selection, the coach noticed him and made an exception and added him to the list of the third round selection. Even so, once you fall, you will gain wisdom. After this time, my son will never delay his homework again. There is no way to impose a person's sense of responsibility on others, so parents should strengthen their hearts so that their children can watch when they make mistakes without helping to correct them. Only from the painful lessons brought by lack of responsibility can we learn to enhance our sense of responsibility. After all, children are responsible for their own lives. If we can't help them clear the obstacles and give them the opportunity to practice being responsible for themselves, how can we trust them to take control of their own lives independently in the future?

Organizational planning ability

This is mainly to examine students' study habits. Don't start doing things as soon as you get the task, but first investigate the plan and then implement it in an orderly manner on the basis of the plan. In the process of implementation, it is necessary to achieve mastery through a comprehensive study and make effective use of all resources and existing tools. All the indicators in the above table reflect a student's thinking and processing ability. I have a one-sided view: computer games, which are generally regarded as "a scourge" by parents, are actually conducive to cultivating children's skills. Playing computer games, looking up strategies and making plans, in the process of playing games, we need to use the resources and tools of the game environment to the extreme. For example, the game my son is playing recently, NBA 2K 16, is not only a simulation of the NBA game, but also the role of the club owner. It is necessary to sign players, negotiate contracts with coaches, manage the transfer of players, and handle the relationship with investors and the media. This game that simulates the real world is very entertaining. I often see my son locked himself in his room, planning the development and deployment of his team on paper, and wondering how to make a profit by buying and selling players. Although I think it is beneficial for children to play computer games, they are addictive. If you can't control the time of playing games, you'd better not play.

Team cooperation ability

Teamwork ability is related to children's social ability. In a collective environment, we should keep an open mind and accept different opinions and suggestions. In a team project, no matter whether we are leading or being led, we can do our duty and reach a consistent goal with the team members. All the above are the basic requirements for cooperation. It needs to be pointed out separately that the penultimate item in the above table is that you can get along well with peers and adults. Many children don't like or don't know how to get along with adults, some because they regard adults as authorities and stay away from adults because of fear; Some children also regard adults as spokesmen of rules and stereotypes to avoid them, and think that getting along with adults is a constraint and reluctance to themselves; There are also children who, with their own temperament, feel that there is nothing to talk about with adults, and they are not rare to be close to adults. Learning to get along with adults on an equal footing is a very important ability. Only by benefiting from the experience and wisdom of adults can we strive for a higher starting point in the future. Even a snobbish genius like elon musk, who just arrived in Canada in the 1990s, is just a penniless freshman. Together with his cousin, he called some people from all walks of life who they wanted to meet directly and invited them to lunch. Although most of them were rejected, some people accepted their requests, and he was able to meet some industry leaders and talk with them about his dream of space immigration. These experiences are of great significance to his later career. The summer vacation has already begun. When taking children to visit relatives and friends, encourage children to talk with adults actively, don't just stare at mobile phones, and consciously cultivate children's ability to get along with adults. The starting point of conversation between people is something with common interests. Fundamentally speaking, it is to guide children to become interesting people, so that no matter who they are, they can get along happily.

Self management ability

Self-management does not mean listening carefully in class, but being able to set goals, make plans to achieve them, and complete them step by step. In this process, we can improve our own shortcomings by self-evaluation and drawing on other people's suggestions. Being able to manage your own children is the child that worries your parents. How to cultivate the ability of self-management? The Education Commission of Ontario issued a red-headed document "Growing Success" a few years ago, the core idea of which is to cultivate students' self-management ability. If the teacher understands the spirit of "growing up successfully", then the teaching process will naturally focus on cultivating this ability. Outside school, children need to have a long-term hobby, challenge themselves and cultivate their self-management ability in the process of constantly improving their skills. Research shows that the success of a person's career has little to do with IQ, EQ and other factors. The only thing that matters is self-management. That is, children with strong self-management ability will not be bad in their studies and careers in the future. ?

The above four items are what I think a qualified student should have when he graduates from middle school, and the following two items are the indicators to examine an excellent student.

Ability to work independently

The content of independent working ability covers responsibility, self-management and organizational planning. To work independently, these three abilities are the foundation. In addition, don't give up when encountering setbacks, and manage your time effectively. Western parents pay more attention to their children's sports than to their studies. Because in the process of cultivating children's sports expertise, these two abilities will pay for the products. Sports competition is real and cruel, and it is an all-round competition of talent, diligence and psychological quality. Every defeat in the arena has inspired the motivation to work harder. Last summer, I met a boy the same age as my son in Louisville. This boy looks like a good material for playing basketball, and his arms are almost knee-length. After chatting, I found that his cousin was D 'Angelo Russell, who was second in the NBA draft last year and was famous for his arm length. Seeing a gifted child with my own eyes made my mother, a gifted child, very discouraged. But the gifted children themselves disagreed and said, "So what? This only means that I must work harder! " (So what? It just means that I need to work harder "). As for time management, sports competitions need to invest a lot of time. In the case of intensive training every day and mostly playing outside on weekends, you have very little time at your disposal. In this limited time, it is a great challenge and exercise for children to finish their homework and find time to play. Although there are many ways to cultivate children's ability to work independently, it may be the most direct and effective to cultivate a competitive sports specialty, because in addition, children have another hobby that can nourish life.

subjective initiative

Children with strong subjective initiative are studious and thoughtful, can't reach the goals set by teachers or parents, and can explore persistently according to their own interests. I recently read the biography of elon musk. When he was in middle school in South Africa, he was a very humble child in his class with average grades. Because he concentrated his time and energy on his fields of interest, physics and computers, and basically ignored other subjects. A person's energy is limited, and those who want to practice unique skills will not be proficient in all the eighteen martial arts. Therefore, encouraging children to exert their subjective initiative is also respecting their right to say "no" to things that they are not interested in. Although ordinary children are not as talented as elon musk, the ultimate goal of education is to mobilize children's subjective initiative. As parents, there is no better way to awaken children's inner drive than to respect their interests and give them proper guidance. Speaking of which, back to the beginning, my son's self-evaluation of his first grade is perfect, and I think I should agree with him.